Many people who think that they have no direction in their lives will go to a life coach for assistance. In order to help you achieve your goals and plans for the future, a life coach can help you get your life back on track. Quality life coaches guide you to realize what you are capable of and boost your confidence to allow you to perform to the best of your abilities.
If you are doubtful of the abilities of the life coach's services, these questions and answers will help you decide if you will actually benefit.
What is a life coach program?
You will begin a partnership with your trained professional. The trainer will do all he or she can to assist you in reaching your true potential. While you may think this sounds similar to a mentor, a life coach is different in the fact that he or she takes a more direct approach to providing different resources. A life coach will work with you to find your personal vision of your future, and the life goals leading that vision. Together, you will try to identify barriers hindering you from reaching your personal vision. You will then brainstorm ways to turn those obstacles into positive aspects for your life.
How does a standard counselor differ from a life coach?
There is one aspect that sets life coaches apart from normal counselors. Counselors will examine a client's past to discover how it affects the client's present and future. Concerned only with the present and future, a life coach will help you change the present to create your future. They will help you change things today that will help you have the future of your dreams.
Life coaches have gone through training and are professional service providers, however they are not always seen as a legitimate life service providers amongst the insurance companies since they aren't licensed mental health providers.
How long is a typical program with a life coach?
Most life coaching programs start out with a three-month commitment. Most of the time, it takes at least three months for your life coach to get in tune with your personal vision and your goals so they can asses your case. It also takes at least this long to demonstrate the effectiveness of the life coach program. In the majority of cases, you will be asked to make a longer commitment, depending on your particular situation. For people with more intricate and delicate issues, a life coach program will vary in the amount of time needed to reach the program's goals.
Why might someone want to use the services of a life coach?
A life coach is specially trained to deal with obstacles and other aspects that can help people improve their life. They often have knowledge that other people do not have which helps them to give directed advice for many different subject areas. A life coach also provides other benefits to people who are trying to reach goals. With encouragement and motivation, they can help accelerate your results. Also, they can give you ways to make choices and get your life in balance. Life coaches have a way of instilling confidence into their clients so they can continue to make logical decisions even after the partnership has ended.
I know what my goals are. Do I still need a life coach?
Life coaches don't only help you realize what your goals are. They also help you realize things that might stand in your way of achieving those goals. They continue to supply their clients with encouragement and alternative ideas to overcome their obstacles. A life coach also provides support that the client may not be getting from their family or friends. Even if they do, a life coach is specially trained to give specific types of encouragement that helps their client get motivated. The motivated they get, the closer they come to reaching their goals and realizing their personal vision.
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About the Author: Liz Quillnan heard Terri Cadiente on her Strong Woman Hiding radio show talk about how a Los Angeles professional life coach can help achieve personal fullfillment. She thoroughly researched the life coaching field and highly recommends Terri's services whether it is as a Los Angeles motivational speaker, or a personal development program.
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
Life Coach Counseling: Becoming More Popular
Life coach counseling has become one of the fastest growing fields for those who are skilled at motivating others and who can successfully help clients with goal setting needs. A vast array of training programs for life coaching has been created and the demand for trained coaches is high both in industry and business as well as for individuals. Starting in the 1960s, motivational support and a the search for direction in life became a focus for many people. This focus stemmed from different psychological theories and methods, not to mention education and business methods that had been around for some time. A natural course for this path of self improvement to take is that life counseling, as it is based on an individual's efforts to do better. By learning how to apply new skills, both personally and in your business life, life coach counseling helps you bring out the "you" that may have been held back for so long. You will learn how to take advantage of life's great opportunities, without crossing the boundaries of what is realistic for you. The best life coaches are usually long term executives or other seasoned professionals who have been trained, either in courses or by their past experiences, to work effectively with clients. They help in identifying strong points and weak points, setting and prioritizing aims for the future, and coming up with practical approaches to achieve those aims. They may work at coaching centers or in offices, or may offer their services on a freelance basis, and they may do their counseling in person, online, or even by phone. Life coaching is usually thought of as a one-on-one activity, but for many, group seminars are more affordable and can be quite useful. This method may be accessible to more people than the individual type of coaching. Large and small corporations may offer some of life coaching as a perk of employment at little or no cost. This is of great benefit to employees on a personal level, but can also result in better productivity and a better work climate. Life coaching clearly can benefit an individual or company because of its efficiency and clarity. Because of this, the coach can make it a satisfying and well paying career choice. Often older executives and career professionals can share important life lessons but lately it is common for someone to train specifically to be a life coach. A life coach can improve your life in all areas, from your relationships with your family and friends to your business success. A competent coach can help you feel calm and confident in relation to all aspects of your life. Therefore, it is extremely important to research and check the references of any life coach you are considering working with.
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Empowerment Changes Your Life Forever
Perhaps you are asking, “What is personal empowerment?”
Put in simplistic terms, empowerment is freeing yourself from limitations or living a life of misery and taking full responsibility for every thing that is in your life. It’s about quitting making excuses for things that aren’t going right in your life and DOING something about changing them! It’s about choices; the choices that you make on a daily basis regarding all aspects of your life. It’s about being in control of what you allow in your life; who you associate with, what you read, what you watch on television and at the movies, who your mentors are, what music you listen to, what you eat, etc. Why are these choices so important to empowerment … you literally ARE your choices.
A general definition: empowerment is a process that helps people gain control over their own lives.
Therefore, empowerment is about learning there are choices, in which you have the right to be the healthiest and happiest person you can be in this now. The past is the past and it cannot be changed, therefore the focus is placed upon what you can do in this very moment. What choices you can make to empower yourself NOW. As you exercise your choices and take responsibility and action, you will gain increased control over your life. I had a million excuses for everything crummy in my life. I even blamed my addictions to cigarettes, drugs and alcohol on other people. I blamed everyone for everything because that enabled me to justify in my own mind that it was ok. I was slowly killing myself to avoid having to face my problems, the exact problems that I was creating by the choices that I was making. It’s a vicious cycle, but empowerment can change it!
Let’s take a look at a list of empowerment key words:
• Self-Mastery
• Personal Development
• Positive Thinking
• Mind Power
• Self Improvement
• Spiritual Growth
• Enlightenment
• Responsibility
• Law of Attraction
• Self-Power
• Self-Acceptance
• Self-Reliance
• Self-Esteem
• Self-Discovery
• Self-Strength
• Self-Love
• Self-Confidence
• Self-Control
• Own Choice
• Independence
• Own Decision Making
• Being Free
• Awakening
• Capability
• Choices
• Power Into Action
This is a small list but as you can see it’s a list that outlines qualities that cannot be found outside of ourself because empowerment comes from within. I was looking outside of myself. That is where I went wrong and were millions of others are going wrong too. When we activate this power within ourselves we have the strength and courage to make choices and act on issues that we define as important. These issues can relate to any and all areas of our life – relationship, financial, personal, spiritual and physical. It’s very important to understand that empowerment is a multi-dimensional process which includes all levels of our being: mental, emotional, physical and spiritual and each of these areas must be brought into balance.
The empowerment process may be facilitated and supported through outside sources such as utilizing the assistance of a person specializing in life coaching, learning energy healing and mind techniques, attending self-help groups and seminars, home study programs, reading books, etc. It is very important that these programs teach you and give you the skills on how to do these things independently for yourself after the program has been completed. You are looking for independence not co-dependency within the system because empowerment is a process that develops as we work through it. It is impossible to dabble in empowerment expecting life changing results. It must become a path, journey, life style or way of life for complete liberation of all pain and suffering.
I have a “rags to riches” true life story. I learnt how to overcome poverty, addictions and abuse to create the life that I once thought was completely impossible for me to have. I have beaten the odds because I dared to believe and listen ONLY TO MYSELF, which IS the power within! Guess what I have accomplished since I learnt the secret of self-mastery and empowerment? I’m now a successful entrepreneur, a published writer, an international life coach, energy healer and empowerment specialist. Not too bad for a once was “high-school dropout, sexually and physically abused, druggie, alcoholic, welfare case” huh? That’s what empowerment is! It’s about making choices that improve the quality of your life.
With empowerment comes wisdom and by wisdom I do not mean knowledge of facts so much as the ability to perceive and understand facts, and to judge soundly and act right in all matters relating to life. Wisdom is the power to perceive truth, and the ability to make the best use of the knowledge of truth.
With wisdom comes poise, and the power to think right, to control and guide your thoughts, and to avoid the difficulties which come from wrong thinking. With wisdom you will be able to select the right courses for your particular needs, and to guide yourself in all ways as to secure the best results.
The beauty of empowerment is the ripple effect. Through personal empowerment you have the potential through leading by example to teach those around you to empower themselves as well! You not only manage to change yourself but also contribute to changing the lives of your children, family and friends. You have the ability to break the chain of poverty, addictions, abuse and suffering within your own family. You are able to show them that where you once were powerless you were able to gain full control over your life improving your situation by taking full responsibility and action over your own mastery. This will show them that it can be done, because YOU did it! You lead by example and your children are only learning and repeating what you teach them. Lead them into empowerment.
So what can be more empowering than gaining control over self? I invite you to start today, right NOW! Send an email to thelatestbuzz@getresponse.com to start receiving a FREE Self Improvement Gift Pacakge.
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About the Author: Lisa Whatley is an International Energy Healer, Empowerment Specialist, Spiritual Life Coach and Published Writer specializing in personal transformation growth. She has helped people all over the world achieve happier, healthier more prosperous and fulfilling lives. www.InfinityLightHealing.com
Put in simplistic terms, empowerment is freeing yourself from limitations or living a life of misery and taking full responsibility for every thing that is in your life. It’s about quitting making excuses for things that aren’t going right in your life and DOING something about changing them! It’s about choices; the choices that you make on a daily basis regarding all aspects of your life. It’s about being in control of what you allow in your life; who you associate with, what you read, what you watch on television and at the movies, who your mentors are, what music you listen to, what you eat, etc. Why are these choices so important to empowerment … you literally ARE your choices.
A general definition: empowerment is a process that helps people gain control over their own lives.
Therefore, empowerment is about learning there are choices, in which you have the right to be the healthiest and happiest person you can be in this now. The past is the past and it cannot be changed, therefore the focus is placed upon what you can do in this very moment. What choices you can make to empower yourself NOW. As you exercise your choices and take responsibility and action, you will gain increased control over your life. I had a million excuses for everything crummy in my life. I even blamed my addictions to cigarettes, drugs and alcohol on other people. I blamed everyone for everything because that enabled me to justify in my own mind that it was ok. I was slowly killing myself to avoid having to face my problems, the exact problems that I was creating by the choices that I was making. It’s a vicious cycle, but empowerment can change it!
Let’s take a look at a list of empowerment key words:
• Self-Mastery
• Personal Development
• Positive Thinking
• Mind Power
• Self Improvement
• Spiritual Growth
• Enlightenment
• Responsibility
• Law of Attraction
• Self-Power
• Self-Acceptance
• Self-Reliance
• Self-Esteem
• Self-Discovery
• Self-Strength
• Self-Love
• Self-Confidence
• Self-Control
• Own Choice
• Independence
• Own Decision Making
• Being Free
• Awakening
• Capability
• Choices
• Power Into Action
This is a small list but as you can see it’s a list that outlines qualities that cannot be found outside of ourself because empowerment comes from within. I was looking outside of myself. That is where I went wrong and were millions of others are going wrong too. When we activate this power within ourselves we have the strength and courage to make choices and act on issues that we define as important. These issues can relate to any and all areas of our life – relationship, financial, personal, spiritual and physical. It’s very important to understand that empowerment is a multi-dimensional process which includes all levels of our being: mental, emotional, physical and spiritual and each of these areas must be brought into balance.
The empowerment process may be facilitated and supported through outside sources such as utilizing the assistance of a person specializing in life coaching, learning energy healing and mind techniques, attending self-help groups and seminars, home study programs, reading books, etc. It is very important that these programs teach you and give you the skills on how to do these things independently for yourself after the program has been completed. You are looking for independence not co-dependency within the system because empowerment is a process that develops as we work through it. It is impossible to dabble in empowerment expecting life changing results. It must become a path, journey, life style or way of life for complete liberation of all pain and suffering.
I have a “rags to riches” true life story. I learnt how to overcome poverty, addictions and abuse to create the life that I once thought was completely impossible for me to have. I have beaten the odds because I dared to believe and listen ONLY TO MYSELF, which IS the power within! Guess what I have accomplished since I learnt the secret of self-mastery and empowerment? I’m now a successful entrepreneur, a published writer, an international life coach, energy healer and empowerment specialist. Not too bad for a once was “high-school dropout, sexually and physically abused, druggie, alcoholic, welfare case” huh? That’s what empowerment is! It’s about making choices that improve the quality of your life.
With empowerment comes wisdom and by wisdom I do not mean knowledge of facts so much as the ability to perceive and understand facts, and to judge soundly and act right in all matters relating to life. Wisdom is the power to perceive truth, and the ability to make the best use of the knowledge of truth.
With wisdom comes poise, and the power to think right, to control and guide your thoughts, and to avoid the difficulties which come from wrong thinking. With wisdom you will be able to select the right courses for your particular needs, and to guide yourself in all ways as to secure the best results.
The beauty of empowerment is the ripple effect. Through personal empowerment you have the potential through leading by example to teach those around you to empower themselves as well! You not only manage to change yourself but also contribute to changing the lives of your children, family and friends. You have the ability to break the chain of poverty, addictions, abuse and suffering within your own family. You are able to show them that where you once were powerless you were able to gain full control over your life improving your situation by taking full responsibility and action over your own mastery. This will show them that it can be done, because YOU did it! You lead by example and your children are only learning and repeating what you teach them. Lead them into empowerment.
So what can be more empowering than gaining control over self? I invite you to start today, right NOW! Send an email to thelatestbuzz@getresponse.com to start receiving a FREE Self Improvement Gift Pacakge.
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About the Author: Lisa Whatley is an International Energy Healer, Empowerment Specialist, Spiritual Life Coach and Published Writer specializing in personal transformation growth. She has helped people all over the world achieve happier, healthier more prosperous and fulfilling lives. www.InfinityLightHealing.com
Sunday, March 9, 2008
Horseback Riding with Supreme Self Confidence
There was an urgent knock on the back door. A desperate voice wanted to know: Could I come and have a look at David? He fell of Duke during the hunt that morning at a 6 ft fence and landed head first. David, not Duke. David was all for jumping the fence, Duke was not. Now David was asking the same question over and over again, and can’t quite remember what had happened.
Horseback riding is a dangerous sport. Accidents happen. Injuries can be physical as well as psychological. Often “small” physical injuries are complicated by deep mental wounds. I am not referring to David’s concussion here, but to a less visible but as damaging injury, one that can take years to heal.
We have all suffered from it, at one time or another. Not always horse-related either.
Acute and/or chronic confidence failure.
Maybe you had a nasty fall, like David. Or maybe you were bitten, kicked or nonchalantly rubbed off against a tree trunk. Maybe a thoughtless horse stood on your foot. Maybe you are a novice rider and the distance to the ground is just too much for you to feel comfortable in any other gait than walk. Maybe you worked really hard, both of you, and on competition day everything that could possibly go wrong, did. Maybe you just can’t get through to your horse, or maybe your horse just can’t get through to you. Maybe you are getting older, and worried about falling and breaking more vulnerable bones.
Maybe you are now reluctant to handle your horse at all.
Mental fitness is as important as physical fitness to all riders, from novice to advanced competitor…even if you prefer to stick to hacking out once or twice a week. You will be able to handle all eventualities much more efficiently if you are physically as well as mentally fit (and that includes unexpected, painful blows to that highly sensitive ego!)
What does mental training and fitness for horse riders involve? David found the Seven Secrets of Supremely Self-Confident Riders e-course invaluable. “Seven days after my horrendous fall, I had my rebuilt my shattered self-confidence and had learned a few very valuable lessons along the way. I am now more aware of myself (mind and body), and more aware of my horse and my surroundings. The mental work-outs In “7 Secrets e-course” are spot on. I discovered how to conquer my fear without taking any risks.”
There are many effective techniques to achieve the latter: neuro-linguistic programming, self-hypnosis, equestrian life coaching, psychotherapy and the new kid on the block: equine-assisted experiential learning.
Luckily, David’s concussion was very mild, and under careful observation soon subsided. He insisted on subscribing to our newsletter ”so I can get a monthly confidence boost”. I went to see Duke too late that afternoon in his stable. He was happily munching away on his dinner, having no recollection of anything untoward happening. My enigmatic Friesians could teach him a thing or two about good manners.
Just found a sensational Mexican Hot Chocolate recipe. Time for a cup, I think…
The Seven Secrets of Supremely Self-Confident Riders is a 7-day e-course written exclusively for horseback riders by an experienced medical doctor and NLP practitioner- available from www.equestrian-life-coaching.com/ Also available is three full length, full colour masters-courses, online equestrian life coaching, the Confidential Letters to Lady Belle e-book, equine-assisted experiential learning and a free e-book, e-course, newsletter and Lady Belle’s blog.
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About the Author: Dr Margarethe de Clermont is a medical doctor, a certified NLP practitioner, an EAGALA certified practitioner and a medical hypnotherapist
Horseback riding is a dangerous sport. Accidents happen. Injuries can be physical as well as psychological. Often “small” physical injuries are complicated by deep mental wounds. I am not referring to David’s concussion here, but to a less visible but as damaging injury, one that can take years to heal.
We have all suffered from it, at one time or another. Not always horse-related either.
Acute and/or chronic confidence failure.
Maybe you had a nasty fall, like David. Or maybe you were bitten, kicked or nonchalantly rubbed off against a tree trunk. Maybe a thoughtless horse stood on your foot. Maybe you are a novice rider and the distance to the ground is just too much for you to feel comfortable in any other gait than walk. Maybe you worked really hard, both of you, and on competition day everything that could possibly go wrong, did. Maybe you just can’t get through to your horse, or maybe your horse just can’t get through to you. Maybe you are getting older, and worried about falling and breaking more vulnerable bones.
Maybe you are now reluctant to handle your horse at all.
Mental fitness is as important as physical fitness to all riders, from novice to advanced competitor…even if you prefer to stick to hacking out once or twice a week. You will be able to handle all eventualities much more efficiently if you are physically as well as mentally fit (and that includes unexpected, painful blows to that highly sensitive ego!)
What does mental training and fitness for horse riders involve? David found the Seven Secrets of Supremely Self-Confident Riders e-course invaluable. “Seven days after my horrendous fall, I had my rebuilt my shattered self-confidence and had learned a few very valuable lessons along the way. I am now more aware of myself (mind and body), and more aware of my horse and my surroundings. The mental work-outs In “7 Secrets e-course” are spot on. I discovered how to conquer my fear without taking any risks.”
There are many effective techniques to achieve the latter: neuro-linguistic programming, self-hypnosis, equestrian life coaching, psychotherapy and the new kid on the block: equine-assisted experiential learning.
Luckily, David’s concussion was very mild, and under careful observation soon subsided. He insisted on subscribing to our newsletter ”so I can get a monthly confidence boost”. I went to see Duke too late that afternoon in his stable. He was happily munching away on his dinner, having no recollection of anything untoward happening. My enigmatic Friesians could teach him a thing or two about good manners.
Just found a sensational Mexican Hot Chocolate recipe. Time for a cup, I think…
The Seven Secrets of Supremely Self-Confident Riders is a 7-day e-course written exclusively for horseback riders by an experienced medical doctor and NLP practitioner- available from www.equestrian-life-coaching.com/ Also available is three full length, full colour masters-courses, online equestrian life coaching, the Confidential Letters to Lady Belle e-book, equine-assisted experiential learning and a free e-book, e-course, newsletter and Lady Belle’s blog.
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About the Author: Dr Margarethe de Clermont is a medical doctor, a certified NLP practitioner, an EAGALA certified practitioner and a medical hypnotherapist
How Business Coaching Can Increase Your Sales
"People used to say to me: 'You know Katie, not everything in life is going to be some happy experience.' Now I say to them: "Why not?" So says 29 year old Katie Saffert, wedding planner and owner of ”Inspired Events", an Orange County-based event planning company that has skyrocketed to success in less than a year.
With her warm, personal style and phenomenal talent, Katie and her business are both flourishing. In nine months, she's gone from having a handful of clients consisting of friends and coworkers to booking major events with celebrities. After throwing a huge event for a private Pearl Jam concert, Ms. Saffert booked a high profile wedding for the daughter of a pro golfer. Out of state clients are flying her in to plan their events. And the business is poised to catapult itself once more: starting in January, Inspired Events will be featured and promoted in Ceremony Magazine, a top publication for the Southern California Bridal Industry. How did she get so far so fast? According to Katie, it took a leap of faith, the courage to finally do what she loved, and the help of life coach and fellow business owner, Eli Davidson.
According to Katie, Eli's combination of stellar business advice and personal coaching has transformed her business. "For a long time, I lived my entire life focused on other people." says Katie. "That was the major thing working with Eli. She had me focus on me, what I wanted, and where I wanted to go without listening to all these other outside influences. It changes your life completely".
And Katie had been ready for a change. "I was working at a corporate job for five years and was absolutely miserable", she recalls. Her amazing energy, focus, and commitment to quality were talents benefiting everyone but herself. She loved planning events at her job, but the limitations within the corporate structure were hard to ignore. "You don't get recognition." she explains. “It was for someone else to take the credit....and obviously you have a lot of people above you saying, 'This is our idea. This is what we want to do with it.' “Katie knew she was keeping her own inner hopes in check.”I got caught up in the corporate world ethic that says: 'This is what you do when you get out of college. You get a job, you work 8 to 5. You work up a ladder." The fact that she didn't know where the ladder was going haunted her. "I felt I was being held back..." she admits, "...and I think it was my own self holding me back."
And then on her birthday last year, Katie marched into her office and quit. ("It was one of the best days of my life", she laughs.) She already knew her dream was to have an event planning business; "My mother was an events coordinator." says Katie, "She always did the big Junior League charity events and Debutante balls. Our holidays are more outdone than anything you can imagine. It was always something I loved". Fresh out of her cooperate job and only a few weeks into starting her company; Katie accompanied a friend to young business women's luncheon. Fate sat her right next to the guest speaker, Eli Davidson. Eli's vivacious energy and business savvy sparked inspiration. When Katie learned that Davidson was a Business Coach, she decided to follow her heart. "I thought, well, maybe this is a sign," says Katie. She joined up with Eli's group coaching sessions the very next day.
After her first few sessions with Eli, it became clear to Katie that that financial success would call for a change within. Katie remembers: "When we first started together, Eli asked me to name three things that I liked about myself and I couldn't name one. “Not that Katie didn't know her worth she just didn't know she had the right to claim it. "I didn't feel comfortable even acknowledging those things. I thought maybe I would seem arrogant, says Katie. But Eli got me to stop that...and my whole outlook changed."
Along with getting Katie to claim her value in all aspects, Eli's coaching offered her concrete strategies and tools for financial success. Katie's first assignment was her toughest: envisioning herself already succeeding in her new career. She was to write what Eli called a 'Success Script. In the exercise, Katie was to write about herself as if she had actually already achieved her highest career goals. And she was to describe it as vividly and boldly as possible. "It was so scary for me in the beginning.” says Katie. “I didn't want to do it. Because writing these things down makes it real." But courage and determination prevailed. And write it she did. As soon as she acknowledged what she wanted, the results were immediate. Within three weeks, she booked the private Pearl Jam concert.
Even more impressive was the fact that it was the first major event she had done single-handedly. "I'd done so many events before" says Katie, "but I always had a whole team surrounding me. I thought, this is amazing. And I did really well at it. “After that, people started calling out of the blue. Working with Eli, Katie watched her confidence and her business grow together. "It was about acknowledging who I am. I didn't go after anyone. I just put it out there and said: 'Hey, I'm starting a business. Here's my business card'.
Katie also learned effective brainstorming techniques with Eli. Whether the day was about calling prospective clients or presenting major business proposals, Katie now had the answers to any challenge. "Eli would have me come up with three solutions. They could be bad, good, off the wall or realistic. The point was getting into the habit of creating solutions for yourself."
The coaching also helped Katie to congratulate herself more and criticize herself less. "I expect a lot of myself", say Katie. She was well aware she was entering a business full of experts in the field. "I thought that I should be where these people are who had been doing this for twenty years." Eli helped Katie to recognize that she had already done brilliantly in a short amount of time.
She also showed Katie how to create reasonable and achievable goals for her business on a weekly basis. As a result, Katie’s now working with vendors she had always admired and respected, and she's created a career she had only dreamed about. Along with being incredibly grateful for success, it’s clear that Katie truly believes and knows that she deserves it. "I put my mind to something; I know I'll be able to do it.” Now, she's regularly telling herself “You did such a great job, you worked for it. Go congratulate yourself for it."
Would she recommend life coaching for other business owners? Katie is emphatic. "I would tell anyone to go to Eli Davidson for coaching. She gave me actual steps for success every single week." And it goes even further than her career. Katie knows that "it's been completely life changing.”
Check out Inspired Events in the January Edition of Ceremony Magazine. Inspired events can be found online for booking at www.inspiredeventsinc.com
Eli Davison is an internationally recognized expert on empowerment. To sign up for coaching, go to www.elidavidson.com
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About the Author: Professional speaker, business coach and author, Eli Davidson, has helped millions of busy executives to 'grab the wheel' of their careers. Her coaching tips reach over 6 million travelers; she has appeared regularly on national TV and radio. Read and download the first chapter of her runaway hit book, Funky to Fabulous for free at Funky to Fabulous. Ask Eli your career question at Eli Davidson
With her warm, personal style and phenomenal talent, Katie and her business are both flourishing. In nine months, she's gone from having a handful of clients consisting of friends and coworkers to booking major events with celebrities. After throwing a huge event for a private Pearl Jam concert, Ms. Saffert booked a high profile wedding for the daughter of a pro golfer. Out of state clients are flying her in to plan their events. And the business is poised to catapult itself once more: starting in January, Inspired Events will be featured and promoted in Ceremony Magazine, a top publication for the Southern California Bridal Industry. How did she get so far so fast? According to Katie, it took a leap of faith, the courage to finally do what she loved, and the help of life coach and fellow business owner, Eli Davidson.
According to Katie, Eli's combination of stellar business advice and personal coaching has transformed her business. "For a long time, I lived my entire life focused on other people." says Katie. "That was the major thing working with Eli. She had me focus on me, what I wanted, and where I wanted to go without listening to all these other outside influences. It changes your life completely".
And Katie had been ready for a change. "I was working at a corporate job for five years and was absolutely miserable", she recalls. Her amazing energy, focus, and commitment to quality were talents benefiting everyone but herself. She loved planning events at her job, but the limitations within the corporate structure were hard to ignore. "You don't get recognition." she explains. “It was for someone else to take the credit....and obviously you have a lot of people above you saying, 'This is our idea. This is what we want to do with it.' “Katie knew she was keeping her own inner hopes in check.”I got caught up in the corporate world ethic that says: 'This is what you do when you get out of college. You get a job, you work 8 to 5. You work up a ladder." The fact that she didn't know where the ladder was going haunted her. "I felt I was being held back..." she admits, "...and I think it was my own self holding me back."
And then on her birthday last year, Katie marched into her office and quit. ("It was one of the best days of my life", she laughs.) She already knew her dream was to have an event planning business; "My mother was an events coordinator." says Katie, "She always did the big Junior League charity events and Debutante balls. Our holidays are more outdone than anything you can imagine. It was always something I loved". Fresh out of her cooperate job and only a few weeks into starting her company; Katie accompanied a friend to young business women's luncheon. Fate sat her right next to the guest speaker, Eli Davidson. Eli's vivacious energy and business savvy sparked inspiration. When Katie learned that Davidson was a Business Coach, she decided to follow her heart. "I thought, well, maybe this is a sign," says Katie. She joined up with Eli's group coaching sessions the very next day.
After her first few sessions with Eli, it became clear to Katie that that financial success would call for a change within. Katie remembers: "When we first started together, Eli asked me to name three things that I liked about myself and I couldn't name one. “Not that Katie didn't know her worth she just didn't know she had the right to claim it. "I didn't feel comfortable even acknowledging those things. I thought maybe I would seem arrogant, says Katie. But Eli got me to stop that...and my whole outlook changed."
Along with getting Katie to claim her value in all aspects, Eli's coaching offered her concrete strategies and tools for financial success. Katie's first assignment was her toughest: envisioning herself already succeeding in her new career. She was to write what Eli called a 'Success Script. In the exercise, Katie was to write about herself as if she had actually already achieved her highest career goals. And she was to describe it as vividly and boldly as possible. "It was so scary for me in the beginning.” says Katie. “I didn't want to do it. Because writing these things down makes it real." But courage and determination prevailed. And write it she did. As soon as she acknowledged what she wanted, the results were immediate. Within three weeks, she booked the private Pearl Jam concert.
Even more impressive was the fact that it was the first major event she had done single-handedly. "I'd done so many events before" says Katie, "but I always had a whole team surrounding me. I thought, this is amazing. And I did really well at it. “After that, people started calling out of the blue. Working with Eli, Katie watched her confidence and her business grow together. "It was about acknowledging who I am. I didn't go after anyone. I just put it out there and said: 'Hey, I'm starting a business. Here's my business card'.
Katie also learned effective brainstorming techniques with Eli. Whether the day was about calling prospective clients or presenting major business proposals, Katie now had the answers to any challenge. "Eli would have me come up with three solutions. They could be bad, good, off the wall or realistic. The point was getting into the habit of creating solutions for yourself."
The coaching also helped Katie to congratulate herself more and criticize herself less. "I expect a lot of myself", say Katie. She was well aware she was entering a business full of experts in the field. "I thought that I should be where these people are who had been doing this for twenty years." Eli helped Katie to recognize that she had already done brilliantly in a short amount of time.
She also showed Katie how to create reasonable and achievable goals for her business on a weekly basis. As a result, Katie’s now working with vendors she had always admired and respected, and she's created a career she had only dreamed about. Along with being incredibly grateful for success, it’s clear that Katie truly believes and knows that she deserves it. "I put my mind to something; I know I'll be able to do it.” Now, she's regularly telling herself “You did such a great job, you worked for it. Go congratulate yourself for it."
Would she recommend life coaching for other business owners? Katie is emphatic. "I would tell anyone to go to Eli Davidson for coaching. She gave me actual steps for success every single week." And it goes even further than her career. Katie knows that "it's been completely life changing.”
Check out Inspired Events in the January Edition of Ceremony Magazine. Inspired events can be found online for booking at www.inspiredeventsinc.com
Eli Davison is an internationally recognized expert on empowerment. To sign up for coaching, go to www.elidavidson.com
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About the Author: Professional speaker, business coach and author, Eli Davidson, has helped millions of busy executives to 'grab the wheel' of their careers. Her coaching tips reach over 6 million travelers; she has appeared regularly on national TV and radio. Read and download the first chapter of her runaway hit book, Funky to Fabulous for free at Funky to Fabulous. Ask Eli your career question at Eli Davidson
If It Is To Be, It's Up To Me!
So what is this stuff all about? Fundamentally, everything is about Personal responsibility. In life, we attract everything that happens to us. Most people can accept that they are responsible for the good in their lives but very few will accept that they attract the bad as well. So to change my circumstance, I have to change myself.
Life Coaching is all about creating that inner change and helping people to grow personally. All of us at this time are the sum of every single decision, no matter how small, made up until this moment. Even "not making" a decision is an absolute choice. So every experience we have had has forced us to make a decision and in that process, we change as a consequence. This does not mean that are either good or bad. We are just what we are at this time. For example, two children have an alcoholic father.
Based on their individual perceptions, one will choose to be like his Dad and become an alcoholic and one will choose to be the opposite of his Dad and become totally temperate. Personal growth and Individual change takes place whenever we face an uncomfortable situation and work out some way to deal with it. This is the so-called "Growing Edge." When your whole body is screaming not to do something because you are scared stiff, and you do it any way, you grow as a person.
What Life Coaching is about is to help you become aware of the choices you are making (mostly automatically out of habit) and establish the consequences if you continue. The coach then will also encourage you to perhaps take a different path. At no time does (or must) he take any responsibility for your decision and actions. (In fact, run a mile if you find yourself asking what to do and then doing what the coach tells you!) The reason is that if it goes wrong, who are you going to blame? And if it goes right, to whom are you going to give the credit? You are responsible for the Good, and the Bad.
Sharing experiences on how you have coped with a particularly difficult situation will help and inspire others who may want to use your solution. And in the Giving and the Receiving, both gain. To your continued personal development.
Roger Bourne
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About the Author: Do you want to make a change in your personal circumstance? Visit http://www.stuffaboutlifecoaching.com/
Life Coaching is all about creating that inner change and helping people to grow personally. All of us at this time are the sum of every single decision, no matter how small, made up until this moment. Even "not making" a decision is an absolute choice. So every experience we have had has forced us to make a decision and in that process, we change as a consequence. This does not mean that are either good or bad. We are just what we are at this time. For example, two children have an alcoholic father.
Based on their individual perceptions, one will choose to be like his Dad and become an alcoholic and one will choose to be the opposite of his Dad and become totally temperate. Personal growth and Individual change takes place whenever we face an uncomfortable situation and work out some way to deal with it. This is the so-called "Growing Edge." When your whole body is screaming not to do something because you are scared stiff, and you do it any way, you grow as a person.
What Life Coaching is about is to help you become aware of the choices you are making (mostly automatically out of habit) and establish the consequences if you continue. The coach then will also encourage you to perhaps take a different path. At no time does (or must) he take any responsibility for your decision and actions. (In fact, run a mile if you find yourself asking what to do and then doing what the coach tells you!) The reason is that if it goes wrong, who are you going to blame? And if it goes right, to whom are you going to give the credit? You are responsible for the Good, and the Bad.
Sharing experiences on how you have coped with a particularly difficult situation will help and inspire others who may want to use your solution. And in the Giving and the Receiving, both gain. To your continued personal development.
Roger Bourne
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About the Author: Do you want to make a change in your personal circumstance? Visit http://www.stuffaboutlifecoaching.com/
Begin To Design Your Perfect Life
Maureen was close to tears, she was exhausted and she was confused. Her life, on the face of it, was excellent – a loving and supportive husband, two grown-up children and several grand-children that she adored, and no particular money worries.
But something was wrong. She couldn’t identify it but knew it was there. Happiness was elusive and she had no time to herself. She became increasingly short-tempered and frustrated, and so very tired.
Maureen had always been there for her family. It was taken for granted, expected of her in fact, and she loved it. Her life was a whirl of activities. Birthday cakes for the grand-children, picking up shopping for her eldest daughter when she was held up at work, collecting the children from school, baby-sitting, nursing the little one through a bout of illness: it was never-ending. And now, with her husband on the verge of retirement, Maureen's future should have burned brightly. But … .
Maureen had never questioned her duty. After all, she felt, we’re dealt a hand and we make the best of it. Life was good, can’t complain. But that niggle wouldn’t go away. She felt run-ragged and confused, unappreciated and resentful. “I don’t feel satisfied”, Maureen had said, “although I don’t stop from one minute to the next. I don’t know what’s wrong, I just feel a bit ‘ho hum’ at the end of each day. I’d like to do something for me, but what, and where would I find the time?”
A very simple starting question to ask is “What would I love to do - right now?”. When Maureen was asked this question, her mind immediately blocked it with logic. She squirmed, followed by a long silence; there was confusion and conflict in that silence. Gradually words started coming to her, almost as though someone else was speaking them; long-forgotten thoughts and ideas came bubbling up, her excitement grew.
That question proved to be the catalyst. With continued questioning Maureen re-discovered her desire to spend more time in the garden. Her dream had always been to produce organic vegetables. Now, with the powerful realisation that she was able to make changes, she could put a plan to obtain an allotment. She has balance and fun, and renewed energy and enthusiasm to share with her family and her husband in his retirement.
How does your life look? Do you have dreams you’ve given up on?
We all have the ability to make changes in our lives, once we realise what we want. And that’s the crux.
Stop for a minute, right now, and take a little time to consider what shape you would like your life to take. Think about what is stopping you. What prevents you from making those changes, from doing what you’d love to do? Is it your beliefs – I can’t, I’m not good enough, what if I fail? Or is it that you haven’t yet identified your desires?
Here are five suggestions to help you with the process of discovering what you want.
1. Make a list of the things that you DON’T want in your life. These are things you are tolerating, that sap your energy; an unsatisfactory job, a particular relationship or the way you are currently reacting to a situation.
2. Make a list of the things you DO want in your life. This list could include everything you’d like to have, personality traits you’d like to develop, things you’d like to do, places you’d like to visit, people you’d like to meet, books you want to read. Take the brakes off and dream.
3. Do you still want it? For each want, what will change in your life? How will you feel? What will it bring you?
4. Create a plan. Who is already doing what you want to do, has what you want or is living the life you would like to live? Who will support and encourage you?
5. Take action. Decide on one thing, even something small, that you can do within the next 24 hours that will move you closer to what you want. And do it!
Jane came to me wanting to lose weight. She was tired and yearned for more energy. She felt sluggish and everything was too much effort. She got depressed and ate. This robbed her of further energy, so she ate. A vicious circle.
As we talked, Jane re-discovered her passion for life and her weight issue disappeared! Her confidence grew and with it a new pride in the way she looked. She even said how much her husband loves her as she is. We discovered through our sessions that Jane’s underlying issue was one of boredom, self-image and frustration. Her life wasn’t turning out the way she’d dreamed and she couldn’t see any way to change things. So she ate for comfort.
With my support, Jane followed the process I outlined above. She identified what she didn’t want and what she did want. She is exercising regularly (something she loved but had no energy for), spending quality time with her husband and children, and developing her enthusiasm for life in a variety of surprising new directions.
Try the above exercise. You might be surprised at what you discover.
© Key Life Coaching 2007. All Rights Reserved. You may reprint this article as long as you do not edit the article in any way and give author name credit.
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About the Author: Hazel Dudley is a Life Strategies & Results Coach and passionate about the undiscovered potential and possibilities everyone has inside themselves. She helps people to explore what they want from life and to establish an effective way to achieve it. To find out more about how to work with Hazel, please telephone (01425) 674746 or visit her website at http://www.keylifecoaching.com.
But something was wrong. She couldn’t identify it but knew it was there. Happiness was elusive and she had no time to herself. She became increasingly short-tempered and frustrated, and so very tired.
Maureen had always been there for her family. It was taken for granted, expected of her in fact, and she loved it. Her life was a whirl of activities. Birthday cakes for the grand-children, picking up shopping for her eldest daughter when she was held up at work, collecting the children from school, baby-sitting, nursing the little one through a bout of illness: it was never-ending. And now, with her husband on the verge of retirement, Maureen's future should have burned brightly. But … .
Maureen had never questioned her duty. After all, she felt, we’re dealt a hand and we make the best of it. Life was good, can’t complain. But that niggle wouldn’t go away. She felt run-ragged and confused, unappreciated and resentful. “I don’t feel satisfied”, Maureen had said, “although I don’t stop from one minute to the next. I don’t know what’s wrong, I just feel a bit ‘ho hum’ at the end of each day. I’d like to do something for me, but what, and where would I find the time?”
A very simple starting question to ask is “What would I love to do - right now?”. When Maureen was asked this question, her mind immediately blocked it with logic. She squirmed, followed by a long silence; there was confusion and conflict in that silence. Gradually words started coming to her, almost as though someone else was speaking them; long-forgotten thoughts and ideas came bubbling up, her excitement grew.
That question proved to be the catalyst. With continued questioning Maureen re-discovered her desire to spend more time in the garden. Her dream had always been to produce organic vegetables. Now, with the powerful realisation that she was able to make changes, she could put a plan to obtain an allotment. She has balance and fun, and renewed energy and enthusiasm to share with her family and her husband in his retirement.
How does your life look? Do you have dreams you’ve given up on?
We all have the ability to make changes in our lives, once we realise what we want. And that’s the crux.
Stop for a minute, right now, and take a little time to consider what shape you would like your life to take. Think about what is stopping you. What prevents you from making those changes, from doing what you’d love to do? Is it your beliefs – I can’t, I’m not good enough, what if I fail? Or is it that you haven’t yet identified your desires?
Here are five suggestions to help you with the process of discovering what you want.
1. Make a list of the things that you DON’T want in your life. These are things you are tolerating, that sap your energy; an unsatisfactory job, a particular relationship or the way you are currently reacting to a situation.
2. Make a list of the things you DO want in your life. This list could include everything you’d like to have, personality traits you’d like to develop, things you’d like to do, places you’d like to visit, people you’d like to meet, books you want to read. Take the brakes off and dream.
3. Do you still want it? For each want, what will change in your life? How will you feel? What will it bring you?
4. Create a plan. Who is already doing what you want to do, has what you want or is living the life you would like to live? Who will support and encourage you?
5. Take action. Decide on one thing, even something small, that you can do within the next 24 hours that will move you closer to what you want. And do it!
Jane came to me wanting to lose weight. She was tired and yearned for more energy. She felt sluggish and everything was too much effort. She got depressed and ate. This robbed her of further energy, so she ate. A vicious circle.
As we talked, Jane re-discovered her passion for life and her weight issue disappeared! Her confidence grew and with it a new pride in the way she looked. She even said how much her husband loves her as she is. We discovered through our sessions that Jane’s underlying issue was one of boredom, self-image and frustration. Her life wasn’t turning out the way she’d dreamed and she couldn’t see any way to change things. So she ate for comfort.
With my support, Jane followed the process I outlined above. She identified what she didn’t want and what she did want. She is exercising regularly (something she loved but had no energy for), spending quality time with her husband and children, and developing her enthusiasm for life in a variety of surprising new directions.
Try the above exercise. You might be surprised at what you discover.
© Key Life Coaching 2007. All Rights Reserved. You may reprint this article as long as you do not edit the article in any way and give author name credit.
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About the Author: Hazel Dudley is a Life Strategies & Results Coach and passionate about the undiscovered potential and possibilities everyone has inside themselves. She helps people to explore what they want from life and to establish an effective way to achieve it. To find out more about how to work with Hazel, please telephone (01425) 674746 or visit her website at http://www.keylifecoaching.com.
Is There a Difference Between Life Coaching and Therapy?
Is There a Difference Between Coaching and Therapy?
This is one of the most frequently asked questions I receive about Life Coaching. Yes there is a difference and by explaining what Coaching IS, I aim to help you understand what it is NOT and how it is different to Therapy.
Coaching Focuses on:
Where you are right now.
Your needs and wants.
Values.
Goals and actions.
Self-potential.
Acknowledgement.
Support.
Accountability.
Moving forward.
Solutions.
Replacement of sabotaging thoughts, patterns and behaviors.
Trust.
Non-judgment.
Insights.
New perspectives.
Inspiration.
Self-actualization.
Results.
In a nutshell Coaching believes you are fully functional and helps and supports you find your solutions in a quick, effective and life-changing way. It focuses on where you right now and find ways to help you move forward. It is a proactive approach that examines your behavior today and challenges you to develop new behavior. Coaching supports you to take charge of your life and make it whatever you want by providing you with tools and strategies to accomplish the desired shifts in thinking and behaving. It helps you to respond versus react and looks at ways to help you change your life permanently in ways that empower you in every niche of life.
Coaching generally does not work with clinical depression, neuroses, psychosis, permanent emotional damage or any medically based issues. This is where the Coach will advise therapy. These two can and do work hand-in-hand in such cases. Coaching does, focus on the present and does not dwell in the past. The Coach is an equal partner in the coaching process and listens actively to you, provides you with effective non - judgmental feedback and helps you be accountable for accomplishing the goals that really matter to you. If you want to change jobs, lose weight, start saving, buy a house, start studying, improve your marriage, travel abroad or any other number of things coaching can get you there far quicker than you can even imagine. This is the magic of coaching. It gets you to where you want to be while changing your life for the better in every way.
If you know anyone who is interested in coaching and could benefit by taking control of their lives and accomplishing what they want to achieve in life, you are welcome to give them my contact details. I will contact them within 12 – 24 hours, unless traveling. www.kimknightcoaching.com
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About the Author: Kim Knight, The Coach Yourself to Greatness Coach, has helped a number of clients target their goals. The Personal Life Coach is not only a sought-after trusted and inspirational coach. She has also written EBooks for all those who want to help themselves or support others. There are many successful clients whose friends and family are amazed at finding out that someone else coached them on their overall transformation. For more information, visit Kim’s site at www.kimknightcoaching.com and sign up for up for her FREE Coaching Tips at http://www.coachtogreatness.com
This is one of the most frequently asked questions I receive about Life Coaching. Yes there is a difference and by explaining what Coaching IS, I aim to help you understand what it is NOT and how it is different to Therapy.
Coaching Focuses on:
Where you are right now.
Your needs and wants.
Values.
Goals and actions.
Self-potential.
Acknowledgement.
Support.
Accountability.
Moving forward.
Solutions.
Replacement of sabotaging thoughts, patterns and behaviors.
Trust.
Non-judgment.
Insights.
New perspectives.
Inspiration.
Self-actualization.
Results.
In a nutshell Coaching believes you are fully functional and helps and supports you find your solutions in a quick, effective and life-changing way. It focuses on where you right now and find ways to help you move forward. It is a proactive approach that examines your behavior today and challenges you to develop new behavior. Coaching supports you to take charge of your life and make it whatever you want by providing you with tools and strategies to accomplish the desired shifts in thinking and behaving. It helps you to respond versus react and looks at ways to help you change your life permanently in ways that empower you in every niche of life.
Coaching generally does not work with clinical depression, neuroses, psychosis, permanent emotional damage or any medically based issues. This is where the Coach will advise therapy. These two can and do work hand-in-hand in such cases. Coaching does, focus on the present and does not dwell in the past. The Coach is an equal partner in the coaching process and listens actively to you, provides you with effective non - judgmental feedback and helps you be accountable for accomplishing the goals that really matter to you. If you want to change jobs, lose weight, start saving, buy a house, start studying, improve your marriage, travel abroad or any other number of things coaching can get you there far quicker than you can even imagine. This is the magic of coaching. It gets you to where you want to be while changing your life for the better in every way.
If you know anyone who is interested in coaching and could benefit by taking control of their lives and accomplishing what they want to achieve in life, you are welcome to give them my contact details. I will contact them within 12 – 24 hours, unless traveling. www.kimknightcoaching.com
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About the Author: Kim Knight, The Coach Yourself to Greatness Coach, has helped a number of clients target their goals. The Personal Life Coach is not only a sought-after trusted and inspirational coach. She has also written EBooks for all those who want to help themselves or support others. There are many successful clients whose friends and family are amazed at finding out that someone else coached them on their overall transformation. For more information, visit Kim’s site at www.kimknightcoaching.com and sign up for up for her FREE Coaching Tips at http://www.coachtogreatness.com
Monday, March 3, 2008
The 5 secrets to changing your life
Here are 5 life coaching secrets to help you on your way to start changing your life for the better and getting out of a situation which is holding you back from the life that you deserve to have.
Secret 1 – Define your ideal life
Do you find yourself saying that you wish you had a happier life? Many of us will procrastinate about wanting our ideal life but rarely do anything about it, hoping that someone or something will happen to get you the life you want.
A good first thing to do when deciding how to make your life happier is to define what your ideal life looks like. Write it down and start believing in it. Feel it, see yourself already in it and enjoying it.
Secret 2 – Set your goals
Once you have decided what your goals are then write them down in black and white in the present positive tense, such as “I’m someone who has a happy and fulfilling career.” Next to your goals also write when you realistically think you’ll achieve them by.
Secret 3 – Make a “To Do” list
Once you’ve written down your goals clearly, choose the most important one or two first and then write an action list (to do list) of how to go about achieving them. Make sure you write dates and even times next to your actions so you actually commit to doing them.
Secret 4 – Believe in yourself to achieve your goal/s
Assess how strong your positive and negative beliefs are. Self-beliefs are developed from a young age and you can change any of them and take on new ones. They help you make decisions and make up your thoughts, feelings, perceptions of the world and behaviour.
Decide to get rid of all your negative beliefs in the quest to getting your ideal life. Take each negative self-belief and replace it with the opposite positive belief, e.g. I’m not confident becomes “I’m confident”. These positive statements are now your affirmations, which you have to say to yourself for the next month until you really start believing them.
Secret 5 – Love yourself
Make sure your self-image and self worth are as high as they can be. If you don’t love yourself then who will? Having a low self-image as well as negative self-beliefs can also hold you back from achieving your goals.
Decide who you are and list all the negative and positive things about yourself. It might be that in certain areas of your life there are no negatives but then lots in another area of your life, for example one of my clients was confident and had a high self image of themselves when describing scenarios at work but when they talked about their social life they explained how they preferred to sit quietly as they believed people didn’t find them interesting to talk to and they could never think of anything to say beyond talking about work.
If you have listed some negative statements about yourself like, “I’m not very good at speaking in meetings” or “I’m hopeless in relationships”, then you need to understand that this means you are going through life carrying around a huge burden of negative feelings that you have about yourself and that this has now got to stop.
Follow these steps over the next couple of weeks to make sure your self-image is the highest it can be: -
- Write a positive sentence to each negative belief you have about yourself, e.g. “I’m hopeless in relationships” becomes “I’m fantastic in relationships”. Say this out loud to yourself every morning in the mirror 10 times a day until you 100% believe it.
- Define the new you and read it everyday. See the new you in situations feeling great about yourself. This will give the new you life and will then become reality.
It is time to start changing your life for the better and becoming someone who takes action rather than someone who sits and talks about taking action and never seems to. Come on you owe it to yourself.
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About the Author: Rebekah Fensome is an accredited professional Life Coach and Coaching Psychologist. She is also a member of the British Psychological Society. She has her own private life coaching practice in London and coaches people face to face or over the telephone. She coaches a diverse range of people from actors, writers, Mums, bankers, traders, personal trainers, celebrities and entrepreneurs on various personal goals such as self esteem, confidence, career change, work life balance, etc. She also works with many companies helping their employees to achieve their career goals. She is regularly asked to appear as an expert on TV and writes many articles for magazines such as Psychologies, Zest, Glamour, etc. To get in contact with her go to http://www.rebekahfensomelifecoach.com, rebekah.fensome@gmail.com.
Secret 1 – Define your ideal life
Do you find yourself saying that you wish you had a happier life? Many of us will procrastinate about wanting our ideal life but rarely do anything about it, hoping that someone or something will happen to get you the life you want.
A good first thing to do when deciding how to make your life happier is to define what your ideal life looks like. Write it down and start believing in it. Feel it, see yourself already in it and enjoying it.
Secret 2 – Set your goals
Once you have decided what your goals are then write them down in black and white in the present positive tense, such as “I’m someone who has a happy and fulfilling career.” Next to your goals also write when you realistically think you’ll achieve them by.
Secret 3 – Make a “To Do” list
Once you’ve written down your goals clearly, choose the most important one or two first and then write an action list (to do list) of how to go about achieving them. Make sure you write dates and even times next to your actions so you actually commit to doing them.
Secret 4 – Believe in yourself to achieve your goal/s
Assess how strong your positive and negative beliefs are. Self-beliefs are developed from a young age and you can change any of them and take on new ones. They help you make decisions and make up your thoughts, feelings, perceptions of the world and behaviour.
Decide to get rid of all your negative beliefs in the quest to getting your ideal life. Take each negative self-belief and replace it with the opposite positive belief, e.g. I’m not confident becomes “I’m confident”. These positive statements are now your affirmations, which you have to say to yourself for the next month until you really start believing them.
Secret 5 – Love yourself
Make sure your self-image and self worth are as high as they can be. If you don’t love yourself then who will? Having a low self-image as well as negative self-beliefs can also hold you back from achieving your goals.
Decide who you are and list all the negative and positive things about yourself. It might be that in certain areas of your life there are no negatives but then lots in another area of your life, for example one of my clients was confident and had a high self image of themselves when describing scenarios at work but when they talked about their social life they explained how they preferred to sit quietly as they believed people didn’t find them interesting to talk to and they could never think of anything to say beyond talking about work.
If you have listed some negative statements about yourself like, “I’m not very good at speaking in meetings” or “I’m hopeless in relationships”, then you need to understand that this means you are going through life carrying around a huge burden of negative feelings that you have about yourself and that this has now got to stop.
Follow these steps over the next couple of weeks to make sure your self-image is the highest it can be: -
- Write a positive sentence to each negative belief you have about yourself, e.g. “I’m hopeless in relationships” becomes “I’m fantastic in relationships”. Say this out loud to yourself every morning in the mirror 10 times a day until you 100% believe it.
- Define the new you and read it everyday. See the new you in situations feeling great about yourself. This will give the new you life and will then become reality.
It is time to start changing your life for the better and becoming someone who takes action rather than someone who sits and talks about taking action and never seems to. Come on you owe it to yourself.
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About the Author: Rebekah Fensome is an accredited professional Life Coach and Coaching Psychologist. She is also a member of the British Psychological Society. She has her own private life coaching practice in London and coaches people face to face or over the telephone. She coaches a diverse range of people from actors, writers, Mums, bankers, traders, personal trainers, celebrities and entrepreneurs on various personal goals such as self esteem, confidence, career change, work life balance, etc. She also works with many companies helping their employees to achieve their career goals. She is regularly asked to appear as an expert on TV and writes many articles for magazines such as Psychologies, Zest, Glamour, etc. To get in contact with her go to http://www.rebekahfensomelifecoach.com, rebekah.fensome@gmail.com.
Extend your Book's Life with a Sales Letter (updated)
Authors, publishers and business owners are great at getting their books written and launched. But after the initial one-year honeymoon, sales slow down. To counter this, make sure to let your audience know about your book's benefits and how it can help them in their lives. Keep your book alive and selling well for years when you write a sales letter to post on your website and use for email marketing.
You can write your first sales letter in less than two hours. As you practice, you will be able to write a short one in only one hour to use email marketing.
What Every Sales Letter Needs to Pull Orders and Profits
1. Start the letter with a benefit-driven headline and include headlines throughout.You must hook your reader early on.
Example: "Want a Quick and Easy way to Quadruple your Online Income in Four Months?
If you answered, "Yes" to yourself, the headline succeeds, because you will keep reading. If you said, "No, I don't believe this, but I'm curious about where this is going," the headline still succeeds. You win when your headline seduces your potential customer to read on in your sales letter and finally to decide to buy.
2. List the top five benefits of your book with bullets.
To define your top benefits start with a list of challenges your client or customer wants solutions for. If you are not rock sure of who your audience is and what they need, your sales copy won’t work.
Essentially, you need to say how your book will make someone's life easier or richer in time or money; how it will entertain or inspire; how it will make readers be more successful, more attractive, healthier; how it will help them feel better and avoid catastrophe, sickness, or surgery.
Remember to highlight your book's ultimate benefit above the others. This could be the opening headline. If you list more than five benefits use the strongest three to five as your bullet points. Sprinkle the rest throughout your copy.
3. Address your potential buyer's resistance.
Tell a background story about where your audience is NOW so they will connect emotionally with your solutions. If your book is designed for people who want to write, the sales letter should focus on the fact that many people don't write books because they doubt that their books will sell well enough to justify all the effort; they worry that a book may not be significant enough, that writing it will take too long and publishing it will cost too much; and besides, they really aren't writers." One, by one, a good sales letter will address a potential buyer’s major concerns.
4. Provide a quick overview of the book’s features.
One client wrote a book on ways to live a successful life. Her top features included *a do-it-yourself” approach, *real-life coaching examples *mastering the art of ‘moseying’ and *practical tips and strategies that can immediately be implemented into your everyday life.
Example: In this treasure chest you will....
Impact your letter more when you combine your best benefit with a feature such as “Balance work and home by mastering the joy of moseying.” While benefits sell and features explain, your web or shorter email sales letter needs to mention features so your potential buyer will know what’s inside your book.
5. Sprinkle testimonials throughout your sales letter.
Since people who learn about your book are more likely to buy it when they think other people already have, it’s important to offer testimonials from experts in your field, relevant celebrities, and satisfied users who have profited from your advice. Don't send the whole book to people when you ask for testimonials. Just send them a list of the benefits and phrases to make it easy to respond as well as the title and introduction.
6. Offer your potential buyers two to three chances to buy.
They may have already decided to buy before encountering your sales letter, so put "Buy Now" information near the top and present more buying opportunities along the way after your list of benefits, your summary of the book’s features, and your testimonials.
7. End your sales letter with a 100% money-back guarantee.
When you offer an ironclad guarantee--"This product comes with a 100% Money Back Guarantee. Read the book cover to cover, and if the strategies don't work for you within 60 days, we'll cheerfully refund your money, and you can keep the product too!-- people see your book as valuable enough for you to put yourself on the line for it. They will be more likely to buy and be satisfied with their purchase.
8. Share the downside of your book.
Being up front about your book's limitations can increase your credibility and create empathy.
Example: "This e-book won't write the book for you, or even get it published, but it will show you the steps and resources you need to write compelling copy, finish fully and sell well."
9. Include your credentials.
Obviously, expertise is important. One author wrote a book on stress and how it affects relationships. Her sales letter included “I interviewed 30 couples and included their answers to my “what do you do daily to keep your relationship alive and joyful? My 20 years background as a marriage and family therapist includes 10 years coaching, consulting and presenting 25 seminars a year.
Keep your book alive and selling well for years with a sales letter emailed out and on your Web site, a professional sales letter gives your audience good reasons to make a buying decision.
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About the Author: Book and Internet Marketing Coach Judy Cullins helps businesses build clients and sell books. Author of "How to Write your Book Fast" and "The Fast and Cheap Way to Explode Targeted Web Traffic," Judy offers free eBook "Book Writing and Marketing Tips" with monthly ezines at http://www.bookcoaching.com/
E: judycullins@cox.net
You can write your first sales letter in less than two hours. As you practice, you will be able to write a short one in only one hour to use email marketing.
What Every Sales Letter Needs to Pull Orders and Profits
1. Start the letter with a benefit-driven headline and include headlines throughout.You must hook your reader early on.
Example: "Want a Quick and Easy way to Quadruple your Online Income in Four Months?
If you answered, "Yes" to yourself, the headline succeeds, because you will keep reading. If you said, "No, I don't believe this, but I'm curious about where this is going," the headline still succeeds. You win when your headline seduces your potential customer to read on in your sales letter and finally to decide to buy.
2. List the top five benefits of your book with bullets.
To define your top benefits start with a list of challenges your client or customer wants solutions for. If you are not rock sure of who your audience is and what they need, your sales copy won’t work.
Essentially, you need to say how your book will make someone's life easier or richer in time or money; how it will entertain or inspire; how it will make readers be more successful, more attractive, healthier; how it will help them feel better and avoid catastrophe, sickness, or surgery.
Remember to highlight your book's ultimate benefit above the others. This could be the opening headline. If you list more than five benefits use the strongest three to five as your bullet points. Sprinkle the rest throughout your copy.
3. Address your potential buyer's resistance.
Tell a background story about where your audience is NOW so they will connect emotionally with your solutions. If your book is designed for people who want to write, the sales letter should focus on the fact that many people don't write books because they doubt that their books will sell well enough to justify all the effort; they worry that a book may not be significant enough, that writing it will take too long and publishing it will cost too much; and besides, they really aren't writers." One, by one, a good sales letter will address a potential buyer’s major concerns.
4. Provide a quick overview of the book’s features.
One client wrote a book on ways to live a successful life. Her top features included *a do-it-yourself” approach, *real-life coaching examples *mastering the art of ‘moseying’ and *practical tips and strategies that can immediately be implemented into your everyday life.
Example: In this treasure chest you will....
Impact your letter more when you combine your best benefit with a feature such as “Balance work and home by mastering the joy of moseying.” While benefits sell and features explain, your web or shorter email sales letter needs to mention features so your potential buyer will know what’s inside your book.
5. Sprinkle testimonials throughout your sales letter.
Since people who learn about your book are more likely to buy it when they think other people already have, it’s important to offer testimonials from experts in your field, relevant celebrities, and satisfied users who have profited from your advice. Don't send the whole book to people when you ask for testimonials. Just send them a list of the benefits and phrases to make it easy to respond as well as the title and introduction.
6. Offer your potential buyers two to three chances to buy.
They may have already decided to buy before encountering your sales letter, so put "Buy Now" information near the top and present more buying opportunities along the way after your list of benefits, your summary of the book’s features, and your testimonials.
7. End your sales letter with a 100% money-back guarantee.
When you offer an ironclad guarantee--"This product comes with a 100% Money Back Guarantee. Read the book cover to cover, and if the strategies don't work for you within 60 days, we'll cheerfully refund your money, and you can keep the product too!-- people see your book as valuable enough for you to put yourself on the line for it. They will be more likely to buy and be satisfied with their purchase.
8. Share the downside of your book.
Being up front about your book's limitations can increase your credibility and create empathy.
Example: "This e-book won't write the book for you, or even get it published, but it will show you the steps and resources you need to write compelling copy, finish fully and sell well."
9. Include your credentials.
Obviously, expertise is important. One author wrote a book on stress and how it affects relationships. Her sales letter included “I interviewed 30 couples and included their answers to my “what do you do daily to keep your relationship alive and joyful? My 20 years background as a marriage and family therapist includes 10 years coaching, consulting and presenting 25 seminars a year.
Keep your book alive and selling well for years with a sales letter emailed out and on your Web site, a professional sales letter gives your audience good reasons to make a buying decision.
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About the Author: Book and Internet Marketing Coach Judy Cullins helps businesses build clients and sell books. Author of "How to Write your Book Fast" and "The Fast and Cheap Way to Explode Targeted Web Traffic," Judy offers free eBook "Book Writing and Marketing Tips" with monthly ezines at http://www.bookcoaching.com/
E: judycullins@cox.net
How to Excel as a Life Coach ?
Excellence in life and executive coaching is the same as excellence in anything – you must make a decision to learn your craft. Learning is not just reading and studying a manual; it's actually doing the thing you wish to master. Life coaching is not a spectator sport, it is a full participation, let's-learn-how-this-works endeavour that can be extremely rewarding.
Great life coaches not only learn through doing their craft, they are interested in and happy for someone else's success. They are comfortable celebrating achievement, rather than critiquing it or looking for flaws.
Successful life coaches are willing to receive feedback about how they can improve their craft. They keep the loop of learning open, knowing that what they think they know is just the tip of the iceberg, and there is so much more to be savoured. This means they receive feedback from mentors and other coaches as well as their clients about how they can improve their craft.
Life coaches who excel have an interest in personal development. They value the journey of self-improvement and they're willing to learn more about how and why people choose to do what they do. They are curious about what motivates us and see value in learning more about how to get results.
Great life coaches are excellent communicators. They may have friends come to them asking their advice, and people may find them attractive to talk with. And they're happy to chat and lend an ear. When they start out in their professional life coach training they may need to learn the skills of coaching communication, and then they apply themselves to learning even more about how to effectively communicate with their clients to assist them to get their desired results.
Great life coaches are persistent and know that it isn't what you do some of the time that gets results, but what you are prepared to do consistently. They understand that persistence pays, and even when they experience some disappointment, they know that this is part of the natural cycle of life and keep going.
Excellence in a coach is an attitude of 'possibilities'. Cynics need not apply, as cynicism is simply a fear of being disappointed. Coaches know that because disappointment is inevitable if we have goals, they must stay open to the possibilities of how to turn the situation around.
Life coaches who excel are willing to experience success. They are willing to get over self-sabotage, the fear of failure, the fear of success and every other fear and just have a go at achieving personal excellence. They recognise that extraordinary feats are accomplished by ordinary people making ordinary decisions. Their goal is to be their personal best, and through the journey of achieving this they learn compassion, tolerance, patience, forgiveness – as well as focus, commitment, dedication and passion.
Life coaches who are willing to continue their professional training and seek more knowledge about how to best assist their clients will know that their success is bound to increase. Accredited, professional life and executive coaches are committed to mastery of their craft. They don't settle for shortcuts in their coaching training, but are willing to apply themselves and learn all they can about human behaviour, personal development, Neuro-linguistic Programming and life coaching.
Excellence in life coaching and executive coaching is achieved not through knowing all the answers but through being willing to find out the answers. The decision to become a life coach is a first step towards the achievement of this. Let the journey begin.
Copyright Notice This article is free for reproduction but must be reproduced in its entirety, including live links & this copyright statement must be included. Copyright © 2007 The Coaching Institute Pty Ltd
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About the Author: Sharon Pearson is a professional, accredited life, executive and business coach. She is the founder and CEO of The Coaching Institute, Australia's leading accredited life coach training school, is a published author and an in-demand public speaker and trainer. You can visit The Coaching Institute at www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au
Great life coaches not only learn through doing their craft, they are interested in and happy for someone else's success. They are comfortable celebrating achievement, rather than critiquing it or looking for flaws.
Successful life coaches are willing to receive feedback about how they can improve their craft. They keep the loop of learning open, knowing that what they think they know is just the tip of the iceberg, and there is so much more to be savoured. This means they receive feedback from mentors and other coaches as well as their clients about how they can improve their craft.
Life coaches who excel have an interest in personal development. They value the journey of self-improvement and they're willing to learn more about how and why people choose to do what they do. They are curious about what motivates us and see value in learning more about how to get results.
Great life coaches are excellent communicators. They may have friends come to them asking their advice, and people may find them attractive to talk with. And they're happy to chat and lend an ear. When they start out in their professional life coach training they may need to learn the skills of coaching communication, and then they apply themselves to learning even more about how to effectively communicate with their clients to assist them to get their desired results.
Great life coaches are persistent and know that it isn't what you do some of the time that gets results, but what you are prepared to do consistently. They understand that persistence pays, and even when they experience some disappointment, they know that this is part of the natural cycle of life and keep going.
Excellence in a coach is an attitude of 'possibilities'. Cynics need not apply, as cynicism is simply a fear of being disappointed. Coaches know that because disappointment is inevitable if we have goals, they must stay open to the possibilities of how to turn the situation around.
Life coaches who excel are willing to experience success. They are willing to get over self-sabotage, the fear of failure, the fear of success and every other fear and just have a go at achieving personal excellence. They recognise that extraordinary feats are accomplished by ordinary people making ordinary decisions. Their goal is to be their personal best, and through the journey of achieving this they learn compassion, tolerance, patience, forgiveness – as well as focus, commitment, dedication and passion.
Life coaches who are willing to continue their professional training and seek more knowledge about how to best assist their clients will know that their success is bound to increase. Accredited, professional life and executive coaches are committed to mastery of their craft. They don't settle for shortcuts in their coaching training, but are willing to apply themselves and learn all they can about human behaviour, personal development, Neuro-linguistic Programming and life coaching.
Excellence in life coaching and executive coaching is achieved not through knowing all the answers but through being willing to find out the answers. The decision to become a life coach is a first step towards the achievement of this. Let the journey begin.
Copyright Notice This article is free for reproduction but must be reproduced in its entirety, including live links & this copyright statement must be included. Copyright © 2007 The Coaching Institute Pty Ltd
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About the Author: Sharon Pearson is a professional, accredited life, executive and business coach. She is the founder and CEO of The Coaching Institute, Australia's leading accredited life coach training school, is a published author and an in-demand public speaker and trainer. You can visit The Coaching Institute at www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au
The Most Useful Coaching Models to Use
A life coach uses many models to meet the needs of his/her client. Depending on the type of life coaching course you attend the number of models and the type of models that can be used by a life coach varies. Some of the models are the six levels of coaching, the CLEAR model, Solution focused coaching, the story telling coach, transformational coaching, the GROW model etc. Among these models nothing is as useful as the GROW model. The GROW model was developed in the U.K and used extensively in coaching during the late 1980s and 1990s. The GROW Model enables you to break down an issue into its constituent parts.
It is one of the best known and widely used models. The reason for its popularity is that it provides a simple but powerful framework for navigating a route through a coaching session. It also provides a means of finding your way when you are lost. Lots of coaches have used it and it is described in number of life coaching manuals and books. GROW stands for Goal, current Reality, Options and Will. These are the four elements of a coaching session. The GROW model can be applied to individual sessions, group sessions, a part of a session or to series of sessions. Whatever type of session you apply it to the principle remains the same. This is how it works.
Any life coach knows that a goal is necessary for a person to work for. Similarly, each session must have a goal or an outcome to be reached or achieved. Make this goal as specific as possible. It should be such that it should be easy for a person to make out whether the goal has been achieved or not. Once the goal is identified, you can ask questions like “How will you know that you have achieved the goal?”
Setting the goal is good but how can you set a goal without being aware of your current reality. It is important to know where you are going but it is equally important to know where you are right now. You have to know your starting point to reach your finishing point. This is a key part of any life coaching session. By clearly seeing the situation you are in you can make the resolving of the issues that much easier.
Now you know your starting point (current reality) and your finishing point (goal), you have to next know how to get from the starting point to the finishing point. So, you have to explore the options to get from the starting point to finishing point. Using the GROW model is like using the map. Once you know where you are going and from where you are going then you can explore the possible routes. Then, you can decide which is the best possible route (option) to reach the goal.
But, knowing the starting point (current reality), finishing point (goal), and route (options) is not enough to make the journey. You should have the means to make the journey. How can you do it? By having the will to make the journey. If there is a will there is a way. So, if you have the will you can start from your current reality and reach your goal through the best option possible.
Having described the GROW model, it would seem as if it is a sequential process. But in reality it is not so. In practice each process has to be revisited a number of times before the final outcome. The best thing about this model is that it is easily understood, straightforward to apply and very thorough. In addition, once you have an understanding of how it works, it is possible to apply it to an amazing variety of issues in a very effective way. The GROW model will stop you struggling, or making so many mistakes. It will help you recoup quickly should you fall.
GROW can get you going again when you pause. With GROW you can create a support framework to motivate you and encourage you. GROW can make success easier, faster and more fun than you think possible.
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About the Author: Sean McPheat provides life coaching and training for people all around the globe. He is the owner of the Life Coaching Studio and he designs and delivers life coach, programmers and mentoring across the UK, Europe, US and the Middle East.
It is one of the best known and widely used models. The reason for its popularity is that it provides a simple but powerful framework for navigating a route through a coaching session. It also provides a means of finding your way when you are lost. Lots of coaches have used it and it is described in number of life coaching manuals and books. GROW stands for Goal, current Reality, Options and Will. These are the four elements of a coaching session. The GROW model can be applied to individual sessions, group sessions, a part of a session or to series of sessions. Whatever type of session you apply it to the principle remains the same. This is how it works.
Any life coach knows that a goal is necessary for a person to work for. Similarly, each session must have a goal or an outcome to be reached or achieved. Make this goal as specific as possible. It should be such that it should be easy for a person to make out whether the goal has been achieved or not. Once the goal is identified, you can ask questions like “How will you know that you have achieved the goal?”
Setting the goal is good but how can you set a goal without being aware of your current reality. It is important to know where you are going but it is equally important to know where you are right now. You have to know your starting point to reach your finishing point. This is a key part of any life coaching session. By clearly seeing the situation you are in you can make the resolving of the issues that much easier.
Now you know your starting point (current reality) and your finishing point (goal), you have to next know how to get from the starting point to the finishing point. So, you have to explore the options to get from the starting point to finishing point. Using the GROW model is like using the map. Once you know where you are going and from where you are going then you can explore the possible routes. Then, you can decide which is the best possible route (option) to reach the goal.
But, knowing the starting point (current reality), finishing point (goal), and route (options) is not enough to make the journey. You should have the means to make the journey. How can you do it? By having the will to make the journey. If there is a will there is a way. So, if you have the will you can start from your current reality and reach your goal through the best option possible.
Having described the GROW model, it would seem as if it is a sequential process. But in reality it is not so. In practice each process has to be revisited a number of times before the final outcome. The best thing about this model is that it is easily understood, straightforward to apply and very thorough. In addition, once you have an understanding of how it works, it is possible to apply it to an amazing variety of issues in a very effective way. The GROW model will stop you struggling, or making so many mistakes. It will help you recoup quickly should you fall.
GROW can get you going again when you pause. With GROW you can create a support framework to motivate you and encourage you. GROW can make success easier, faster and more fun than you think possible.
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About the Author: Sean McPheat provides life coaching and training for people all around the globe. He is the owner of the Life Coaching Studio and he designs and delivers life coach, programmers and mentoring across the UK, Europe, US and the Middle East.
Christian Life Coaching - Rid Yourself of Apologies that Keeping You Back!
I apologize rolls off the tongue so quickly. One can say it without even working at it. Often it is done to get the confrontation over with. Sometimes, it is a way to make a half-hearted effort toward reconciliation. "I am sorry" is never mentioned in the Scriptures. In fact, it should be avoided because it masksa real and authentic interaction.
We have been ingrained with the words, "I'm sorry." There are a couple of things wrong with just saying sorry.
1. It is a humanistic, inadequate imitation for the real thing. It is man's alternative for God's provision. 2. It brings along from the other person a deficient acknowledgement.
If we look deeper, God's stipulation for alienated relationship is forgiveness. As long as the Christian can say the words, "I'm sorry" (or words to that effect) instead of "I sinned, please forgive me" they are able to minimize the action. They have not wholly confessed before the Lord and to the affronted party. The profound healing and authentic solutions that could have occurred through forgiveness has been set aside. An apology is nothing more than an articulation of your own feelings. To confess to the other person what you did that was a sin and ask to be forgiven is wholly another matter.
The other side of the problem is that the one offended or hurt will have the typical response of "Oh, that's ok." Again because we are programmedto understand that as the proper (read: Christian) thing to do. But when a person says, "Will you forgive me?" A whole new brand of interpersonal relationship is required. There has been a change in responsibility. Both parties are now required to put the offense behind them.
This method of confession and forgiveness is an interaction that has obligations for both parties. The confessor is consenting to his sin and saying what the wrongs details are. This involves repenting (a heart condition) and confession (an outward action). He is also requesting for grace and mercy (forgiveness) from the one whom he has wronged. But, an apology comes from sadness often about the fallout of the sin, not what it does to the injured party. To tell the other person that you have wronged them and God, demonstrates that you are take it very seriously.
Forgiveness carries with it a pardon for the sin. A comment like, "Awww, it's ok" or "Hey, don't worry about it" minimizes the sin. A right biblical response would be "Yes, I understand and I forgive you." That kind of forgiveness gives the promise that the matter won't be brought up again. It won't be discussed with others, and it won't be allowed to dwell in the forgivers mind. Forgiveness asks for a guarantee and receives one. Forgiveness leads to removing the offense. It is a covenant toward a new and richer relationship. An apology can't measure up to the Biblical model for rebuilding a relationship.
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About the Author: As an experienced life coach and Biblical counselor Michael Young has coached people to success in their business and relationships. Do you want to see what Christian life is Christian living means? Click here Christian Life Coaching Life Coaching - Complimentary Session Click here Life Coaching Session
We have been ingrained with the words, "I'm sorry." There are a couple of things wrong with just saying sorry.
1. It is a humanistic, inadequate imitation for the real thing. It is man's alternative for God's provision. 2. It brings along from the other person a deficient acknowledgement.
If we look deeper, God's stipulation for alienated relationship is forgiveness. As long as the Christian can say the words, "I'm sorry" (or words to that effect) instead of "I sinned, please forgive me" they are able to minimize the action. They have not wholly confessed before the Lord and to the affronted party. The profound healing and authentic solutions that could have occurred through forgiveness has been set aside. An apology is nothing more than an articulation of your own feelings. To confess to the other person what you did that was a sin and ask to be forgiven is wholly another matter.
The other side of the problem is that the one offended or hurt will have the typical response of "Oh, that's ok." Again because we are programmedto understand that as the proper (read: Christian) thing to do. But when a person says, "Will you forgive me?" A whole new brand of interpersonal relationship is required. There has been a change in responsibility. Both parties are now required to put the offense behind them.
This method of confession and forgiveness is an interaction that has obligations for both parties. The confessor is consenting to his sin and saying what the wrongs details are. This involves repenting (a heart condition) and confession (an outward action). He is also requesting for grace and mercy (forgiveness) from the one whom he has wronged. But, an apology comes from sadness often about the fallout of the sin, not what it does to the injured party. To tell the other person that you have wronged them and God, demonstrates that you are take it very seriously.
Forgiveness carries with it a pardon for the sin. A comment like, "Awww, it's ok" or "Hey, don't worry about it" minimizes the sin. A right biblical response would be "Yes, I understand and I forgive you." That kind of forgiveness gives the promise that the matter won't be brought up again. It won't be discussed with others, and it won't be allowed to dwell in the forgivers mind. Forgiveness asks for a guarantee and receives one. Forgiveness leads to removing the offense. It is a covenant toward a new and richer relationship. An apology can't measure up to the Biblical model for rebuilding a relationship.
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About the Author: As an experienced life coach and Biblical counselor Michael Young has coached people to success in their business and relationships. Do you want to see what Christian life is Christian living means? Click here Christian Life Coaching Life Coaching - Complimentary Session Click here Life Coaching Session
What's the difference between Coaching and Therapy?
Is there any difference between Coaching and Therapy? It is often a doubt that most of us have. Many of us may have attended life coaching or undergone life coaching training without knowing the difference between therapy and coaching. Some of us might even wonder whether there is any difference at all. Well, there are differences, even if they seem to serve the purpose. It is only to us uninformed that it seems to serve the same purpose actually they are two different things meant for different purposes.
Therapy is primarily meant for looking back to establish the route cause of problems. Coaching on the other hand is meant for personal evolution. A therapist focuses on helping clients overcome past problems. These problems are so disruptive that they seem to get in the way of functioning normally. These problems are generally caused by some incidents in the past. Therapists work with the client to resolve these problems by talking about the events in the past. A life coach on the other hand sets goal for the client and generally helps him move forward. He or she helps you in designing your life the way you want it to be. The life coach plays a supporting role and helps you in reaching your goal. These goals can be career oriented, business oriented or any other goal. They can be even goals for health.
A therapist is a qualified person i.e. a therapist requires a certificate to practice. They have to undergo intensive theoretical and practical sessions before they can venture out on their own. A life coach need not have any educational qualifications but there are certification programs available for them as well. It is just that it is not yet required by law for them to do so. A therapist and the client have to reside in the same place whereas for a life coach the client need not be in the same geographical location. The internet makes it easier for the life coach to stay connected with the client.
A relationship between a therapist and the customer is almost like the traditional doctor – patient relationship. The therapy sessions are held at a measured pace. It can take months and even years sometimes for a person to be completely healed. This is not the problem of therapy but the necessity of therapy. The life coach on the other hand is more like a mentor. Life coaching courses are held at a rapid pace. They usually stick to a schedule. Again this is necessary for coaching as it is a forward looking occupation.
The discussions between a client and a therapist are usually one sided. In fact, it is even wrong to say that they discuss, it is more like the client speaks and the therapist listens. It is a monologue with the client speaking. Communication is a two way business for life coaching. It works on discussions. The more the client opens, the better way the life coach can help the client.
A client goes to a therapist because he has unresolved issues. He may want to solve his problems with the help of the therapist. Sometimes, the client meets the therapist not because he or she wants to but due to pressure from family, peers or friends. This is why therapy sessions can hurt a client emotionally. This is necessary for the healing process to take place. In essence the process of therapy is all about resolving your past. It is all about letting the past go. It nurtures and strengthens a person’s life. A client goes for life coaching because he wants to go or his company sends him. This is done so as to plan for a better future. It creates more excitement than fear in the customer. A better future is not something to be afraid of. It is all about creating a future. This is a catalyst for change; change for the better.
The functions of therapy and coaching might seem to overlap but in actuality they are different pursuits. Sometimes therapists also work as coaches which might be the reason why people tend to confuse the two. They are not. They are definitely different in their own way.
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About the Author: Sean McPheat provides life coaching and training for people all around the globe. He is the owner of the Life Coaching Studio and he designs and delivers life coach, programmes and mentoring across the UK, Europe, US and the Middle East
Therapy is primarily meant for looking back to establish the route cause of problems. Coaching on the other hand is meant for personal evolution. A therapist focuses on helping clients overcome past problems. These problems are so disruptive that they seem to get in the way of functioning normally. These problems are generally caused by some incidents in the past. Therapists work with the client to resolve these problems by talking about the events in the past. A life coach on the other hand sets goal for the client and generally helps him move forward. He or she helps you in designing your life the way you want it to be. The life coach plays a supporting role and helps you in reaching your goal. These goals can be career oriented, business oriented or any other goal. They can be even goals for health.
A therapist is a qualified person i.e. a therapist requires a certificate to practice. They have to undergo intensive theoretical and practical sessions before they can venture out on their own. A life coach need not have any educational qualifications but there are certification programs available for them as well. It is just that it is not yet required by law for them to do so. A therapist and the client have to reside in the same place whereas for a life coach the client need not be in the same geographical location. The internet makes it easier for the life coach to stay connected with the client.
A relationship between a therapist and the customer is almost like the traditional doctor – patient relationship. The therapy sessions are held at a measured pace. It can take months and even years sometimes for a person to be completely healed. This is not the problem of therapy but the necessity of therapy. The life coach on the other hand is more like a mentor. Life coaching courses are held at a rapid pace. They usually stick to a schedule. Again this is necessary for coaching as it is a forward looking occupation.
The discussions between a client and a therapist are usually one sided. In fact, it is even wrong to say that they discuss, it is more like the client speaks and the therapist listens. It is a monologue with the client speaking. Communication is a two way business for life coaching. It works on discussions. The more the client opens, the better way the life coach can help the client.
A client goes to a therapist because he has unresolved issues. He may want to solve his problems with the help of the therapist. Sometimes, the client meets the therapist not because he or she wants to but due to pressure from family, peers or friends. This is why therapy sessions can hurt a client emotionally. This is necessary for the healing process to take place. In essence the process of therapy is all about resolving your past. It is all about letting the past go. It nurtures and strengthens a person’s life. A client goes for life coaching because he wants to go or his company sends him. This is done so as to plan for a better future. It creates more excitement than fear in the customer. A better future is not something to be afraid of. It is all about creating a future. This is a catalyst for change; change for the better.
The functions of therapy and coaching might seem to overlap but in actuality they are different pursuits. Sometimes therapists also work as coaches which might be the reason why people tend to confuse the two. They are not. They are definitely different in their own way.
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About the Author: Sean McPheat provides life coaching and training for people all around the globe. He is the owner of the Life Coaching Studio and he designs and delivers life coach, programmes and mentoring across the UK, Europe, US and the Middle East
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
How to coach the client that thinks they know it all
To be a life coach is not that easy. Some people think that since giving advice is easy; many of us are into life coaching. How unfair!!! Of course they do not even bother to understand that many of us have undergone life coach training. And unfortunately for many of us, these very people come to us as clients. They are the nightmare clients; clients who think they know it all. A life coach is given life coach training to deal with clients. Life coaching is all about people. The training is really tested when you meet a nightmare client. These people are often arrogant, bossy and downright rude. So, how to coach a client that thinks they know it all? It is not easy. But, there are ways to deal with them too.Firstly, if at the initial meeting itself you can feel that the client is going to create problems; do not agree to life coach him/her. Again, unfortunately it is not an option for all of us. The competition in life coaching is becoming fiercer day by day. Also, if you are just starting out it may be difficult to get clients, so not agreeing to take a client is a luxury that you cannot afford. So, the question remains how do you coach such people?Make it clear to the client that you are the life coach. If, the client was already aware of everything then he/she wouldn’t have come to you. They have come to you because there is something that you have, from which they can learn. Now, when you are explaining this to them make sure that you be very polite. Don’t be rude at all. But, be firm. If you don’t do this at the initial stage itself the problem will only magnify later and the repercussions may not be something that you look forward to. The client may become angry and even start shouting. If this happens keep quiet and let them vent their anger. Sometimes, when a person has let off steam they cool down. They might be angry at something else but might show the anger at you. Talk to them once they have cooled down. Explain it to the client that if this sort of behavior continues it is going to be very difficult to work with them. Make it clear that you are no doormat. He/She needs life coach training and that is why they are there. So, if they want it then it has to be on your terms. When a client sees that you are firm about your stance and that you are not going to be bullied by them then he/she will start respecting you. They will feel validated that they have chosen you as their life coach. Of course, even with all the life coach training resources at your command there might be times when a conflict can take place. In such situations the best way to deal with the situation would be to not lose your control. Make a small concession to restore faith. Then restate the views of the client without becoming angry or shouting. Then explain each point from his point of view. This will make the client believe that you are getting his point. Once you have made his/her view clear you can go about presenting your views. And explain why you are giving that view. Establish common grounds wherever and whenever you can. Use humor to diffuse potentially threatening situations. With larger issues split them into smaller ones. And then you can deal with each small issue one at a time. Never ever make the mistake of making it personal. Always make it a point to remember that the client wouldn’t have come to you if they didn’t feel you had something. So, don’t let the client intimidate you. When you are making an agreement make sure that you have a clause in that which lets you get out of the whole deal. This will ensure that in case of any problem you can get out of the agreement without any legal wrangles. A good life coach can go about the business of life coaching successfully without having know-it-alls as clients.
About the Author: Sean McPheat provides life coaching and training for people all around the globe. He is the owner of the Life Coaching Studio and he designs and delivers life coach, programmes and mentoring across the UK, Europe, US and the Middle East.
About the Author: Sean McPheat provides life coaching and training for people all around the globe. He is the owner of the Life Coaching Studio and he designs and delivers life coach, programmes and mentoring across the UK, Europe, US and the Middle East.
A Life Coach for Britney
Unless you have been under a rock you probably have read or heard about the post-divorce filing antics of pop princess Britney Spears. There have been reports of panty-less trips to clubs and passing out drunk. This morning there was a report indicating that even the stylist was throwing up her hands as Mr. Blackwell placed Britney in a tie for first on his annual “Worst Dressed List.” It would seem that things are not looking good for the girl from Louisiana.For her part Britney does not seem to be ignorant to the turn her life has taken. Shortly after the New Year, Britney posted a “letter” on her official website, www.britneyspears.com, stating among other things:The last couple of years have been very enlightening for me and now that I've had the time to be "me," I've been able to sit down and think about where I want to go with myself as an entertainer with absolutely no strings attached. I am now more mature and feel like I am finally "free”…. I look forward to coming back this year bigger and better than ever.I confess that I am not overly a fan of Britney’s music, with a few exceptions. As a Personal Life Coach, however, I became extremely interested in the context of Britney’s posting. In interviewing potential clients I look for three key indicators of someone being a candidate for coaching:1. The person realizes a need for change.2. The person is willing to make the change.3. The person is able to commit to the hard work required of the coaching process.Although I have never met or consulted with Britney personally, a review of her web posting finds that she indeed meets all three criterions for a positive coaching experience. Her words directly reflect the first two elements and her historical approach to working hard to achieve success is an indicator of the third element.What then could life coaching offer to Britney? Coaching would offer Britney a picture. In a recent interview I was asked why people find themselves spinning their wheels instead of achieving their goals. I stated, "Imagine trying to assemble a jigsaw puzzle without having the picture on the front of the box. You know the pieces are there, but without the picture you suffer endless frustration. I help my clients assemble their talents, skills and experiences into the picture of their life." With Britney you have some great "puzzle pieces" to work with. The challenge, as I see it, is that people are looking to recreate the picture as it was before she went on sabbatical. The undisputable fact is that Britney has changed a lot. She has been married, is a new mother and she has grown as a businesswoman. It would be a mistake to simply try to recreate the “picture” of what Britney was at 20 or 21. At this point Britney needs a new picture of what her life can be. Through coaching Britney’s new picture would equate to more success and happiness than she has ever experienced.Even if you are not a transitioning pop star, coaching is a value-filled resource. An effective strategy for creating a new picture of your life is as follows:1. Prepare a detailed description of what your ideal life would be. Don’t let yourself off the hook by putting in a lot of questions or options. Make specific statements on what your life will be. Write the description as though you are living the life five years from now.2. Break the description down into the natural elements. Some examples of elements may be career, relationship, finances, etc. If you have statements in the description that relate to what your career will be, list those under career. Continue until you have broken the entire description down into the elements.3. Tackle each element individually. Set short and long-term goals to achieve each statement. For example, if part of your ideal life description includes your working as a CPA, but you currently do not have the education to be a CPA, goals would include achieving the appropriate education to be a CPA. Continue this process for each statement.4. When setting goals be sure to create timeframes to complete each goal.5. Find someone to hold you accountable and motivate you for the goals. This person may be a professional, such as a coach, or it may be a trusted friend or family member.6. Continue working the goals until you have created your ideal life.In all likelihood you will find that the detailed description evolves as you work through the elements, statements and goals. This is completely acceptable providing that the description is evolving in tune with your heart’s desire and not with settling for second best. I remain firmly convinced that 2007 is destined to be a successful year for all us; you, me and Britney Spears!
About the Author: Mysty Cain is an Ultra-Success and Personal Life Coach motivating national clients to create amazing lives characterized by power, passion, brilliance and authenticity. Her coaching style is direct and she enables clients to build on important lessons that they encounter in ordinary life. She has been described by clients as the "common sense" coach. Mysty's practice encompasses live, telephone and web-based coaching sessions. She makes her home in Las Vegas, Nevada, with husband Joe, two children and a one-eared cocker spaniel named Van Gogh. She can be contacted at www.livetocapacity.com
About the Author: Mysty Cain is an Ultra-Success and Personal Life Coach motivating national clients to create amazing lives characterized by power, passion, brilliance and authenticity. Her coaching style is direct and she enables clients to build on important lessons that they encounter in ordinary life. She has been described by clients as the "common sense" coach. Mysty's practice encompasses live, telephone and web-based coaching sessions. She makes her home in Las Vegas, Nevada, with husband Joe, two children and a one-eared cocker spaniel named Van Gogh. She can be contacted at www.livetocapacity.com
Executive Coaching Increasingly Important to Organization Success
Over the past five years, a new industry in the area of performance improvement has grown at an exponential rate. That industry is Executive Coaching. Major companies have made coaching a core part of executive development. The idea to engage a coach can originate from either HR or from executives themselves. More and more executives are choosing coaching as a proactive component of their professional life.Presidents, senior vice-presidents, regional managers and senior directors from major privately owned corporations are the main clients of the Executive Coaching Firms. Executive coaching sessions is for top performers who want something more in their life: better balance, a bigger title, larger salary, more responsibility, higher level of effectiveness as a leader and want to work with a person outside of the organization to assist them in getting there.The role of the Executive Coach is to influence clients to think, communicate and act in ways that lead to better results in their highest priorities. Executive coaching firms discovered that executives who use life coaching to achieve balance in their private lives release energy that could be consumed by worry and anxiety. On the same time, recent studies have showed that salespeople who are coached show increases in productivity.Executive Coaching is searching the most important outcomes that the executives wants to achieve, the issues that keep them from achieving those results, and the perspectives they need to reconsider in order to improve results.Executives need someone they can talk to who is outside of the organization and who can provide tailored suggestions for improving results.The Executive Coaching usually offers individual coaching to their clients over the phone, a common format for life coaching, as they serve executives around the globe. Over time, some Executive Coaching Companies learned that the phone was a very limited approach. Telephone conversations only provide input from the client's perspective. It is important for the Executive Coach to spend time with the client in actual business situations. The greater the variety of these situations, the better the overall understanding the coach develops.Executive Coaching is an effective method to improve the performing of a top executive. The objective is to maintain focus on influencing behavior and improving results.
About the Author: Executive Coaching
About the Author: Executive Coaching
Life Coaches – Helping you to help yourself.
In a world of high class entrepreneurs, fast paced urban life and a growing awareness of health and personal potential, the fairly new profession of the life coach seems to have grown into place perfectly.The job of a life coach is to help an individual meet his potential and help them with their problems. Coaching is meant to help a person ‘re-discover’ themselves, draw on their inner strength, and basically wake them up to their potential and help them to make the most of their talents.A coach will become part of your life, your council, your advice, your encouragement and your tutor. Their task is to learn all that they can about you, and then help you learn about yourself. We all have talents, skills and creativity that we are not fully aware of and a life coach will help you identify those and make them work for you. Their job is not like a therapist but more like a best friend or a personal trainer, helping you to develop skills and confidence. The coaching usually requires very candid self-examination and may involve large personal upheaval.Life coaches are trained professionals. If you seek one you should look for credentials from a therapy, counselling, or mentoring background. Most coaches will have some kind of background in people skills and accreditation from an official life coaching institution. While many of these credentials are not recognised formally, there are a wide variety of groups that teach the skills necessary to be a life coach and their tutelage will provide the coach with a wide skill set. Most coaches already have a natural flair for identifying strengths and weaknesses, social work, counselling and a genuine desire to help people.Some groups argue that life coaching is fraudulent. Due to the fact that it is not a government regulated institution, any person can claim to be a life coach and with a degree of acting and psychology can make you believe that their help is changing your life. However a wide majority believe that life coaching is a wonderful way of turning your life around or giving you a positive new outlook on the world. People often come away from sessions feeling wiser, stronger, more in touch with themselves, and more capable of reaching their goals.
About the Author: John Gibb is the owner of life coach guidanceFor more information on life coaching check out http://www.life-coach-did-u-know.info
About the Author: John Gibb is the owner of life coach guidanceFor more information on life coaching check out http://www.life-coach-did-u-know.info
Monday, February 25, 2008
How Thoughts Create Matter
Did you ever have the feeling right before something good happened, that you knew it was going to happen?
Most people don't understand it, and think it's ESP or something like of that nature.
In the book Think And Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill, he says "...thought, backed by strong DESIRE, has the tendency to transmute itself into its physical equivalent."
Very Powerful stuff!
As I like to say, "Matter is Merely Materialized Thought...So What Are You Thinking?"
Many people have asked me what that means, so here's an explanation...
Back in 1937 when Napoleon Hill published his book Think And Grow Rich, he knew something very powerful but, I'm not certain the science behind it was so well understood. Of course, the principle was very well understood and probably by Mr. Hill more than anyone!
Here's the short not too scientific explanation:
Everything we see on any given day is made up of not just cells or atoms but, of PURE ENERGY.
This energy is called Quanta (plural for Quantum). Keep in mind Quanta is the unit measure of pure energy. These Quanta are part of what Quantum Physics is based on.
This energy exists only when observed. (There are a lot of arguments about observation and they all have their validity but lets keep it simple.)
Scientists say that Quanta are not a reality but instead they are a probability that exist in any given point in time. So when a person focuses on (observes) a thing, it exists!
This is because this Quanta, is now formed into the thing whatever it may be.
Many scientist, Einstein included have proved that Quanta are not bound to space and time and can exist anywhere.
These scientists also understand that your mind, body and soul are also made up of these Quanta and Quanta are influenced by other Quanta.
In other words your mind and the minds of others, create and co-create everything through influencing Quanta!
Now here's the practical explanation:
Knowing now what your mind is capable of, if you were to focus your own energy into creating what you desire in your mind with crystal clarity, it will come to you at amazing speed!
Now, this creation process is not just thought. It is both thought and work! These two together seal the deal.
This is why many of the experts out there tell you that you just can't be scattered. You have to focus on your ultimate goal.
Guess what? They are all right! All of these things together solidify what you're thinking.
THIS my friend is the "Secret" behind all of the Goal setting, the Meditation, the Master-Minding, Learning, Persistence, Action, Desire and Faith that we all are told that we must have or do.
Without these, our thoughts are controlled by outside influence and we lose our clarity and focus.
Have you ever heard, a successful person talk about how fast success seemed to come to them and how well they did in no time flat? I've heard many of these. The reason is that they knew exactly what they wanted and worked toward it. Simple as that.
One such example is a man by the name of Matt Bacak - PowerfulPromoter.com who is actually one of the inspirations for this article. I was on a tele-seminar with Matt once and he talked about how everything came to him so fast, once he knew what he wanted and started working toward it. Matt didn't know it but, his thoughts triggered my thoughts and the creation of this article!
Make no mistake, that although there are scientific explanations for the creation of matter through observation; WHO do you think created the matter in the mirror?
After all do you think that science didn't have a master observer?
Finally with that said...
Be cautious of your thoughts, they have the power to create!
Author BioRasheed Ali was once homeless and penniless on the streets of New York and is now helping to change the lives of THOUSANDS of people around the world with his innovative coaching, mentoring and newsletters. He is the worlds first Solution Coach and 80/20 Mentor. You can learn more about him and his newsletters at www.SleepYourWayToRiches.com
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Most people don't understand it, and think it's ESP or something like of that nature.
In the book Think And Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill, he says "...thought, backed by strong DESIRE, has the tendency to transmute itself into its physical equivalent."
Very Powerful stuff!
As I like to say, "Matter is Merely Materialized Thought...So What Are You Thinking?"
Many people have asked me what that means, so here's an explanation...
Back in 1937 when Napoleon Hill published his book Think And Grow Rich, he knew something very powerful but, I'm not certain the science behind it was so well understood. Of course, the principle was very well understood and probably by Mr. Hill more than anyone!
Here's the short not too scientific explanation:
Everything we see on any given day is made up of not just cells or atoms but, of PURE ENERGY.
This energy is called Quanta (plural for Quantum). Keep in mind Quanta is the unit measure of pure energy. These Quanta are part of what Quantum Physics is based on.
This energy exists only when observed. (There are a lot of arguments about observation and they all have their validity but lets keep it simple.)
Scientists say that Quanta are not a reality but instead they are a probability that exist in any given point in time. So when a person focuses on (observes) a thing, it exists!
This is because this Quanta, is now formed into the thing whatever it may be.
Many scientist, Einstein included have proved that Quanta are not bound to space and time and can exist anywhere.
These scientists also understand that your mind, body and soul are also made up of these Quanta and Quanta are influenced by other Quanta.
In other words your mind and the minds of others, create and co-create everything through influencing Quanta!
Now here's the practical explanation:
Knowing now what your mind is capable of, if you were to focus your own energy into creating what you desire in your mind with crystal clarity, it will come to you at amazing speed!
Now, this creation process is not just thought. It is both thought and work! These two together seal the deal.
This is why many of the experts out there tell you that you just can't be scattered. You have to focus on your ultimate goal.
Guess what? They are all right! All of these things together solidify what you're thinking.
THIS my friend is the "Secret" behind all of the Goal setting, the Meditation, the Master-Minding, Learning, Persistence, Action, Desire and Faith that we all are told that we must have or do.
Without these, our thoughts are controlled by outside influence and we lose our clarity and focus.
Have you ever heard, a successful person talk about how fast success seemed to come to them and how well they did in no time flat? I've heard many of these. The reason is that they knew exactly what they wanted and worked toward it. Simple as that.
One such example is a man by the name of Matt Bacak - PowerfulPromoter.com who is actually one of the inspirations for this article. I was on a tele-seminar with Matt once and he talked about how everything came to him so fast, once he knew what he wanted and started working toward it. Matt didn't know it but, his thoughts triggered my thoughts and the creation of this article!
Make no mistake, that although there are scientific explanations for the creation of matter through observation; WHO do you think created the matter in the mirror?
After all do you think that science didn't have a master observer?
Finally with that said...
Be cautious of your thoughts, they have the power to create!
Author BioRasheed Ali was once homeless and penniless on the streets of New York and is now helping to change the lives of THOUSANDS of people around the world with his innovative coaching, mentoring and newsletters. He is the worlds first Solution Coach and 80/20 Mentor. You can learn more about him and his newsletters at www.SleepYourWayToRiches.com
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Could you use a 'Stop Doing' list?
One of the tried and true organization and time-management tools is the trusty old "to do" list. I was trained to diligently put one together at the end of the day for the following day, and whatever tasks I failed to complete, to carry it forward. This system has worked well in helping me prioritize and focus. But I have also heard many of my colleagues complain about having too much on their list, and feeling very discouraged and overwhelmed by the sheer number of items on their "To Do" list. To help ease the overwhelm, I want to introduce the concept of the "Stop Doing" list.
I first read about the "Stop Doing" list in "Good to Great" by Jim Collins. He stated that one of the commonalities of the companies who were able to propel themselves from being just good to being great is that they all looked at what they were currently doing that they needed to Stop Doing. I am implementing this idea in a slightly different way, but I think a "Stop Doing" list can actually help your productivity and effectiveness.
So how do you decide what goes on your "Stop Doing" list? Here's what I suggest you do.
For the next week or two, each time you work on your "to do" list (and if you are not using one currently, I strongly recommend you start), or blocking off time for specific tasks in you planner, ask yourself this question: "does this task add value or generate positive results for me and my organization?" If the answer is no, it should go right on top of your "Stop Doing" list.
If the answer is "yes", ask yourself a second question: "am I the best person to do this task?" The first question tells you whether you can eliminate a task. This question tells you whether you can delegate a task. I know for solo-business people, you automatically think that you have no one to delegate any tasks to. But actually, that might not necessarily be true. Today, there is a whole network of virtual assistants who can handle a myriad of administrative work for you. Some accept work by the hour, and some accept work by the project. If you are interested in this resource, check out www.assistu.com
For some people, you may have to then overcome your resistance to delegating. I've heard many of the reasons. Do these sound familiar?
"By the time I explain it to someone else, I could have done it myself."
"I can't trust somebody else to do it right."
"It costs too much money." Some of these are completely legitimate concerns. However, before you dismiss the idea, consider the following:
Is the task repetitive so that the up-front time investment to train someone is actually worth it 3 months down the road?
Are you the most qualified person to complete the task, or could someone else do it in less time with less effort for better results?
If you didn't have to do the task, what would you choose to spend that time on, and what impact will that have on your business, or your life? So, after considering these tough questions, add your delegated task to your "Stop Doing" list as well and send them elsewhere, and I guarantee you will feel better.
Even though I wrote this article for people struggling with overload at work, the same approach can be applied to create a "Stop Doing" list for home. Think of the possibilities - you can delegate laundry, and cooking, and yard work, and cleaning, and what else?
Seriously, the current state of our lives is that there is generally too much to do and not enough time. So, go through this exercise at least once and see what you can shed from your "to do" list. If you like the results, then establish a routine and do this every 6 months or a year. The point is that you want to spend your time on high impact tasks, and work that you enjoy.
Author BioAre your business results suffering due to an ineffective leadership team? Find out what coaching with Inez Ng can do for your leadership team at www.Realizationsunltd.com Want to know about saving time handling emails? Check out her ebook at http://easyemailstrategies.com.
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I first read about the "Stop Doing" list in "Good to Great" by Jim Collins. He stated that one of the commonalities of the companies who were able to propel themselves from being just good to being great is that they all looked at what they were currently doing that they needed to Stop Doing. I am implementing this idea in a slightly different way, but I think a "Stop Doing" list can actually help your productivity and effectiveness.
So how do you decide what goes on your "Stop Doing" list? Here's what I suggest you do.
For the next week or two, each time you work on your "to do" list (and if you are not using one currently, I strongly recommend you start), or blocking off time for specific tasks in you planner, ask yourself this question: "does this task add value or generate positive results for me and my organization?" If the answer is no, it should go right on top of your "Stop Doing" list.
If the answer is "yes", ask yourself a second question: "am I the best person to do this task?" The first question tells you whether you can eliminate a task. This question tells you whether you can delegate a task. I know for solo-business people, you automatically think that you have no one to delegate any tasks to. But actually, that might not necessarily be true. Today, there is a whole network of virtual assistants who can handle a myriad of administrative work for you. Some accept work by the hour, and some accept work by the project. If you are interested in this resource, check out www.assistu.com
For some people, you may have to then overcome your resistance to delegating. I've heard many of the reasons. Do these sound familiar?
"By the time I explain it to someone else, I could have done it myself."
"I can't trust somebody else to do it right."
"It costs too much money." Some of these are completely legitimate concerns. However, before you dismiss the idea, consider the following:
Is the task repetitive so that the up-front time investment to train someone is actually worth it 3 months down the road?
Are you the most qualified person to complete the task, or could someone else do it in less time with less effort for better results?
If you didn't have to do the task, what would you choose to spend that time on, and what impact will that have on your business, or your life? So, after considering these tough questions, add your delegated task to your "Stop Doing" list as well and send them elsewhere, and I guarantee you will feel better.
Even though I wrote this article for people struggling with overload at work, the same approach can be applied to create a "Stop Doing" list for home. Think of the possibilities - you can delegate laundry, and cooking, and yard work, and cleaning, and what else?
Seriously, the current state of our lives is that there is generally too much to do and not enough time. So, go through this exercise at least once and see what you can shed from your "to do" list. If you like the results, then establish a routine and do this every 6 months or a year. The point is that you want to spend your time on high impact tasks, and work that you enjoy.
Author BioAre your business results suffering due to an ineffective leadership team? Find out what coaching with Inez Ng can do for your leadership team at www.Realizationsunltd.com Want to know about saving time handling emails? Check out her ebook at http://easyemailstrategies.com.
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Connecting With Bliss
Every day, I witness people leading chaotic lifestyles, responding like robots to the negative circumstances of their lives, creating more dissonance and conflict. They seek solace in the next best thing, person or position they can find, but always end up frustrated and wondering why they are not truly happy. It is a conundrum of sorts. Sadly, it is self-perpetuating. Stress, negativity and unpleasant reactions to everyday situations only beget more of the same experiences on a deeper level. This, of course, creates undue stress on your body, mind and spirit.
Letting the stress of unplanned or unwanted events influence the way you react to and view the world will always lead to turmoil. Living with a mind-set of negativity and fear will blind you to the miraculous flow of bliss, which is within and around you always.
I spent the better part of twenty years frustrated and unhappy with my life. Although I accomplished much more than I could ever have imagined possible, I still lived in a state of dissatisfaction. One would think being a Navy SEAL (the elite special warfare unit) would have been the pinnacle of my life, but I looked upon my military profession with disdain. Then I was living my childhood dream, playing guitar in a rock band, but irritability and aggravation permeated the mood of that environment. Years later, while running my scuba diving company, a day job that many people envied, I felt only petulance and exasperation. I dated many great women from all walks of life, but all my relationships ended in disaster. I moved from state to state, career to career and woman to woman, with no psychological or emotional liberation. I felt lost and I was suffering. I was wasting this precious life and something had to change. And one day, it did.
I often hiked to help temporarily alleviate the stress in my life. Being in the mountains took me to another place where I could, if only for a short time, escape the turmoil of my life. Waking up one morning angrier and more stressed than usual, I decided to forego work and hike a mountain near my home. As I stomped my way to the top, each footstep reverberated with anger. Hiking always helped relieve my anxiety, but I was finding little release this day. I knew I could not go on living like this. I had to figure something out, and fast. For almost a decade, I was unhappy and frustrated with wherever I was and with whatever I was doing. I knew my own choices had brought me to where I was, but that only made me feel worse. I had made the choices, so I must have deserved to feel that way. Despite my best efforts, I was not where I thought I would be. My business was extremely time-consuming and stressful, money always seemed short, my relationships were disastrous and I felt utterly alone in the world.
When I reached the summit, I found a quiet place to sit and think. I looked out and took in the beauty of the mountains and lakes. The warm summer breeze felt good on my face, and the many sounds of nature slightly quieted my mind and eased my tension. Exhausted, I laid back on a huge boulder to relax. I felt helpless and I prayed for an answer to come my way. My head was pounding so I closed my eyes and quickly fell asleep. I woke about forty minutes later, feeling kind of strange.
As I refocused my vision out over the breathtaking landscape, everything seemed surreal. It was so quiet, peaceful and unaffected by the chaotic state of the world. It was as if my worries and frustration were still sleeping. For a moment I thought perhaps I was just dreaming, but I was not. I wondered why life could not be this peaceful all the time. I took a deep breath and felt myself expanding into the vastness of the mountains. For the moment, I was on top of the world. Anything seemed feasible, and my mind was open to all the amazing possibilities of what I could do and be. I was elated-in a pure state of momentary ecstasy. If only it could last.
Quietly relishing the moment, I had what some might call an epiphany. I realized that all my problems were still waiting for me at the bottom of this mountain. Nothing had changed, yet something seemed very different. Why was I so happy here and now on the top of this mountain, but not happy at the bottom?
I sat thinking about this for a while, and then something occurred to me. I had heard it many times before, but never really grasped the concept. Bliss is a state of mind-a choice, a simple choice. While sleeping on the mountain, I had unconsciously connected with the flowing bliss of life. What if I actively chose to stay in this state as I hiked down the trail? Would it work, could it work? I decided to try. I figured if I could mentally bring myself back to this spot whenever I began to feel stressed or overwhelmed, I could reconnect with that feeling of bliss.
Before I left the serene summit for the turbid waters of normal life, I captured the essence of the moment in my head. I took a mental snapshot of the scenery, the smells, the sounds, and how I felt at that moment in time-empty of stress, full of peace. What I did next was the key to my success; in my mind, I created a Bliss Box-a special gold box for that moment to exist. In it, I put the embodiment of everything that helped to create the perfect peace I felt. I tied up the box with a gold ribbon and placed it on a storage shelf in my mind. I knew I could count on opening it later, and in the days that followed I was thoroughly amazed to find how well my Bliss Box worked.
Sometimes you can't control the situations you find yourself in, but you can control your emotions and your actions. By creating your own Bliss Box, you can find peace and harmony any time you choose.
It is said that to be human is to suffer, and yes this world can be a painful, harsh place. But it is the way you look at things that dictates the circumstances surrounding your life and the way you perceive the world. Contentment comes from within, and no amount of searching or material gain will lead you to blissful living. You and only you hold the key to happiness-use it often.
Author BioDavid Ferruolo is the author of 'Connecting with the Bliss of Life; Powerful Lessons for Living a Peaceful and Happy Life.' He is a former Navy SEAL, who has chosen a spiritual path. A lifetime of interest in philosophies and metaphysics gives David a vast knowledge bank of information for his writing and life coaching practice. David's life has been nothing less than inspirational. Visit his website at www.daveferruolo.com
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Letting the stress of unplanned or unwanted events influence the way you react to and view the world will always lead to turmoil. Living with a mind-set of negativity and fear will blind you to the miraculous flow of bliss, which is within and around you always.
I spent the better part of twenty years frustrated and unhappy with my life. Although I accomplished much more than I could ever have imagined possible, I still lived in a state of dissatisfaction. One would think being a Navy SEAL (the elite special warfare unit) would have been the pinnacle of my life, but I looked upon my military profession with disdain. Then I was living my childhood dream, playing guitar in a rock band, but irritability and aggravation permeated the mood of that environment. Years later, while running my scuba diving company, a day job that many people envied, I felt only petulance and exasperation. I dated many great women from all walks of life, but all my relationships ended in disaster. I moved from state to state, career to career and woman to woman, with no psychological or emotional liberation. I felt lost and I was suffering. I was wasting this precious life and something had to change. And one day, it did.
I often hiked to help temporarily alleviate the stress in my life. Being in the mountains took me to another place where I could, if only for a short time, escape the turmoil of my life. Waking up one morning angrier and more stressed than usual, I decided to forego work and hike a mountain near my home. As I stomped my way to the top, each footstep reverberated with anger. Hiking always helped relieve my anxiety, but I was finding little release this day. I knew I could not go on living like this. I had to figure something out, and fast. For almost a decade, I was unhappy and frustrated with wherever I was and with whatever I was doing. I knew my own choices had brought me to where I was, but that only made me feel worse. I had made the choices, so I must have deserved to feel that way. Despite my best efforts, I was not where I thought I would be. My business was extremely time-consuming and stressful, money always seemed short, my relationships were disastrous and I felt utterly alone in the world.
When I reached the summit, I found a quiet place to sit and think. I looked out and took in the beauty of the mountains and lakes. The warm summer breeze felt good on my face, and the many sounds of nature slightly quieted my mind and eased my tension. Exhausted, I laid back on a huge boulder to relax. I felt helpless and I prayed for an answer to come my way. My head was pounding so I closed my eyes and quickly fell asleep. I woke about forty minutes later, feeling kind of strange.
As I refocused my vision out over the breathtaking landscape, everything seemed surreal. It was so quiet, peaceful and unaffected by the chaotic state of the world. It was as if my worries and frustration were still sleeping. For a moment I thought perhaps I was just dreaming, but I was not. I wondered why life could not be this peaceful all the time. I took a deep breath and felt myself expanding into the vastness of the mountains. For the moment, I was on top of the world. Anything seemed feasible, and my mind was open to all the amazing possibilities of what I could do and be. I was elated-in a pure state of momentary ecstasy. If only it could last.
Quietly relishing the moment, I had what some might call an epiphany. I realized that all my problems were still waiting for me at the bottom of this mountain. Nothing had changed, yet something seemed very different. Why was I so happy here and now on the top of this mountain, but not happy at the bottom?
I sat thinking about this for a while, and then something occurred to me. I had heard it many times before, but never really grasped the concept. Bliss is a state of mind-a choice, a simple choice. While sleeping on the mountain, I had unconsciously connected with the flowing bliss of life. What if I actively chose to stay in this state as I hiked down the trail? Would it work, could it work? I decided to try. I figured if I could mentally bring myself back to this spot whenever I began to feel stressed or overwhelmed, I could reconnect with that feeling of bliss.
Before I left the serene summit for the turbid waters of normal life, I captured the essence of the moment in my head. I took a mental snapshot of the scenery, the smells, the sounds, and how I felt at that moment in time-empty of stress, full of peace. What I did next was the key to my success; in my mind, I created a Bliss Box-a special gold box for that moment to exist. In it, I put the embodiment of everything that helped to create the perfect peace I felt. I tied up the box with a gold ribbon and placed it on a storage shelf in my mind. I knew I could count on opening it later, and in the days that followed I was thoroughly amazed to find how well my Bliss Box worked.
Sometimes you can't control the situations you find yourself in, but you can control your emotions and your actions. By creating your own Bliss Box, you can find peace and harmony any time you choose.
It is said that to be human is to suffer, and yes this world can be a painful, harsh place. But it is the way you look at things that dictates the circumstances surrounding your life and the way you perceive the world. Contentment comes from within, and no amount of searching or material gain will lead you to blissful living. You and only you hold the key to happiness-use it often.
Author BioDavid Ferruolo is the author of 'Connecting with the Bliss of Life; Powerful Lessons for Living a Peaceful and Happy Life.' He is a former Navy SEAL, who has chosen a spiritual path. A lifetime of interest in philosophies and metaphysics gives David a vast knowledge bank of information for his writing and life coaching practice. David's life has been nothing less than inspirational. Visit his website at www.daveferruolo.com
Article Source: http://www.ArticleGeek.com
Sunday, February 24, 2008
The Hidden Effects of Childhood Maltreatment and How Life Coaching Can Help
Violence against women is one of the primary health problems facing adults today. Many people are not aware that childhood maltreatment is a powerful risk factor for health problems in adulthood. Its victims can suffer lifelong health effects.
Maltreatment is best viewed as a risk factor for a wide range of subsequent health problems. Were you neglected, sexually abused or physically abused as a child? An important step is to face the truth about how you suffered as a child. Health effects have to be assessed within a developmental perspective. There are several avenues by which abuse can affect health.
The first avenue is physiological. Traumatic events can alter the brain and body. The human system of self defense becomes disorganized and overwhelmed. Traumatic events produce profound changes in physiological arousal. The nervous system becomes sensitized and comes to anticipate trauma. There can be dental, vision or hearing problems. An adult can suffer from headaches, backaches, chest pain, pelvic pain, chronic pain and fatigue.
A second way that abuse that affect health is behavioral. Adult survivors may engage in harmful actions or behaviors and become very self destructive. Some behavioral examples are self-injury, shame, suicide attempts, eating disorders, high risk sexual activity, compulsive spending and gambling and substance misuse. These behaviors may be used to numb feelings so the pain can be coped with. These high risk behaviors can impact health.
A third avenue is cognitive - child abuse is associated with distorted beliefs and perceptions about one’s self and one’s behaviors. These negative beliefs can undermine health and lead to low self-esteem, self blame and feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy. It may be common for adults to have perceptions of helplessness, chronic danger and consequent hyper-vigilance. An adult may become shamed-based and feel they are worthless, unacceptable and bad. This vicious cycle can drive a victim inside a private world of suffering, loss of power, re-victimization and deep self doubt. Beliefs can certainly impact health.
Interpersonal difficulties is another avenue. Adults survivors can have difficulties in their adult relationships. Examples include difficulties in trusting others, inability to set boundaries, avoidance of intimacy and close relationships and sexual difficulties. These difficulties can result in social isolation, marital disruptions and divorce. Past maltreatment or victimization can set up an adult victim for relationship failures. This can lead to poor health outcomes.
Finally, the fifth avenue can be in the area of emotional difficulties. An adult victim can have anxiety, fear, terror, and sadness. They may adopt a position of surrendering to life and feel they are abandoned to their fate. They may develop antisocial behaviors that isolate them in relating to others. An adult may suffer from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder which can significantly impact daily life. Another result could be depression and that disorder can have a devastating affect on health.
A history of childhood victimization and maltreatment can have a significant impact on adult health. It can be associated with a range of difficulties in adulthood.
Developing healthier coping skills is a major focus of personal coaching with an adult who has this history. Coaching can assist an adult in managing stress more effectively. Personal coaching can help an adult to learn to nurture and care for themselves. There is alot of power in self care. You deserve to live a most joyful and healthy life and personal coaching can assist you on your path to extreme self care and wellness.
About The Author
Debra Tullis, MSW, LCSW, BCD is a life coach and a clinical therapist. She has a Master’s Degree in Social Work and worked in the social service field for the last 24 years. She is Board Certified in Clinical Social Work and is working toward a certification in life coaching. She is the owner of Coaching for the Good Life and is a member of the International Coach Federation, Coachville, and the International Association of Coaches. To learn more about Debra’s services email her at lifeisgood2@sbcglobal.net or visit her website at www.coachingforthegoodlife.com.
Maltreatment is best viewed as a risk factor for a wide range of subsequent health problems. Were you neglected, sexually abused or physically abused as a child? An important step is to face the truth about how you suffered as a child. Health effects have to be assessed within a developmental perspective. There are several avenues by which abuse can affect health.
The first avenue is physiological. Traumatic events can alter the brain and body. The human system of self defense becomes disorganized and overwhelmed. Traumatic events produce profound changes in physiological arousal. The nervous system becomes sensitized and comes to anticipate trauma. There can be dental, vision or hearing problems. An adult can suffer from headaches, backaches, chest pain, pelvic pain, chronic pain and fatigue.
A second way that abuse that affect health is behavioral. Adult survivors may engage in harmful actions or behaviors and become very self destructive. Some behavioral examples are self-injury, shame, suicide attempts, eating disorders, high risk sexual activity, compulsive spending and gambling and substance misuse. These behaviors may be used to numb feelings so the pain can be coped with. These high risk behaviors can impact health.
A third avenue is cognitive - child abuse is associated with distorted beliefs and perceptions about one’s self and one’s behaviors. These negative beliefs can undermine health and lead to low self-esteem, self blame and feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy. It may be common for adults to have perceptions of helplessness, chronic danger and consequent hyper-vigilance. An adult may become shamed-based and feel they are worthless, unacceptable and bad. This vicious cycle can drive a victim inside a private world of suffering, loss of power, re-victimization and deep self doubt. Beliefs can certainly impact health.
Interpersonal difficulties is another avenue. Adults survivors can have difficulties in their adult relationships. Examples include difficulties in trusting others, inability to set boundaries, avoidance of intimacy and close relationships and sexual difficulties. These difficulties can result in social isolation, marital disruptions and divorce. Past maltreatment or victimization can set up an adult victim for relationship failures. This can lead to poor health outcomes.
Finally, the fifth avenue can be in the area of emotional difficulties. An adult victim can have anxiety, fear, terror, and sadness. They may adopt a position of surrendering to life and feel they are abandoned to their fate. They may develop antisocial behaviors that isolate them in relating to others. An adult may suffer from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder which can significantly impact daily life. Another result could be depression and that disorder can have a devastating affect on health.
A history of childhood victimization and maltreatment can have a significant impact on adult health. It can be associated with a range of difficulties in adulthood.
Developing healthier coping skills is a major focus of personal coaching with an adult who has this history. Coaching can assist an adult in managing stress more effectively. Personal coaching can help an adult to learn to nurture and care for themselves. There is alot of power in self care. You deserve to live a most joyful and healthy life and personal coaching can assist you on your path to extreme self care and wellness.
About The Author
Debra Tullis, MSW, LCSW, BCD is a life coach and a clinical therapist. She has a Master’s Degree in Social Work and worked in the social service field for the last 24 years. She is Board Certified in Clinical Social Work and is working toward a certification in life coaching. She is the owner of Coaching for the Good Life and is a member of the International Coach Federation, Coachville, and the International Association of Coaches. To learn more about Debra’s services email her at lifeisgood2@sbcglobal.net or visit her website at www.coachingforthegoodlife.com.
Developing a Marketing Mindset in Life Coaching: Part Two
In a previous ezine we discussed the distinction between an Influencing Paradigm, and a Service Paradigm, to marketing your coaching business. We discussed how marketing your business is both ethically valid and commercially crucial, and how marketing is a critical process in achieving your coaching objective of having a positive impact on the lives of others.
To quickly surmise, we explained that people with an Influencing Paradigm mindset perceive marketing to be ‘leading’ and ‘salesy.’ They come from the paradigm that by marketing you are proactively influencing someone in their decisions. Or specifically that you may make someone do something they would not otherwise do.
People from the Service Paradigm school of thought accept that prospects are people that have identified for themselves their need to invoke change. And they’ve identified that a coach will assist them make that change. They recognise that the prospect has made the intellectual link between their needs and how they want those needs to be fulfilled.
To be a successful coach, or in fact successful in any business, it’s critical that you embrace a Service Paradigm mindset toward your marketing.
In this article we’re going to further explore exactly how you can develop a Service Paradigm marketing mindset.
Before we can begin to discuss how you can develop your Service Paradigm mindset, let’s look at some of the characteristics. Coaches with a Service Paradigm recognise that to assist clients meet their objectives, they need to:
- Recognise that everyone in business is in the business of marketing. Without clients they’ll have no one to deliver their services too and hence no one to assist.
- Actively promote their services through compelling advertising that clearly describes what they can offer clients.
- Ethically promote their services with vigilance.
- Recognise the cycle of life of their prospects and regularly promote their services for as long as prospects allow.
- Understand that hey are often in a superior position of knowledge to ascertain what their client needs to assist them attain their goals.
- Be empathic to the needs of clients and actively offer solutions to them through various products and services.
- Value their client’s intellect and decision making ability.
- Not pre-empt their client’s wants and hence limit the range and scope of products and services they offer them.
- Always acts as an ethical adviser.
As a coach, to outwit your competitors you must create a niche; and to build a successful business you must attain a Service Paradigm marketing mindset.
To develop your Service Paradigm marketing mindset:
1. Be determined to succeed. You need to be absolutely determined that you’re going to succeed. If you just want to succeed, but you’re not willing to go the extra mile, you’ll get swept aside by those that are more determined. If you are truly determined, you’ll be confident and this confidence will automatically show in your business and be transparent to prospective clients, peers and the general public. Prospective clients will want to be associated with you, and clients will want to continue their involvement.
2. Persevere. Coaches with a marketing mindset embrace challenges as part of life and part of business. If you perceive challenges as impassable barriers you’ll never develop a marketing mindset. It’s crucial you accept you’re going to confront hurdles as part of business. How you perceive these hurdles, as opportunities or barriers, will drastically influence your level of success. Perseverance is a key ingredient in developing a marketing mindset.
3. Remain positive. Literally nothing destroys a marketing mindset more than a negative attitude. A marketing mindset is a ‘can do’ attitude. Faced with the same challenge, the coach with a positive ‘can do’ marketing mindset will find a way; the coach with a defeatist attitude will submit and fail.
4. Set Goals. As a coach this is something you should know a lot about. Set yourself specific, achievable, stretch goals.
5. Plan a strategy. Establish a specific plan of action to attain your goals. Identify what resources you’ll need and the possible challenges you may confront.
6. Implement your plan. This is the most difficult part. Implementation of your plan. Modify it where required, change your goals as others are attained, modify your plan if flaws are perceived, but always continue implementing. Non-action is the precursor of business failure. If you continue to implement, your business will always sustain forward momentum. If you have momentum, your direction (goals and plans) can always be adjusted.
7. Keep marketing. Your success or failure hinges on your marketing. Always maintain your marketing mindset. Always be focussed on marketing. It’s a common trap to get caught up in the day to day ‘operation’ of your business and put marketing aside. This is a recipe for disaster. How effectively you market will be the most influential determinant on the success (or otherwise) of your business. Marketing is not difficult or confusing, but it does require significant ongoing diligence and attention. The moment you lose focus on marketing your business is the moment your business performance will suffer.
About The Author
This article was produced by the Life Coaching Institute, Australia’s leading coach training organisation. If you enjoyed this article and would like a FREE EDUCATIONAL GIFT, visit us at www.lcia.com.au/lz.
You may reproduce this content if you: a) Use it in it’s original form with NO changes; b) Notify LCI of such use at lci@lcia.com.au including your name, email address, the destination where the content has been published; and c) Include the byline “ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Life Coaching Institute is Australia’s leading coach training organisation. Learn more about LCI coach training programs and receive a FREE GIFT at www.lcia.com.au/lz.”
pedro@lcia.com.au
To quickly surmise, we explained that people with an Influencing Paradigm mindset perceive marketing to be ‘leading’ and ‘salesy.’ They come from the paradigm that by marketing you are proactively influencing someone in their decisions. Or specifically that you may make someone do something they would not otherwise do.
People from the Service Paradigm school of thought accept that prospects are people that have identified for themselves their need to invoke change. And they’ve identified that a coach will assist them make that change. They recognise that the prospect has made the intellectual link between their needs and how they want those needs to be fulfilled.
To be a successful coach, or in fact successful in any business, it’s critical that you embrace a Service Paradigm mindset toward your marketing.
In this article we’re going to further explore exactly how you can develop a Service Paradigm marketing mindset.
Before we can begin to discuss how you can develop your Service Paradigm mindset, let’s look at some of the characteristics. Coaches with a Service Paradigm recognise that to assist clients meet their objectives, they need to:
- Recognise that everyone in business is in the business of marketing. Without clients they’ll have no one to deliver their services too and hence no one to assist.
- Actively promote their services through compelling advertising that clearly describes what they can offer clients.
- Ethically promote their services with vigilance.
- Recognise the cycle of life of their prospects and regularly promote their services for as long as prospects allow.
- Understand that hey are often in a superior position of knowledge to ascertain what their client needs to assist them attain their goals.
- Be empathic to the needs of clients and actively offer solutions to them through various products and services.
- Value their client’s intellect and decision making ability.
- Not pre-empt their client’s wants and hence limit the range and scope of products and services they offer them.
- Always acts as an ethical adviser.
As a coach, to outwit your competitors you must create a niche; and to build a successful business you must attain a Service Paradigm marketing mindset.
To develop your Service Paradigm marketing mindset:
1. Be determined to succeed. You need to be absolutely determined that you’re going to succeed. If you just want to succeed, but you’re not willing to go the extra mile, you’ll get swept aside by those that are more determined. If you are truly determined, you’ll be confident and this confidence will automatically show in your business and be transparent to prospective clients, peers and the general public. Prospective clients will want to be associated with you, and clients will want to continue their involvement.
2. Persevere. Coaches with a marketing mindset embrace challenges as part of life and part of business. If you perceive challenges as impassable barriers you’ll never develop a marketing mindset. It’s crucial you accept you’re going to confront hurdles as part of business. How you perceive these hurdles, as opportunities or barriers, will drastically influence your level of success. Perseverance is a key ingredient in developing a marketing mindset.
3. Remain positive. Literally nothing destroys a marketing mindset more than a negative attitude. A marketing mindset is a ‘can do’ attitude. Faced with the same challenge, the coach with a positive ‘can do’ marketing mindset will find a way; the coach with a defeatist attitude will submit and fail.
4. Set Goals. As a coach this is something you should know a lot about. Set yourself specific, achievable, stretch goals.
5. Plan a strategy. Establish a specific plan of action to attain your goals. Identify what resources you’ll need and the possible challenges you may confront.
6. Implement your plan. This is the most difficult part. Implementation of your plan. Modify it where required, change your goals as others are attained, modify your plan if flaws are perceived, but always continue implementing. Non-action is the precursor of business failure. If you continue to implement, your business will always sustain forward momentum. If you have momentum, your direction (goals and plans) can always be adjusted.
7. Keep marketing. Your success or failure hinges on your marketing. Always maintain your marketing mindset. Always be focussed on marketing. It’s a common trap to get caught up in the day to day ‘operation’ of your business and put marketing aside. This is a recipe for disaster. How effectively you market will be the most influential determinant on the success (or otherwise) of your business. Marketing is not difficult or confusing, but it does require significant ongoing diligence and attention. The moment you lose focus on marketing your business is the moment your business performance will suffer.
About The Author
This article was produced by the Life Coaching Institute, Australia’s leading coach training organisation. If you enjoyed this article and would like a FREE EDUCATIONAL GIFT, visit us at www.lcia.com.au/lz.
You may reproduce this content if you: a) Use it in it’s original form with NO changes; b) Notify LCI of such use at lci@lcia.com.au including your name, email address, the destination where the content has been published; and c) Include the byline “ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Life Coaching Institute is Australia’s leading coach training organisation. Learn more about LCI coach training programs and receive a FREE GIFT at www.lcia.com.au/lz.”
pedro@lcia.com.au
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