Many people who think that they have no direction in their lives will go to a life coach for assistance. In order to help you achieve your goals and plans for the future, a life coach can help you get your life back on track. Quality life coaches guide you to realize what you are capable of and boost your confidence to allow you to perform to the best of your abilities.
If you are doubtful of the abilities of the life coach's services, these questions and answers will help you decide if you will actually benefit.
What is a life coach program?
You will begin a partnership with your trained professional. The trainer will do all he or she can to assist you in reaching your true potential. While you may think this sounds similar to a mentor, a life coach is different in the fact that he or she takes a more direct approach to providing different resources. A life coach will work with you to find your personal vision of your future, and the life goals leading that vision. Together, you will try to identify barriers hindering you from reaching your personal vision. You will then brainstorm ways to turn those obstacles into positive aspects for your life.
How does a standard counselor differ from a life coach?
There is one aspect that sets life coaches apart from normal counselors. Counselors will examine a client's past to discover how it affects the client's present and future. Concerned only with the present and future, a life coach will help you change the present to create your future. They will help you change things today that will help you have the future of your dreams.
Life coaches have gone through training and are professional service providers, however they are not always seen as a legitimate life service providers amongst the insurance companies since they aren't licensed mental health providers.
How long is a typical program with a life coach?
Most life coaching programs start out with a three-month commitment. Most of the time, it takes at least three months for your life coach to get in tune with your personal vision and your goals so they can asses your case. It also takes at least this long to demonstrate the effectiveness of the life coach program. In the majority of cases, you will be asked to make a longer commitment, depending on your particular situation. For people with more intricate and delicate issues, a life coach program will vary in the amount of time needed to reach the program's goals.
Why might someone want to use the services of a life coach?
A life coach is specially trained to deal with obstacles and other aspects that can help people improve their life. They often have knowledge that other people do not have which helps them to give directed advice for many different subject areas. A life coach also provides other benefits to people who are trying to reach goals. With encouragement and motivation, they can help accelerate your results. Also, they can give you ways to make choices and get your life in balance. Life coaches have a way of instilling confidence into their clients so they can continue to make logical decisions even after the partnership has ended.
I know what my goals are. Do I still need a life coach?
Life coaches don't only help you realize what your goals are. They also help you realize things that might stand in your way of achieving those goals. They continue to supply their clients with encouragement and alternative ideas to overcome their obstacles. A life coach also provides support that the client may not be getting from their family or friends. Even if they do, a life coach is specially trained to give specific types of encouragement that helps their client get motivated. The motivated they get, the closer they come to reaching their goals and realizing their personal vision.
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About the Author: Liz Quillnan heard Terri Cadiente on her Strong Woman Hiding radio show talk about how a Los Angeles professional life coach can help achieve personal fullfillment. She thoroughly researched the life coaching field and highly recommends Terri's services whether it is as a Los Angeles motivational speaker, or a personal development program.
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
Life Coach Counseling: Becoming More Popular
Life coach counseling has become one of the fastest growing fields for those who are skilled at motivating others and who can successfully help clients with goal setting needs. A vast array of training programs for life coaching has been created and the demand for trained coaches is high both in industry and business as well as for individuals. Starting in the 1960s, motivational support and a the search for direction in life became a focus for many people. This focus stemmed from different psychological theories and methods, not to mention education and business methods that had been around for some time. A natural course for this path of self improvement to take is that life counseling, as it is based on an individual's efforts to do better. By learning how to apply new skills, both personally and in your business life, life coach counseling helps you bring out the "you" that may have been held back for so long. You will learn how to take advantage of life's great opportunities, without crossing the boundaries of what is realistic for you. The best life coaches are usually long term executives or other seasoned professionals who have been trained, either in courses or by their past experiences, to work effectively with clients. They help in identifying strong points and weak points, setting and prioritizing aims for the future, and coming up with practical approaches to achieve those aims. They may work at coaching centers or in offices, or may offer their services on a freelance basis, and they may do their counseling in person, online, or even by phone. Life coaching is usually thought of as a one-on-one activity, but for many, group seminars are more affordable and can be quite useful. This method may be accessible to more people than the individual type of coaching. Large and small corporations may offer some of life coaching as a perk of employment at little or no cost. This is of great benefit to employees on a personal level, but can also result in better productivity and a better work climate. Life coaching clearly can benefit an individual or company because of its efficiency and clarity. Because of this, the coach can make it a satisfying and well paying career choice. Often older executives and career professionals can share important life lessons but lately it is common for someone to train specifically to be a life coach. A life coach can improve your life in all areas, from your relationships with your family and friends to your business success. A competent coach can help you feel calm and confident in relation to all aspects of your life. Therefore, it is extremely important to research and check the references of any life coach you are considering working with.
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Empowerment Changes Your Life Forever
Perhaps you are asking, “What is personal empowerment?”
Put in simplistic terms, empowerment is freeing yourself from limitations or living a life of misery and taking full responsibility for every thing that is in your life. It’s about quitting making excuses for things that aren’t going right in your life and DOING something about changing them! It’s about choices; the choices that you make on a daily basis regarding all aspects of your life. It’s about being in control of what you allow in your life; who you associate with, what you read, what you watch on television and at the movies, who your mentors are, what music you listen to, what you eat, etc. Why are these choices so important to empowerment … you literally ARE your choices.
A general definition: empowerment is a process that helps people gain control over their own lives.
Therefore, empowerment is about learning there are choices, in which you have the right to be the healthiest and happiest person you can be in this now. The past is the past and it cannot be changed, therefore the focus is placed upon what you can do in this very moment. What choices you can make to empower yourself NOW. As you exercise your choices and take responsibility and action, you will gain increased control over your life. I had a million excuses for everything crummy in my life. I even blamed my addictions to cigarettes, drugs and alcohol on other people. I blamed everyone for everything because that enabled me to justify in my own mind that it was ok. I was slowly killing myself to avoid having to face my problems, the exact problems that I was creating by the choices that I was making. It’s a vicious cycle, but empowerment can change it!
Let’s take a look at a list of empowerment key words:
• Self-Mastery
• Personal Development
• Positive Thinking
• Mind Power
• Self Improvement
• Spiritual Growth
• Enlightenment
• Responsibility
• Law of Attraction
• Self-Power
• Self-Acceptance
• Self-Reliance
• Self-Esteem
• Self-Discovery
• Self-Strength
• Self-Love
• Self-Confidence
• Self-Control
• Own Choice
• Independence
• Own Decision Making
• Being Free
• Awakening
• Capability
• Choices
• Power Into Action
This is a small list but as you can see it’s a list that outlines qualities that cannot be found outside of ourself because empowerment comes from within. I was looking outside of myself. That is where I went wrong and were millions of others are going wrong too. When we activate this power within ourselves we have the strength and courage to make choices and act on issues that we define as important. These issues can relate to any and all areas of our life – relationship, financial, personal, spiritual and physical. It’s very important to understand that empowerment is a multi-dimensional process which includes all levels of our being: mental, emotional, physical and spiritual and each of these areas must be brought into balance.
The empowerment process may be facilitated and supported through outside sources such as utilizing the assistance of a person specializing in life coaching, learning energy healing and mind techniques, attending self-help groups and seminars, home study programs, reading books, etc. It is very important that these programs teach you and give you the skills on how to do these things independently for yourself after the program has been completed. You are looking for independence not co-dependency within the system because empowerment is a process that develops as we work through it. It is impossible to dabble in empowerment expecting life changing results. It must become a path, journey, life style or way of life for complete liberation of all pain and suffering.
I have a “rags to riches” true life story. I learnt how to overcome poverty, addictions and abuse to create the life that I once thought was completely impossible for me to have. I have beaten the odds because I dared to believe and listen ONLY TO MYSELF, which IS the power within! Guess what I have accomplished since I learnt the secret of self-mastery and empowerment? I’m now a successful entrepreneur, a published writer, an international life coach, energy healer and empowerment specialist. Not too bad for a once was “high-school dropout, sexually and physically abused, druggie, alcoholic, welfare case” huh? That’s what empowerment is! It’s about making choices that improve the quality of your life.
With empowerment comes wisdom and by wisdom I do not mean knowledge of facts so much as the ability to perceive and understand facts, and to judge soundly and act right in all matters relating to life. Wisdom is the power to perceive truth, and the ability to make the best use of the knowledge of truth.
With wisdom comes poise, and the power to think right, to control and guide your thoughts, and to avoid the difficulties which come from wrong thinking. With wisdom you will be able to select the right courses for your particular needs, and to guide yourself in all ways as to secure the best results.
The beauty of empowerment is the ripple effect. Through personal empowerment you have the potential through leading by example to teach those around you to empower themselves as well! You not only manage to change yourself but also contribute to changing the lives of your children, family and friends. You have the ability to break the chain of poverty, addictions, abuse and suffering within your own family. You are able to show them that where you once were powerless you were able to gain full control over your life improving your situation by taking full responsibility and action over your own mastery. This will show them that it can be done, because YOU did it! You lead by example and your children are only learning and repeating what you teach them. Lead them into empowerment.
So what can be more empowering than gaining control over self? I invite you to start today, right NOW! Send an email to thelatestbuzz@getresponse.com to start receiving a FREE Self Improvement Gift Pacakge.
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About the Author: Lisa Whatley is an International Energy Healer, Empowerment Specialist, Spiritual Life Coach and Published Writer specializing in personal transformation growth. She has helped people all over the world achieve happier, healthier more prosperous and fulfilling lives. www.InfinityLightHealing.com
Put in simplistic terms, empowerment is freeing yourself from limitations or living a life of misery and taking full responsibility for every thing that is in your life. It’s about quitting making excuses for things that aren’t going right in your life and DOING something about changing them! It’s about choices; the choices that you make on a daily basis regarding all aspects of your life. It’s about being in control of what you allow in your life; who you associate with, what you read, what you watch on television and at the movies, who your mentors are, what music you listen to, what you eat, etc. Why are these choices so important to empowerment … you literally ARE your choices.
A general definition: empowerment is a process that helps people gain control over their own lives.
Therefore, empowerment is about learning there are choices, in which you have the right to be the healthiest and happiest person you can be in this now. The past is the past and it cannot be changed, therefore the focus is placed upon what you can do in this very moment. What choices you can make to empower yourself NOW. As you exercise your choices and take responsibility and action, you will gain increased control over your life. I had a million excuses for everything crummy in my life. I even blamed my addictions to cigarettes, drugs and alcohol on other people. I blamed everyone for everything because that enabled me to justify in my own mind that it was ok. I was slowly killing myself to avoid having to face my problems, the exact problems that I was creating by the choices that I was making. It’s a vicious cycle, but empowerment can change it!
Let’s take a look at a list of empowerment key words:
• Self-Mastery
• Personal Development
• Positive Thinking
• Mind Power
• Self Improvement
• Spiritual Growth
• Enlightenment
• Responsibility
• Law of Attraction
• Self-Power
• Self-Acceptance
• Self-Reliance
• Self-Esteem
• Self-Discovery
• Self-Strength
• Self-Love
• Self-Confidence
• Self-Control
• Own Choice
• Independence
• Own Decision Making
• Being Free
• Awakening
• Capability
• Choices
• Power Into Action
This is a small list but as you can see it’s a list that outlines qualities that cannot be found outside of ourself because empowerment comes from within. I was looking outside of myself. That is where I went wrong and were millions of others are going wrong too. When we activate this power within ourselves we have the strength and courage to make choices and act on issues that we define as important. These issues can relate to any and all areas of our life – relationship, financial, personal, spiritual and physical. It’s very important to understand that empowerment is a multi-dimensional process which includes all levels of our being: mental, emotional, physical and spiritual and each of these areas must be brought into balance.
The empowerment process may be facilitated and supported through outside sources such as utilizing the assistance of a person specializing in life coaching, learning energy healing and mind techniques, attending self-help groups and seminars, home study programs, reading books, etc. It is very important that these programs teach you and give you the skills on how to do these things independently for yourself after the program has been completed. You are looking for independence not co-dependency within the system because empowerment is a process that develops as we work through it. It is impossible to dabble in empowerment expecting life changing results. It must become a path, journey, life style or way of life for complete liberation of all pain and suffering.
I have a “rags to riches” true life story. I learnt how to overcome poverty, addictions and abuse to create the life that I once thought was completely impossible for me to have. I have beaten the odds because I dared to believe and listen ONLY TO MYSELF, which IS the power within! Guess what I have accomplished since I learnt the secret of self-mastery and empowerment? I’m now a successful entrepreneur, a published writer, an international life coach, energy healer and empowerment specialist. Not too bad for a once was “high-school dropout, sexually and physically abused, druggie, alcoholic, welfare case” huh? That’s what empowerment is! It’s about making choices that improve the quality of your life.
With empowerment comes wisdom and by wisdom I do not mean knowledge of facts so much as the ability to perceive and understand facts, and to judge soundly and act right in all matters relating to life. Wisdom is the power to perceive truth, and the ability to make the best use of the knowledge of truth.
With wisdom comes poise, and the power to think right, to control and guide your thoughts, and to avoid the difficulties which come from wrong thinking. With wisdom you will be able to select the right courses for your particular needs, and to guide yourself in all ways as to secure the best results.
The beauty of empowerment is the ripple effect. Through personal empowerment you have the potential through leading by example to teach those around you to empower themselves as well! You not only manage to change yourself but also contribute to changing the lives of your children, family and friends. You have the ability to break the chain of poverty, addictions, abuse and suffering within your own family. You are able to show them that where you once were powerless you were able to gain full control over your life improving your situation by taking full responsibility and action over your own mastery. This will show them that it can be done, because YOU did it! You lead by example and your children are only learning and repeating what you teach them. Lead them into empowerment.
So what can be more empowering than gaining control over self? I invite you to start today, right NOW! Send an email to thelatestbuzz@getresponse.com to start receiving a FREE Self Improvement Gift Pacakge.
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About the Author: Lisa Whatley is an International Energy Healer, Empowerment Specialist, Spiritual Life Coach and Published Writer specializing in personal transformation growth. She has helped people all over the world achieve happier, healthier more prosperous and fulfilling lives. www.InfinityLightHealing.com
Sunday, March 9, 2008
Horseback Riding with Supreme Self Confidence
There was an urgent knock on the back door. A desperate voice wanted to know: Could I come and have a look at David? He fell of Duke during the hunt that morning at a 6 ft fence and landed head first. David, not Duke. David was all for jumping the fence, Duke was not. Now David was asking the same question over and over again, and can’t quite remember what had happened.
Horseback riding is a dangerous sport. Accidents happen. Injuries can be physical as well as psychological. Often “small” physical injuries are complicated by deep mental wounds. I am not referring to David’s concussion here, but to a less visible but as damaging injury, one that can take years to heal.
We have all suffered from it, at one time or another. Not always horse-related either.
Acute and/or chronic confidence failure.
Maybe you had a nasty fall, like David. Or maybe you were bitten, kicked or nonchalantly rubbed off against a tree trunk. Maybe a thoughtless horse stood on your foot. Maybe you are a novice rider and the distance to the ground is just too much for you to feel comfortable in any other gait than walk. Maybe you worked really hard, both of you, and on competition day everything that could possibly go wrong, did. Maybe you just can’t get through to your horse, or maybe your horse just can’t get through to you. Maybe you are getting older, and worried about falling and breaking more vulnerable bones.
Maybe you are now reluctant to handle your horse at all.
Mental fitness is as important as physical fitness to all riders, from novice to advanced competitor…even if you prefer to stick to hacking out once or twice a week. You will be able to handle all eventualities much more efficiently if you are physically as well as mentally fit (and that includes unexpected, painful blows to that highly sensitive ego!)
What does mental training and fitness for horse riders involve? David found the Seven Secrets of Supremely Self-Confident Riders e-course invaluable. “Seven days after my horrendous fall, I had my rebuilt my shattered self-confidence and had learned a few very valuable lessons along the way. I am now more aware of myself (mind and body), and more aware of my horse and my surroundings. The mental work-outs In “7 Secrets e-course” are spot on. I discovered how to conquer my fear without taking any risks.”
There are many effective techniques to achieve the latter: neuro-linguistic programming, self-hypnosis, equestrian life coaching, psychotherapy and the new kid on the block: equine-assisted experiential learning.
Luckily, David’s concussion was very mild, and under careful observation soon subsided. He insisted on subscribing to our newsletter ”so I can get a monthly confidence boost”. I went to see Duke too late that afternoon in his stable. He was happily munching away on his dinner, having no recollection of anything untoward happening. My enigmatic Friesians could teach him a thing or two about good manners.
Just found a sensational Mexican Hot Chocolate recipe. Time for a cup, I think…
The Seven Secrets of Supremely Self-Confident Riders is a 7-day e-course written exclusively for horseback riders by an experienced medical doctor and NLP practitioner- available from www.equestrian-life-coaching.com/ Also available is three full length, full colour masters-courses, online equestrian life coaching, the Confidential Letters to Lady Belle e-book, equine-assisted experiential learning and a free e-book, e-course, newsletter and Lady Belle’s blog.
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About the Author: Dr Margarethe de Clermont is a medical doctor, a certified NLP practitioner, an EAGALA certified practitioner and a medical hypnotherapist
Horseback riding is a dangerous sport. Accidents happen. Injuries can be physical as well as psychological. Often “small” physical injuries are complicated by deep mental wounds. I am not referring to David’s concussion here, but to a less visible but as damaging injury, one that can take years to heal.
We have all suffered from it, at one time or another. Not always horse-related either.
Acute and/or chronic confidence failure.
Maybe you had a nasty fall, like David. Or maybe you were bitten, kicked or nonchalantly rubbed off against a tree trunk. Maybe a thoughtless horse stood on your foot. Maybe you are a novice rider and the distance to the ground is just too much for you to feel comfortable in any other gait than walk. Maybe you worked really hard, both of you, and on competition day everything that could possibly go wrong, did. Maybe you just can’t get through to your horse, or maybe your horse just can’t get through to you. Maybe you are getting older, and worried about falling and breaking more vulnerable bones.
Maybe you are now reluctant to handle your horse at all.
Mental fitness is as important as physical fitness to all riders, from novice to advanced competitor…even if you prefer to stick to hacking out once or twice a week. You will be able to handle all eventualities much more efficiently if you are physically as well as mentally fit (and that includes unexpected, painful blows to that highly sensitive ego!)
What does mental training and fitness for horse riders involve? David found the Seven Secrets of Supremely Self-Confident Riders e-course invaluable. “Seven days after my horrendous fall, I had my rebuilt my shattered self-confidence and had learned a few very valuable lessons along the way. I am now more aware of myself (mind and body), and more aware of my horse and my surroundings. The mental work-outs In “7 Secrets e-course” are spot on. I discovered how to conquer my fear without taking any risks.”
There are many effective techniques to achieve the latter: neuro-linguistic programming, self-hypnosis, equestrian life coaching, psychotherapy and the new kid on the block: equine-assisted experiential learning.
Luckily, David’s concussion was very mild, and under careful observation soon subsided. He insisted on subscribing to our newsletter ”so I can get a monthly confidence boost”. I went to see Duke too late that afternoon in his stable. He was happily munching away on his dinner, having no recollection of anything untoward happening. My enigmatic Friesians could teach him a thing or two about good manners.
Just found a sensational Mexican Hot Chocolate recipe. Time for a cup, I think…
The Seven Secrets of Supremely Self-Confident Riders is a 7-day e-course written exclusively for horseback riders by an experienced medical doctor and NLP practitioner- available from www.equestrian-life-coaching.com/ Also available is three full length, full colour masters-courses, online equestrian life coaching, the Confidential Letters to Lady Belle e-book, equine-assisted experiential learning and a free e-book, e-course, newsletter and Lady Belle’s blog.
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About the Author: Dr Margarethe de Clermont is a medical doctor, a certified NLP practitioner, an EAGALA certified practitioner and a medical hypnotherapist
How Business Coaching Can Increase Your Sales
"People used to say to me: 'You know Katie, not everything in life is going to be some happy experience.' Now I say to them: "Why not?" So says 29 year old Katie Saffert, wedding planner and owner of ”Inspired Events", an Orange County-based event planning company that has skyrocketed to success in less than a year.
With her warm, personal style and phenomenal talent, Katie and her business are both flourishing. In nine months, she's gone from having a handful of clients consisting of friends and coworkers to booking major events with celebrities. After throwing a huge event for a private Pearl Jam concert, Ms. Saffert booked a high profile wedding for the daughter of a pro golfer. Out of state clients are flying her in to plan their events. And the business is poised to catapult itself once more: starting in January, Inspired Events will be featured and promoted in Ceremony Magazine, a top publication for the Southern California Bridal Industry. How did she get so far so fast? According to Katie, it took a leap of faith, the courage to finally do what she loved, and the help of life coach and fellow business owner, Eli Davidson.
According to Katie, Eli's combination of stellar business advice and personal coaching has transformed her business. "For a long time, I lived my entire life focused on other people." says Katie. "That was the major thing working with Eli. She had me focus on me, what I wanted, and where I wanted to go without listening to all these other outside influences. It changes your life completely".
And Katie had been ready for a change. "I was working at a corporate job for five years and was absolutely miserable", she recalls. Her amazing energy, focus, and commitment to quality were talents benefiting everyone but herself. She loved planning events at her job, but the limitations within the corporate structure were hard to ignore. "You don't get recognition." she explains. “It was for someone else to take the credit....and obviously you have a lot of people above you saying, 'This is our idea. This is what we want to do with it.' “Katie knew she was keeping her own inner hopes in check.”I got caught up in the corporate world ethic that says: 'This is what you do when you get out of college. You get a job, you work 8 to 5. You work up a ladder." The fact that she didn't know where the ladder was going haunted her. "I felt I was being held back..." she admits, "...and I think it was my own self holding me back."
And then on her birthday last year, Katie marched into her office and quit. ("It was one of the best days of my life", she laughs.) She already knew her dream was to have an event planning business; "My mother was an events coordinator." says Katie, "She always did the big Junior League charity events and Debutante balls. Our holidays are more outdone than anything you can imagine. It was always something I loved". Fresh out of her cooperate job and only a few weeks into starting her company; Katie accompanied a friend to young business women's luncheon. Fate sat her right next to the guest speaker, Eli Davidson. Eli's vivacious energy and business savvy sparked inspiration. When Katie learned that Davidson was a Business Coach, she decided to follow her heart. "I thought, well, maybe this is a sign," says Katie. She joined up with Eli's group coaching sessions the very next day.
After her first few sessions with Eli, it became clear to Katie that that financial success would call for a change within. Katie remembers: "When we first started together, Eli asked me to name three things that I liked about myself and I couldn't name one. “Not that Katie didn't know her worth she just didn't know she had the right to claim it. "I didn't feel comfortable even acknowledging those things. I thought maybe I would seem arrogant, says Katie. But Eli got me to stop that...and my whole outlook changed."
Along with getting Katie to claim her value in all aspects, Eli's coaching offered her concrete strategies and tools for financial success. Katie's first assignment was her toughest: envisioning herself already succeeding in her new career. She was to write what Eli called a 'Success Script. In the exercise, Katie was to write about herself as if she had actually already achieved her highest career goals. And she was to describe it as vividly and boldly as possible. "It was so scary for me in the beginning.” says Katie. “I didn't want to do it. Because writing these things down makes it real." But courage and determination prevailed. And write it she did. As soon as she acknowledged what she wanted, the results were immediate. Within three weeks, she booked the private Pearl Jam concert.
Even more impressive was the fact that it was the first major event she had done single-handedly. "I'd done so many events before" says Katie, "but I always had a whole team surrounding me. I thought, this is amazing. And I did really well at it. “After that, people started calling out of the blue. Working with Eli, Katie watched her confidence and her business grow together. "It was about acknowledging who I am. I didn't go after anyone. I just put it out there and said: 'Hey, I'm starting a business. Here's my business card'.
Katie also learned effective brainstorming techniques with Eli. Whether the day was about calling prospective clients or presenting major business proposals, Katie now had the answers to any challenge. "Eli would have me come up with three solutions. They could be bad, good, off the wall or realistic. The point was getting into the habit of creating solutions for yourself."
The coaching also helped Katie to congratulate herself more and criticize herself less. "I expect a lot of myself", say Katie. She was well aware she was entering a business full of experts in the field. "I thought that I should be where these people are who had been doing this for twenty years." Eli helped Katie to recognize that she had already done brilliantly in a short amount of time.
She also showed Katie how to create reasonable and achievable goals for her business on a weekly basis. As a result, Katie’s now working with vendors she had always admired and respected, and she's created a career she had only dreamed about. Along with being incredibly grateful for success, it’s clear that Katie truly believes and knows that she deserves it. "I put my mind to something; I know I'll be able to do it.” Now, she's regularly telling herself “You did such a great job, you worked for it. Go congratulate yourself for it."
Would she recommend life coaching for other business owners? Katie is emphatic. "I would tell anyone to go to Eli Davidson for coaching. She gave me actual steps for success every single week." And it goes even further than her career. Katie knows that "it's been completely life changing.”
Check out Inspired Events in the January Edition of Ceremony Magazine. Inspired events can be found online for booking at www.inspiredeventsinc.com
Eli Davison is an internationally recognized expert on empowerment. To sign up for coaching, go to www.elidavidson.com
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About the Author: Professional speaker, business coach and author, Eli Davidson, has helped millions of busy executives to 'grab the wheel' of their careers. Her coaching tips reach over 6 million travelers; she has appeared regularly on national TV and radio. Read and download the first chapter of her runaway hit book, Funky to Fabulous for free at Funky to Fabulous. Ask Eli your career question at Eli Davidson
With her warm, personal style and phenomenal talent, Katie and her business are both flourishing. In nine months, she's gone from having a handful of clients consisting of friends and coworkers to booking major events with celebrities. After throwing a huge event for a private Pearl Jam concert, Ms. Saffert booked a high profile wedding for the daughter of a pro golfer. Out of state clients are flying her in to plan their events. And the business is poised to catapult itself once more: starting in January, Inspired Events will be featured and promoted in Ceremony Magazine, a top publication for the Southern California Bridal Industry. How did she get so far so fast? According to Katie, it took a leap of faith, the courage to finally do what she loved, and the help of life coach and fellow business owner, Eli Davidson.
According to Katie, Eli's combination of stellar business advice and personal coaching has transformed her business. "For a long time, I lived my entire life focused on other people." says Katie. "That was the major thing working with Eli. She had me focus on me, what I wanted, and where I wanted to go without listening to all these other outside influences. It changes your life completely".
And Katie had been ready for a change. "I was working at a corporate job for five years and was absolutely miserable", she recalls. Her amazing energy, focus, and commitment to quality were talents benefiting everyone but herself. She loved planning events at her job, but the limitations within the corporate structure were hard to ignore. "You don't get recognition." she explains. “It was for someone else to take the credit....and obviously you have a lot of people above you saying, 'This is our idea. This is what we want to do with it.' “Katie knew she was keeping her own inner hopes in check.”I got caught up in the corporate world ethic that says: 'This is what you do when you get out of college. You get a job, you work 8 to 5. You work up a ladder." The fact that she didn't know where the ladder was going haunted her. "I felt I was being held back..." she admits, "...and I think it was my own self holding me back."
And then on her birthday last year, Katie marched into her office and quit. ("It was one of the best days of my life", she laughs.) She already knew her dream was to have an event planning business; "My mother was an events coordinator." says Katie, "She always did the big Junior League charity events and Debutante balls. Our holidays are more outdone than anything you can imagine. It was always something I loved". Fresh out of her cooperate job and only a few weeks into starting her company; Katie accompanied a friend to young business women's luncheon. Fate sat her right next to the guest speaker, Eli Davidson. Eli's vivacious energy and business savvy sparked inspiration. When Katie learned that Davidson was a Business Coach, she decided to follow her heart. "I thought, well, maybe this is a sign," says Katie. She joined up with Eli's group coaching sessions the very next day.
After her first few sessions with Eli, it became clear to Katie that that financial success would call for a change within. Katie remembers: "When we first started together, Eli asked me to name three things that I liked about myself and I couldn't name one. “Not that Katie didn't know her worth she just didn't know she had the right to claim it. "I didn't feel comfortable even acknowledging those things. I thought maybe I would seem arrogant, says Katie. But Eli got me to stop that...and my whole outlook changed."
Along with getting Katie to claim her value in all aspects, Eli's coaching offered her concrete strategies and tools for financial success. Katie's first assignment was her toughest: envisioning herself already succeeding in her new career. She was to write what Eli called a 'Success Script. In the exercise, Katie was to write about herself as if she had actually already achieved her highest career goals. And she was to describe it as vividly and boldly as possible. "It was so scary for me in the beginning.” says Katie. “I didn't want to do it. Because writing these things down makes it real." But courage and determination prevailed. And write it she did. As soon as she acknowledged what she wanted, the results were immediate. Within three weeks, she booked the private Pearl Jam concert.
Even more impressive was the fact that it was the first major event she had done single-handedly. "I'd done so many events before" says Katie, "but I always had a whole team surrounding me. I thought, this is amazing. And I did really well at it. “After that, people started calling out of the blue. Working with Eli, Katie watched her confidence and her business grow together. "It was about acknowledging who I am. I didn't go after anyone. I just put it out there and said: 'Hey, I'm starting a business. Here's my business card'.
Katie also learned effective brainstorming techniques with Eli. Whether the day was about calling prospective clients or presenting major business proposals, Katie now had the answers to any challenge. "Eli would have me come up with three solutions. They could be bad, good, off the wall or realistic. The point was getting into the habit of creating solutions for yourself."
The coaching also helped Katie to congratulate herself more and criticize herself less. "I expect a lot of myself", say Katie. She was well aware she was entering a business full of experts in the field. "I thought that I should be where these people are who had been doing this for twenty years." Eli helped Katie to recognize that she had already done brilliantly in a short amount of time.
She also showed Katie how to create reasonable and achievable goals for her business on a weekly basis. As a result, Katie’s now working with vendors she had always admired and respected, and she's created a career she had only dreamed about. Along with being incredibly grateful for success, it’s clear that Katie truly believes and knows that she deserves it. "I put my mind to something; I know I'll be able to do it.” Now, she's regularly telling herself “You did such a great job, you worked for it. Go congratulate yourself for it."
Would she recommend life coaching for other business owners? Katie is emphatic. "I would tell anyone to go to Eli Davidson for coaching. She gave me actual steps for success every single week." And it goes even further than her career. Katie knows that "it's been completely life changing.”
Check out Inspired Events in the January Edition of Ceremony Magazine. Inspired events can be found online for booking at www.inspiredeventsinc.com
Eli Davison is an internationally recognized expert on empowerment. To sign up for coaching, go to www.elidavidson.com
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About the Author: Professional speaker, business coach and author, Eli Davidson, has helped millions of busy executives to 'grab the wheel' of their careers. Her coaching tips reach over 6 million travelers; she has appeared regularly on national TV and radio. Read and download the first chapter of her runaway hit book, Funky to Fabulous for free at Funky to Fabulous. Ask Eli your career question at Eli Davidson
If It Is To Be, It's Up To Me!
So what is this stuff all about? Fundamentally, everything is about Personal responsibility. In life, we attract everything that happens to us. Most people can accept that they are responsible for the good in their lives but very few will accept that they attract the bad as well. So to change my circumstance, I have to change myself.
Life Coaching is all about creating that inner change and helping people to grow personally. All of us at this time are the sum of every single decision, no matter how small, made up until this moment. Even "not making" a decision is an absolute choice. So every experience we have had has forced us to make a decision and in that process, we change as a consequence. This does not mean that are either good or bad. We are just what we are at this time. For example, two children have an alcoholic father.
Based on their individual perceptions, one will choose to be like his Dad and become an alcoholic and one will choose to be the opposite of his Dad and become totally temperate. Personal growth and Individual change takes place whenever we face an uncomfortable situation and work out some way to deal with it. This is the so-called "Growing Edge." When your whole body is screaming not to do something because you are scared stiff, and you do it any way, you grow as a person.
What Life Coaching is about is to help you become aware of the choices you are making (mostly automatically out of habit) and establish the consequences if you continue. The coach then will also encourage you to perhaps take a different path. At no time does (or must) he take any responsibility for your decision and actions. (In fact, run a mile if you find yourself asking what to do and then doing what the coach tells you!) The reason is that if it goes wrong, who are you going to blame? And if it goes right, to whom are you going to give the credit? You are responsible for the Good, and the Bad.
Sharing experiences on how you have coped with a particularly difficult situation will help and inspire others who may want to use your solution. And in the Giving and the Receiving, both gain. To your continued personal development.
Roger Bourne
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About the Author: Do you want to make a change in your personal circumstance? Visit http://www.stuffaboutlifecoaching.com/
Life Coaching is all about creating that inner change and helping people to grow personally. All of us at this time are the sum of every single decision, no matter how small, made up until this moment. Even "not making" a decision is an absolute choice. So every experience we have had has forced us to make a decision and in that process, we change as a consequence. This does not mean that are either good or bad. We are just what we are at this time. For example, two children have an alcoholic father.
Based on their individual perceptions, one will choose to be like his Dad and become an alcoholic and one will choose to be the opposite of his Dad and become totally temperate. Personal growth and Individual change takes place whenever we face an uncomfortable situation and work out some way to deal with it. This is the so-called "Growing Edge." When your whole body is screaming not to do something because you are scared stiff, and you do it any way, you grow as a person.
What Life Coaching is about is to help you become aware of the choices you are making (mostly automatically out of habit) and establish the consequences if you continue. The coach then will also encourage you to perhaps take a different path. At no time does (or must) he take any responsibility for your decision and actions. (In fact, run a mile if you find yourself asking what to do and then doing what the coach tells you!) The reason is that if it goes wrong, who are you going to blame? And if it goes right, to whom are you going to give the credit? You are responsible for the Good, and the Bad.
Sharing experiences on how you have coped with a particularly difficult situation will help and inspire others who may want to use your solution. And in the Giving and the Receiving, both gain. To your continued personal development.
Roger Bourne
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About the Author: Do you want to make a change in your personal circumstance? Visit http://www.stuffaboutlifecoaching.com/
Begin To Design Your Perfect Life
Maureen was close to tears, she was exhausted and she was confused. Her life, on the face of it, was excellent – a loving and supportive husband, two grown-up children and several grand-children that she adored, and no particular money worries.
But something was wrong. She couldn’t identify it but knew it was there. Happiness was elusive and she had no time to herself. She became increasingly short-tempered and frustrated, and so very tired.
Maureen had always been there for her family. It was taken for granted, expected of her in fact, and she loved it. Her life was a whirl of activities. Birthday cakes for the grand-children, picking up shopping for her eldest daughter when she was held up at work, collecting the children from school, baby-sitting, nursing the little one through a bout of illness: it was never-ending. And now, with her husband on the verge of retirement, Maureen's future should have burned brightly. But … .
Maureen had never questioned her duty. After all, she felt, we’re dealt a hand and we make the best of it. Life was good, can’t complain. But that niggle wouldn’t go away. She felt run-ragged and confused, unappreciated and resentful. “I don’t feel satisfied”, Maureen had said, “although I don’t stop from one minute to the next. I don’t know what’s wrong, I just feel a bit ‘ho hum’ at the end of each day. I’d like to do something for me, but what, and where would I find the time?”
A very simple starting question to ask is “What would I love to do - right now?”. When Maureen was asked this question, her mind immediately blocked it with logic. She squirmed, followed by a long silence; there was confusion and conflict in that silence. Gradually words started coming to her, almost as though someone else was speaking them; long-forgotten thoughts and ideas came bubbling up, her excitement grew.
That question proved to be the catalyst. With continued questioning Maureen re-discovered her desire to spend more time in the garden. Her dream had always been to produce organic vegetables. Now, with the powerful realisation that she was able to make changes, she could put a plan to obtain an allotment. She has balance and fun, and renewed energy and enthusiasm to share with her family and her husband in his retirement.
How does your life look? Do you have dreams you’ve given up on?
We all have the ability to make changes in our lives, once we realise what we want. And that’s the crux.
Stop for a minute, right now, and take a little time to consider what shape you would like your life to take. Think about what is stopping you. What prevents you from making those changes, from doing what you’d love to do? Is it your beliefs – I can’t, I’m not good enough, what if I fail? Or is it that you haven’t yet identified your desires?
Here are five suggestions to help you with the process of discovering what you want.
1. Make a list of the things that you DON’T want in your life. These are things you are tolerating, that sap your energy; an unsatisfactory job, a particular relationship or the way you are currently reacting to a situation.
2. Make a list of the things you DO want in your life. This list could include everything you’d like to have, personality traits you’d like to develop, things you’d like to do, places you’d like to visit, people you’d like to meet, books you want to read. Take the brakes off and dream.
3. Do you still want it? For each want, what will change in your life? How will you feel? What will it bring you?
4. Create a plan. Who is already doing what you want to do, has what you want or is living the life you would like to live? Who will support and encourage you?
5. Take action. Decide on one thing, even something small, that you can do within the next 24 hours that will move you closer to what you want. And do it!
Jane came to me wanting to lose weight. She was tired and yearned for more energy. She felt sluggish and everything was too much effort. She got depressed and ate. This robbed her of further energy, so she ate. A vicious circle.
As we talked, Jane re-discovered her passion for life and her weight issue disappeared! Her confidence grew and with it a new pride in the way she looked. She even said how much her husband loves her as she is. We discovered through our sessions that Jane’s underlying issue was one of boredom, self-image and frustration. Her life wasn’t turning out the way she’d dreamed and she couldn’t see any way to change things. So she ate for comfort.
With my support, Jane followed the process I outlined above. She identified what she didn’t want and what she did want. She is exercising regularly (something she loved but had no energy for), spending quality time with her husband and children, and developing her enthusiasm for life in a variety of surprising new directions.
Try the above exercise. You might be surprised at what you discover.
© Key Life Coaching 2007. All Rights Reserved. You may reprint this article as long as you do not edit the article in any way and give author name credit.
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About the Author: Hazel Dudley is a Life Strategies & Results Coach and passionate about the undiscovered potential and possibilities everyone has inside themselves. She helps people to explore what they want from life and to establish an effective way to achieve it. To find out more about how to work with Hazel, please telephone (01425) 674746 or visit her website at http://www.keylifecoaching.com.
But something was wrong. She couldn’t identify it but knew it was there. Happiness was elusive and she had no time to herself. She became increasingly short-tempered and frustrated, and so very tired.
Maureen had always been there for her family. It was taken for granted, expected of her in fact, and she loved it. Her life was a whirl of activities. Birthday cakes for the grand-children, picking up shopping for her eldest daughter when she was held up at work, collecting the children from school, baby-sitting, nursing the little one through a bout of illness: it was never-ending. And now, with her husband on the verge of retirement, Maureen's future should have burned brightly. But … .
Maureen had never questioned her duty. After all, she felt, we’re dealt a hand and we make the best of it. Life was good, can’t complain. But that niggle wouldn’t go away. She felt run-ragged and confused, unappreciated and resentful. “I don’t feel satisfied”, Maureen had said, “although I don’t stop from one minute to the next. I don’t know what’s wrong, I just feel a bit ‘ho hum’ at the end of each day. I’d like to do something for me, but what, and where would I find the time?”
A very simple starting question to ask is “What would I love to do - right now?”. When Maureen was asked this question, her mind immediately blocked it with logic. She squirmed, followed by a long silence; there was confusion and conflict in that silence. Gradually words started coming to her, almost as though someone else was speaking them; long-forgotten thoughts and ideas came bubbling up, her excitement grew.
That question proved to be the catalyst. With continued questioning Maureen re-discovered her desire to spend more time in the garden. Her dream had always been to produce organic vegetables. Now, with the powerful realisation that she was able to make changes, she could put a plan to obtain an allotment. She has balance and fun, and renewed energy and enthusiasm to share with her family and her husband in his retirement.
How does your life look? Do you have dreams you’ve given up on?
We all have the ability to make changes in our lives, once we realise what we want. And that’s the crux.
Stop for a minute, right now, and take a little time to consider what shape you would like your life to take. Think about what is stopping you. What prevents you from making those changes, from doing what you’d love to do? Is it your beliefs – I can’t, I’m not good enough, what if I fail? Or is it that you haven’t yet identified your desires?
Here are five suggestions to help you with the process of discovering what you want.
1. Make a list of the things that you DON’T want in your life. These are things you are tolerating, that sap your energy; an unsatisfactory job, a particular relationship or the way you are currently reacting to a situation.
2. Make a list of the things you DO want in your life. This list could include everything you’d like to have, personality traits you’d like to develop, things you’d like to do, places you’d like to visit, people you’d like to meet, books you want to read. Take the brakes off and dream.
3. Do you still want it? For each want, what will change in your life? How will you feel? What will it bring you?
4. Create a plan. Who is already doing what you want to do, has what you want or is living the life you would like to live? Who will support and encourage you?
5. Take action. Decide on one thing, even something small, that you can do within the next 24 hours that will move you closer to what you want. And do it!
Jane came to me wanting to lose weight. She was tired and yearned for more energy. She felt sluggish and everything was too much effort. She got depressed and ate. This robbed her of further energy, so she ate. A vicious circle.
As we talked, Jane re-discovered her passion for life and her weight issue disappeared! Her confidence grew and with it a new pride in the way she looked. She even said how much her husband loves her as she is. We discovered through our sessions that Jane’s underlying issue was one of boredom, self-image and frustration. Her life wasn’t turning out the way she’d dreamed and she couldn’t see any way to change things. So she ate for comfort.
With my support, Jane followed the process I outlined above. She identified what she didn’t want and what she did want. She is exercising regularly (something she loved but had no energy for), spending quality time with her husband and children, and developing her enthusiasm for life in a variety of surprising new directions.
Try the above exercise. You might be surprised at what you discover.
© Key Life Coaching 2007. All Rights Reserved. You may reprint this article as long as you do not edit the article in any way and give author name credit.
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About the Author: Hazel Dudley is a Life Strategies & Results Coach and passionate about the undiscovered potential and possibilities everyone has inside themselves. She helps people to explore what they want from life and to establish an effective way to achieve it. To find out more about how to work with Hazel, please telephone (01425) 674746 or visit her website at http://www.keylifecoaching.com.
Is There a Difference Between Life Coaching and Therapy?
Is There a Difference Between Coaching and Therapy?
This is one of the most frequently asked questions I receive about Life Coaching. Yes there is a difference and by explaining what Coaching IS, I aim to help you understand what it is NOT and how it is different to Therapy.
Coaching Focuses on:
Where you are right now.
Your needs and wants.
Values.
Goals and actions.
Self-potential.
Acknowledgement.
Support.
Accountability.
Moving forward.
Solutions.
Replacement of sabotaging thoughts, patterns and behaviors.
Trust.
Non-judgment.
Insights.
New perspectives.
Inspiration.
Self-actualization.
Results.
In a nutshell Coaching believes you are fully functional and helps and supports you find your solutions in a quick, effective and life-changing way. It focuses on where you right now and find ways to help you move forward. It is a proactive approach that examines your behavior today and challenges you to develop new behavior. Coaching supports you to take charge of your life and make it whatever you want by providing you with tools and strategies to accomplish the desired shifts in thinking and behaving. It helps you to respond versus react and looks at ways to help you change your life permanently in ways that empower you in every niche of life.
Coaching generally does not work with clinical depression, neuroses, psychosis, permanent emotional damage or any medically based issues. This is where the Coach will advise therapy. These two can and do work hand-in-hand in such cases. Coaching does, focus on the present and does not dwell in the past. The Coach is an equal partner in the coaching process and listens actively to you, provides you with effective non - judgmental feedback and helps you be accountable for accomplishing the goals that really matter to you. If you want to change jobs, lose weight, start saving, buy a house, start studying, improve your marriage, travel abroad or any other number of things coaching can get you there far quicker than you can even imagine. This is the magic of coaching. It gets you to where you want to be while changing your life for the better in every way.
If you know anyone who is interested in coaching and could benefit by taking control of their lives and accomplishing what they want to achieve in life, you are welcome to give them my contact details. I will contact them within 12 – 24 hours, unless traveling. www.kimknightcoaching.com
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About the Author: Kim Knight, The Coach Yourself to Greatness Coach, has helped a number of clients target their goals. The Personal Life Coach is not only a sought-after trusted and inspirational coach. She has also written EBooks for all those who want to help themselves or support others. There are many successful clients whose friends and family are amazed at finding out that someone else coached them on their overall transformation. For more information, visit Kim’s site at www.kimknightcoaching.com and sign up for up for her FREE Coaching Tips at http://www.coachtogreatness.com
This is one of the most frequently asked questions I receive about Life Coaching. Yes there is a difference and by explaining what Coaching IS, I aim to help you understand what it is NOT and how it is different to Therapy.
Coaching Focuses on:
Where you are right now.
Your needs and wants.
Values.
Goals and actions.
Self-potential.
Acknowledgement.
Support.
Accountability.
Moving forward.
Solutions.
Replacement of sabotaging thoughts, patterns and behaviors.
Trust.
Non-judgment.
Insights.
New perspectives.
Inspiration.
Self-actualization.
Results.
In a nutshell Coaching believes you are fully functional and helps and supports you find your solutions in a quick, effective and life-changing way. It focuses on where you right now and find ways to help you move forward. It is a proactive approach that examines your behavior today and challenges you to develop new behavior. Coaching supports you to take charge of your life and make it whatever you want by providing you with tools and strategies to accomplish the desired shifts in thinking and behaving. It helps you to respond versus react and looks at ways to help you change your life permanently in ways that empower you in every niche of life.
Coaching generally does not work with clinical depression, neuroses, psychosis, permanent emotional damage or any medically based issues. This is where the Coach will advise therapy. These two can and do work hand-in-hand in such cases. Coaching does, focus on the present and does not dwell in the past. The Coach is an equal partner in the coaching process and listens actively to you, provides you with effective non - judgmental feedback and helps you be accountable for accomplishing the goals that really matter to you. If you want to change jobs, lose weight, start saving, buy a house, start studying, improve your marriage, travel abroad or any other number of things coaching can get you there far quicker than you can even imagine. This is the magic of coaching. It gets you to where you want to be while changing your life for the better in every way.
If you know anyone who is interested in coaching and could benefit by taking control of their lives and accomplishing what they want to achieve in life, you are welcome to give them my contact details. I will contact them within 12 – 24 hours, unless traveling. www.kimknightcoaching.com
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About the Author: Kim Knight, The Coach Yourself to Greatness Coach, has helped a number of clients target their goals. The Personal Life Coach is not only a sought-after trusted and inspirational coach. She has also written EBooks for all those who want to help themselves or support others. There are many successful clients whose friends and family are amazed at finding out that someone else coached them on their overall transformation. For more information, visit Kim’s site at www.kimknightcoaching.com and sign up for up for her FREE Coaching Tips at http://www.coachtogreatness.com
Monday, March 3, 2008
The 5 secrets to changing your life
Here are 5 life coaching secrets to help you on your way to start changing your life for the better and getting out of a situation which is holding you back from the life that you deserve to have.
Secret 1 – Define your ideal life
Do you find yourself saying that you wish you had a happier life? Many of us will procrastinate about wanting our ideal life but rarely do anything about it, hoping that someone or something will happen to get you the life you want.
A good first thing to do when deciding how to make your life happier is to define what your ideal life looks like. Write it down and start believing in it. Feel it, see yourself already in it and enjoying it.
Secret 2 – Set your goals
Once you have decided what your goals are then write them down in black and white in the present positive tense, such as “I’m someone who has a happy and fulfilling career.” Next to your goals also write when you realistically think you’ll achieve them by.
Secret 3 – Make a “To Do” list
Once you’ve written down your goals clearly, choose the most important one or two first and then write an action list (to do list) of how to go about achieving them. Make sure you write dates and even times next to your actions so you actually commit to doing them.
Secret 4 – Believe in yourself to achieve your goal/s
Assess how strong your positive and negative beliefs are. Self-beliefs are developed from a young age and you can change any of them and take on new ones. They help you make decisions and make up your thoughts, feelings, perceptions of the world and behaviour.
Decide to get rid of all your negative beliefs in the quest to getting your ideal life. Take each negative self-belief and replace it with the opposite positive belief, e.g. I’m not confident becomes “I’m confident”. These positive statements are now your affirmations, which you have to say to yourself for the next month until you really start believing them.
Secret 5 – Love yourself
Make sure your self-image and self worth are as high as they can be. If you don’t love yourself then who will? Having a low self-image as well as negative self-beliefs can also hold you back from achieving your goals.
Decide who you are and list all the negative and positive things about yourself. It might be that in certain areas of your life there are no negatives but then lots in another area of your life, for example one of my clients was confident and had a high self image of themselves when describing scenarios at work but when they talked about their social life they explained how they preferred to sit quietly as they believed people didn’t find them interesting to talk to and they could never think of anything to say beyond talking about work.
If you have listed some negative statements about yourself like, “I’m not very good at speaking in meetings” or “I’m hopeless in relationships”, then you need to understand that this means you are going through life carrying around a huge burden of negative feelings that you have about yourself and that this has now got to stop.
Follow these steps over the next couple of weeks to make sure your self-image is the highest it can be: -
- Write a positive sentence to each negative belief you have about yourself, e.g. “I’m hopeless in relationships” becomes “I’m fantastic in relationships”. Say this out loud to yourself every morning in the mirror 10 times a day until you 100% believe it.
- Define the new you and read it everyday. See the new you in situations feeling great about yourself. This will give the new you life and will then become reality.
It is time to start changing your life for the better and becoming someone who takes action rather than someone who sits and talks about taking action and never seems to. Come on you owe it to yourself.
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About the Author: Rebekah Fensome is an accredited professional Life Coach and Coaching Psychologist. She is also a member of the British Psychological Society. She has her own private life coaching practice in London and coaches people face to face or over the telephone. She coaches a diverse range of people from actors, writers, Mums, bankers, traders, personal trainers, celebrities and entrepreneurs on various personal goals such as self esteem, confidence, career change, work life balance, etc. She also works with many companies helping their employees to achieve their career goals. She is regularly asked to appear as an expert on TV and writes many articles for magazines such as Psychologies, Zest, Glamour, etc. To get in contact with her go to http://www.rebekahfensomelifecoach.com, rebekah.fensome@gmail.com.
Secret 1 – Define your ideal life
Do you find yourself saying that you wish you had a happier life? Many of us will procrastinate about wanting our ideal life but rarely do anything about it, hoping that someone or something will happen to get you the life you want.
A good first thing to do when deciding how to make your life happier is to define what your ideal life looks like. Write it down and start believing in it. Feel it, see yourself already in it and enjoying it.
Secret 2 – Set your goals
Once you have decided what your goals are then write them down in black and white in the present positive tense, such as “I’m someone who has a happy and fulfilling career.” Next to your goals also write when you realistically think you’ll achieve them by.
Secret 3 – Make a “To Do” list
Once you’ve written down your goals clearly, choose the most important one or two first and then write an action list (to do list) of how to go about achieving them. Make sure you write dates and even times next to your actions so you actually commit to doing them.
Secret 4 – Believe in yourself to achieve your goal/s
Assess how strong your positive and negative beliefs are. Self-beliefs are developed from a young age and you can change any of them and take on new ones. They help you make decisions and make up your thoughts, feelings, perceptions of the world and behaviour.
Decide to get rid of all your negative beliefs in the quest to getting your ideal life. Take each negative self-belief and replace it with the opposite positive belief, e.g. I’m not confident becomes “I’m confident”. These positive statements are now your affirmations, which you have to say to yourself for the next month until you really start believing them.
Secret 5 – Love yourself
Make sure your self-image and self worth are as high as they can be. If you don’t love yourself then who will? Having a low self-image as well as negative self-beliefs can also hold you back from achieving your goals.
Decide who you are and list all the negative and positive things about yourself. It might be that in certain areas of your life there are no negatives but then lots in another area of your life, for example one of my clients was confident and had a high self image of themselves when describing scenarios at work but when they talked about their social life they explained how they preferred to sit quietly as they believed people didn’t find them interesting to talk to and they could never think of anything to say beyond talking about work.
If you have listed some negative statements about yourself like, “I’m not very good at speaking in meetings” or “I’m hopeless in relationships”, then you need to understand that this means you are going through life carrying around a huge burden of negative feelings that you have about yourself and that this has now got to stop.
Follow these steps over the next couple of weeks to make sure your self-image is the highest it can be: -
- Write a positive sentence to each negative belief you have about yourself, e.g. “I’m hopeless in relationships” becomes “I’m fantastic in relationships”. Say this out loud to yourself every morning in the mirror 10 times a day until you 100% believe it.
- Define the new you and read it everyday. See the new you in situations feeling great about yourself. This will give the new you life and will then become reality.
It is time to start changing your life for the better and becoming someone who takes action rather than someone who sits and talks about taking action and never seems to. Come on you owe it to yourself.
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About the Author: Rebekah Fensome is an accredited professional Life Coach and Coaching Psychologist. She is also a member of the British Psychological Society. She has her own private life coaching practice in London and coaches people face to face or over the telephone. She coaches a diverse range of people from actors, writers, Mums, bankers, traders, personal trainers, celebrities and entrepreneurs on various personal goals such as self esteem, confidence, career change, work life balance, etc. She also works with many companies helping their employees to achieve their career goals. She is regularly asked to appear as an expert on TV and writes many articles for magazines such as Psychologies, Zest, Glamour, etc. To get in contact with her go to http://www.rebekahfensomelifecoach.com, rebekah.fensome@gmail.com.
Extend your Book's Life with a Sales Letter (updated)
Authors, publishers and business owners are great at getting their books written and launched. But after the initial one-year honeymoon, sales slow down. To counter this, make sure to let your audience know about your book's benefits and how it can help them in their lives. Keep your book alive and selling well for years when you write a sales letter to post on your website and use for email marketing.
You can write your first sales letter in less than two hours. As you practice, you will be able to write a short one in only one hour to use email marketing.
What Every Sales Letter Needs to Pull Orders and Profits
1. Start the letter with a benefit-driven headline and include headlines throughout.You must hook your reader early on.
Example: "Want a Quick and Easy way to Quadruple your Online Income in Four Months?
If you answered, "Yes" to yourself, the headline succeeds, because you will keep reading. If you said, "No, I don't believe this, but I'm curious about where this is going," the headline still succeeds. You win when your headline seduces your potential customer to read on in your sales letter and finally to decide to buy.
2. List the top five benefits of your book with bullets.
To define your top benefits start with a list of challenges your client or customer wants solutions for. If you are not rock sure of who your audience is and what they need, your sales copy won’t work.
Essentially, you need to say how your book will make someone's life easier or richer in time or money; how it will entertain or inspire; how it will make readers be more successful, more attractive, healthier; how it will help them feel better and avoid catastrophe, sickness, or surgery.
Remember to highlight your book's ultimate benefit above the others. This could be the opening headline. If you list more than five benefits use the strongest three to five as your bullet points. Sprinkle the rest throughout your copy.
3. Address your potential buyer's resistance.
Tell a background story about where your audience is NOW so they will connect emotionally with your solutions. If your book is designed for people who want to write, the sales letter should focus on the fact that many people don't write books because they doubt that their books will sell well enough to justify all the effort; they worry that a book may not be significant enough, that writing it will take too long and publishing it will cost too much; and besides, they really aren't writers." One, by one, a good sales letter will address a potential buyer’s major concerns.
4. Provide a quick overview of the book’s features.
One client wrote a book on ways to live a successful life. Her top features included *a do-it-yourself” approach, *real-life coaching examples *mastering the art of ‘moseying’ and *practical tips and strategies that can immediately be implemented into your everyday life.
Example: In this treasure chest you will....
Impact your letter more when you combine your best benefit with a feature such as “Balance work and home by mastering the joy of moseying.” While benefits sell and features explain, your web or shorter email sales letter needs to mention features so your potential buyer will know what’s inside your book.
5. Sprinkle testimonials throughout your sales letter.
Since people who learn about your book are more likely to buy it when they think other people already have, it’s important to offer testimonials from experts in your field, relevant celebrities, and satisfied users who have profited from your advice. Don't send the whole book to people when you ask for testimonials. Just send them a list of the benefits and phrases to make it easy to respond as well as the title and introduction.
6. Offer your potential buyers two to three chances to buy.
They may have already decided to buy before encountering your sales letter, so put "Buy Now" information near the top and present more buying opportunities along the way after your list of benefits, your summary of the book’s features, and your testimonials.
7. End your sales letter with a 100% money-back guarantee.
When you offer an ironclad guarantee--"This product comes with a 100% Money Back Guarantee. Read the book cover to cover, and if the strategies don't work for you within 60 days, we'll cheerfully refund your money, and you can keep the product too!-- people see your book as valuable enough for you to put yourself on the line for it. They will be more likely to buy and be satisfied with their purchase.
8. Share the downside of your book.
Being up front about your book's limitations can increase your credibility and create empathy.
Example: "This e-book won't write the book for you, or even get it published, but it will show you the steps and resources you need to write compelling copy, finish fully and sell well."
9. Include your credentials.
Obviously, expertise is important. One author wrote a book on stress and how it affects relationships. Her sales letter included “I interviewed 30 couples and included their answers to my “what do you do daily to keep your relationship alive and joyful? My 20 years background as a marriage and family therapist includes 10 years coaching, consulting and presenting 25 seminars a year.
Keep your book alive and selling well for years with a sales letter emailed out and on your Web site, a professional sales letter gives your audience good reasons to make a buying decision.
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About the Author: Book and Internet Marketing Coach Judy Cullins helps businesses build clients and sell books. Author of "How to Write your Book Fast" and "The Fast and Cheap Way to Explode Targeted Web Traffic," Judy offers free eBook "Book Writing and Marketing Tips" with monthly ezines at http://www.bookcoaching.com/
E: judycullins@cox.net
You can write your first sales letter in less than two hours. As you practice, you will be able to write a short one in only one hour to use email marketing.
What Every Sales Letter Needs to Pull Orders and Profits
1. Start the letter with a benefit-driven headline and include headlines throughout.You must hook your reader early on.
Example: "Want a Quick and Easy way to Quadruple your Online Income in Four Months?
If you answered, "Yes" to yourself, the headline succeeds, because you will keep reading. If you said, "No, I don't believe this, but I'm curious about where this is going," the headline still succeeds. You win when your headline seduces your potential customer to read on in your sales letter and finally to decide to buy.
2. List the top five benefits of your book with bullets.
To define your top benefits start with a list of challenges your client or customer wants solutions for. If you are not rock sure of who your audience is and what they need, your sales copy won’t work.
Essentially, you need to say how your book will make someone's life easier or richer in time or money; how it will entertain or inspire; how it will make readers be more successful, more attractive, healthier; how it will help them feel better and avoid catastrophe, sickness, or surgery.
Remember to highlight your book's ultimate benefit above the others. This could be the opening headline. If you list more than five benefits use the strongest three to five as your bullet points. Sprinkle the rest throughout your copy.
3. Address your potential buyer's resistance.
Tell a background story about where your audience is NOW so they will connect emotionally with your solutions. If your book is designed for people who want to write, the sales letter should focus on the fact that many people don't write books because they doubt that their books will sell well enough to justify all the effort; they worry that a book may not be significant enough, that writing it will take too long and publishing it will cost too much; and besides, they really aren't writers." One, by one, a good sales letter will address a potential buyer’s major concerns.
4. Provide a quick overview of the book’s features.
One client wrote a book on ways to live a successful life. Her top features included *a do-it-yourself” approach, *real-life coaching examples *mastering the art of ‘moseying’ and *practical tips and strategies that can immediately be implemented into your everyday life.
Example: In this treasure chest you will....
Impact your letter more when you combine your best benefit with a feature such as “Balance work and home by mastering the joy of moseying.” While benefits sell and features explain, your web or shorter email sales letter needs to mention features so your potential buyer will know what’s inside your book.
5. Sprinkle testimonials throughout your sales letter.
Since people who learn about your book are more likely to buy it when they think other people already have, it’s important to offer testimonials from experts in your field, relevant celebrities, and satisfied users who have profited from your advice. Don't send the whole book to people when you ask for testimonials. Just send them a list of the benefits and phrases to make it easy to respond as well as the title and introduction.
6. Offer your potential buyers two to three chances to buy.
They may have already decided to buy before encountering your sales letter, so put "Buy Now" information near the top and present more buying opportunities along the way after your list of benefits, your summary of the book’s features, and your testimonials.
7. End your sales letter with a 100% money-back guarantee.
When you offer an ironclad guarantee--"This product comes with a 100% Money Back Guarantee. Read the book cover to cover, and if the strategies don't work for you within 60 days, we'll cheerfully refund your money, and you can keep the product too!-- people see your book as valuable enough for you to put yourself on the line for it. They will be more likely to buy and be satisfied with their purchase.
8. Share the downside of your book.
Being up front about your book's limitations can increase your credibility and create empathy.
Example: "This e-book won't write the book for you, or even get it published, but it will show you the steps and resources you need to write compelling copy, finish fully and sell well."
9. Include your credentials.
Obviously, expertise is important. One author wrote a book on stress and how it affects relationships. Her sales letter included “I interviewed 30 couples and included their answers to my “what do you do daily to keep your relationship alive and joyful? My 20 years background as a marriage and family therapist includes 10 years coaching, consulting and presenting 25 seminars a year.
Keep your book alive and selling well for years with a sales letter emailed out and on your Web site, a professional sales letter gives your audience good reasons to make a buying decision.
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About the Author: Book and Internet Marketing Coach Judy Cullins helps businesses build clients and sell books. Author of "How to Write your Book Fast" and "The Fast and Cheap Way to Explode Targeted Web Traffic," Judy offers free eBook "Book Writing and Marketing Tips" with monthly ezines at http://www.bookcoaching.com/
E: judycullins@cox.net
How to Excel as a Life Coach ?
Excellence in life and executive coaching is the same as excellence in anything – you must make a decision to learn your craft. Learning is not just reading and studying a manual; it's actually doing the thing you wish to master. Life coaching is not a spectator sport, it is a full participation, let's-learn-how-this-works endeavour that can be extremely rewarding.
Great life coaches not only learn through doing their craft, they are interested in and happy for someone else's success. They are comfortable celebrating achievement, rather than critiquing it or looking for flaws.
Successful life coaches are willing to receive feedback about how they can improve their craft. They keep the loop of learning open, knowing that what they think they know is just the tip of the iceberg, and there is so much more to be savoured. This means they receive feedback from mentors and other coaches as well as their clients about how they can improve their craft.
Life coaches who excel have an interest in personal development. They value the journey of self-improvement and they're willing to learn more about how and why people choose to do what they do. They are curious about what motivates us and see value in learning more about how to get results.
Great life coaches are excellent communicators. They may have friends come to them asking their advice, and people may find them attractive to talk with. And they're happy to chat and lend an ear. When they start out in their professional life coach training they may need to learn the skills of coaching communication, and then they apply themselves to learning even more about how to effectively communicate with their clients to assist them to get their desired results.
Great life coaches are persistent and know that it isn't what you do some of the time that gets results, but what you are prepared to do consistently. They understand that persistence pays, and even when they experience some disappointment, they know that this is part of the natural cycle of life and keep going.
Excellence in a coach is an attitude of 'possibilities'. Cynics need not apply, as cynicism is simply a fear of being disappointed. Coaches know that because disappointment is inevitable if we have goals, they must stay open to the possibilities of how to turn the situation around.
Life coaches who excel are willing to experience success. They are willing to get over self-sabotage, the fear of failure, the fear of success and every other fear and just have a go at achieving personal excellence. They recognise that extraordinary feats are accomplished by ordinary people making ordinary decisions. Their goal is to be their personal best, and through the journey of achieving this they learn compassion, tolerance, patience, forgiveness – as well as focus, commitment, dedication and passion.
Life coaches who are willing to continue their professional training and seek more knowledge about how to best assist their clients will know that their success is bound to increase. Accredited, professional life and executive coaches are committed to mastery of their craft. They don't settle for shortcuts in their coaching training, but are willing to apply themselves and learn all they can about human behaviour, personal development, Neuro-linguistic Programming and life coaching.
Excellence in life coaching and executive coaching is achieved not through knowing all the answers but through being willing to find out the answers. The decision to become a life coach is a first step towards the achievement of this. Let the journey begin.
Copyright Notice This article is free for reproduction but must be reproduced in its entirety, including live links & this copyright statement must be included. Copyright © 2007 The Coaching Institute Pty Ltd
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About the Author: Sharon Pearson is a professional, accredited life, executive and business coach. She is the founder and CEO of The Coaching Institute, Australia's leading accredited life coach training school, is a published author and an in-demand public speaker and trainer. You can visit The Coaching Institute at www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au
Great life coaches not only learn through doing their craft, they are interested in and happy for someone else's success. They are comfortable celebrating achievement, rather than critiquing it or looking for flaws.
Successful life coaches are willing to receive feedback about how they can improve their craft. They keep the loop of learning open, knowing that what they think they know is just the tip of the iceberg, and there is so much more to be savoured. This means they receive feedback from mentors and other coaches as well as their clients about how they can improve their craft.
Life coaches who excel have an interest in personal development. They value the journey of self-improvement and they're willing to learn more about how and why people choose to do what they do. They are curious about what motivates us and see value in learning more about how to get results.
Great life coaches are excellent communicators. They may have friends come to them asking their advice, and people may find them attractive to talk with. And they're happy to chat and lend an ear. When they start out in their professional life coach training they may need to learn the skills of coaching communication, and then they apply themselves to learning even more about how to effectively communicate with their clients to assist them to get their desired results.
Great life coaches are persistent and know that it isn't what you do some of the time that gets results, but what you are prepared to do consistently. They understand that persistence pays, and even when they experience some disappointment, they know that this is part of the natural cycle of life and keep going.
Excellence in a coach is an attitude of 'possibilities'. Cynics need not apply, as cynicism is simply a fear of being disappointed. Coaches know that because disappointment is inevitable if we have goals, they must stay open to the possibilities of how to turn the situation around.
Life coaches who excel are willing to experience success. They are willing to get over self-sabotage, the fear of failure, the fear of success and every other fear and just have a go at achieving personal excellence. They recognise that extraordinary feats are accomplished by ordinary people making ordinary decisions. Their goal is to be their personal best, and through the journey of achieving this they learn compassion, tolerance, patience, forgiveness – as well as focus, commitment, dedication and passion.
Life coaches who are willing to continue their professional training and seek more knowledge about how to best assist their clients will know that their success is bound to increase. Accredited, professional life and executive coaches are committed to mastery of their craft. They don't settle for shortcuts in their coaching training, but are willing to apply themselves and learn all they can about human behaviour, personal development, Neuro-linguistic Programming and life coaching.
Excellence in life coaching and executive coaching is achieved not through knowing all the answers but through being willing to find out the answers. The decision to become a life coach is a first step towards the achievement of this. Let the journey begin.
Copyright Notice This article is free for reproduction but must be reproduced in its entirety, including live links & this copyright statement must be included. Copyright © 2007 The Coaching Institute Pty Ltd
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About the Author: Sharon Pearson is a professional, accredited life, executive and business coach. She is the founder and CEO of The Coaching Institute, Australia's leading accredited life coach training school, is a published author and an in-demand public speaker and trainer. You can visit The Coaching Institute at www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au
The Most Useful Coaching Models to Use
A life coach uses many models to meet the needs of his/her client. Depending on the type of life coaching course you attend the number of models and the type of models that can be used by a life coach varies. Some of the models are the six levels of coaching, the CLEAR model, Solution focused coaching, the story telling coach, transformational coaching, the GROW model etc. Among these models nothing is as useful as the GROW model. The GROW model was developed in the U.K and used extensively in coaching during the late 1980s and 1990s. The GROW Model enables you to break down an issue into its constituent parts.
It is one of the best known and widely used models. The reason for its popularity is that it provides a simple but powerful framework for navigating a route through a coaching session. It also provides a means of finding your way when you are lost. Lots of coaches have used it and it is described in number of life coaching manuals and books. GROW stands for Goal, current Reality, Options and Will. These are the four elements of a coaching session. The GROW model can be applied to individual sessions, group sessions, a part of a session or to series of sessions. Whatever type of session you apply it to the principle remains the same. This is how it works.
Any life coach knows that a goal is necessary for a person to work for. Similarly, each session must have a goal or an outcome to be reached or achieved. Make this goal as specific as possible. It should be such that it should be easy for a person to make out whether the goal has been achieved or not. Once the goal is identified, you can ask questions like “How will you know that you have achieved the goal?”
Setting the goal is good but how can you set a goal without being aware of your current reality. It is important to know where you are going but it is equally important to know where you are right now. You have to know your starting point to reach your finishing point. This is a key part of any life coaching session. By clearly seeing the situation you are in you can make the resolving of the issues that much easier.
Now you know your starting point (current reality) and your finishing point (goal), you have to next know how to get from the starting point to the finishing point. So, you have to explore the options to get from the starting point to finishing point. Using the GROW model is like using the map. Once you know where you are going and from where you are going then you can explore the possible routes. Then, you can decide which is the best possible route (option) to reach the goal.
But, knowing the starting point (current reality), finishing point (goal), and route (options) is not enough to make the journey. You should have the means to make the journey. How can you do it? By having the will to make the journey. If there is a will there is a way. So, if you have the will you can start from your current reality and reach your goal through the best option possible.
Having described the GROW model, it would seem as if it is a sequential process. But in reality it is not so. In practice each process has to be revisited a number of times before the final outcome. The best thing about this model is that it is easily understood, straightforward to apply and very thorough. In addition, once you have an understanding of how it works, it is possible to apply it to an amazing variety of issues in a very effective way. The GROW model will stop you struggling, or making so many mistakes. It will help you recoup quickly should you fall.
GROW can get you going again when you pause. With GROW you can create a support framework to motivate you and encourage you. GROW can make success easier, faster and more fun than you think possible.
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About the Author: Sean McPheat provides life coaching and training for people all around the globe. He is the owner of the Life Coaching Studio and he designs and delivers life coach, programmers and mentoring across the UK, Europe, US and the Middle East.
It is one of the best known and widely used models. The reason for its popularity is that it provides a simple but powerful framework for navigating a route through a coaching session. It also provides a means of finding your way when you are lost. Lots of coaches have used it and it is described in number of life coaching manuals and books. GROW stands for Goal, current Reality, Options and Will. These are the four elements of a coaching session. The GROW model can be applied to individual sessions, group sessions, a part of a session or to series of sessions. Whatever type of session you apply it to the principle remains the same. This is how it works.
Any life coach knows that a goal is necessary for a person to work for. Similarly, each session must have a goal or an outcome to be reached or achieved. Make this goal as specific as possible. It should be such that it should be easy for a person to make out whether the goal has been achieved or not. Once the goal is identified, you can ask questions like “How will you know that you have achieved the goal?”
Setting the goal is good but how can you set a goal without being aware of your current reality. It is important to know where you are going but it is equally important to know where you are right now. You have to know your starting point to reach your finishing point. This is a key part of any life coaching session. By clearly seeing the situation you are in you can make the resolving of the issues that much easier.
Now you know your starting point (current reality) and your finishing point (goal), you have to next know how to get from the starting point to the finishing point. So, you have to explore the options to get from the starting point to finishing point. Using the GROW model is like using the map. Once you know where you are going and from where you are going then you can explore the possible routes. Then, you can decide which is the best possible route (option) to reach the goal.
But, knowing the starting point (current reality), finishing point (goal), and route (options) is not enough to make the journey. You should have the means to make the journey. How can you do it? By having the will to make the journey. If there is a will there is a way. So, if you have the will you can start from your current reality and reach your goal through the best option possible.
Having described the GROW model, it would seem as if it is a sequential process. But in reality it is not so. In practice each process has to be revisited a number of times before the final outcome. The best thing about this model is that it is easily understood, straightforward to apply and very thorough. In addition, once you have an understanding of how it works, it is possible to apply it to an amazing variety of issues in a very effective way. The GROW model will stop you struggling, or making so many mistakes. It will help you recoup quickly should you fall.
GROW can get you going again when you pause. With GROW you can create a support framework to motivate you and encourage you. GROW can make success easier, faster and more fun than you think possible.
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About the Author: Sean McPheat provides life coaching and training for people all around the globe. He is the owner of the Life Coaching Studio and he designs and delivers life coach, programmers and mentoring across the UK, Europe, US and the Middle East.
Christian Life Coaching - Rid Yourself of Apologies that Keeping You Back!
I apologize rolls off the tongue so quickly. One can say it without even working at it. Often it is done to get the confrontation over with. Sometimes, it is a way to make a half-hearted effort toward reconciliation. "I am sorry" is never mentioned in the Scriptures. In fact, it should be avoided because it masksa real and authentic interaction.
We have been ingrained with the words, "I'm sorry." There are a couple of things wrong with just saying sorry.
1. It is a humanistic, inadequate imitation for the real thing. It is man's alternative for God's provision. 2. It brings along from the other person a deficient acknowledgement.
If we look deeper, God's stipulation for alienated relationship is forgiveness. As long as the Christian can say the words, "I'm sorry" (or words to that effect) instead of "I sinned, please forgive me" they are able to minimize the action. They have not wholly confessed before the Lord and to the affronted party. The profound healing and authentic solutions that could have occurred through forgiveness has been set aside. An apology is nothing more than an articulation of your own feelings. To confess to the other person what you did that was a sin and ask to be forgiven is wholly another matter.
The other side of the problem is that the one offended or hurt will have the typical response of "Oh, that's ok." Again because we are programmedto understand that as the proper (read: Christian) thing to do. But when a person says, "Will you forgive me?" A whole new brand of interpersonal relationship is required. There has been a change in responsibility. Both parties are now required to put the offense behind them.
This method of confession and forgiveness is an interaction that has obligations for both parties. The confessor is consenting to his sin and saying what the wrongs details are. This involves repenting (a heart condition) and confession (an outward action). He is also requesting for grace and mercy (forgiveness) from the one whom he has wronged. But, an apology comes from sadness often about the fallout of the sin, not what it does to the injured party. To tell the other person that you have wronged them and God, demonstrates that you are take it very seriously.
Forgiveness carries with it a pardon for the sin. A comment like, "Awww, it's ok" or "Hey, don't worry about it" minimizes the sin. A right biblical response would be "Yes, I understand and I forgive you." That kind of forgiveness gives the promise that the matter won't be brought up again. It won't be discussed with others, and it won't be allowed to dwell in the forgivers mind. Forgiveness asks for a guarantee and receives one. Forgiveness leads to removing the offense. It is a covenant toward a new and richer relationship. An apology can't measure up to the Biblical model for rebuilding a relationship.
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About the Author: As an experienced life coach and Biblical counselor Michael Young has coached people to success in their business and relationships. Do you want to see what Christian life is Christian living means? Click here Christian Life Coaching Life Coaching - Complimentary Session Click here Life Coaching Session
We have been ingrained with the words, "I'm sorry." There are a couple of things wrong with just saying sorry.
1. It is a humanistic, inadequate imitation for the real thing. It is man's alternative for God's provision. 2. It brings along from the other person a deficient acknowledgement.
If we look deeper, God's stipulation for alienated relationship is forgiveness. As long as the Christian can say the words, "I'm sorry" (or words to that effect) instead of "I sinned, please forgive me" they are able to minimize the action. They have not wholly confessed before the Lord and to the affronted party. The profound healing and authentic solutions that could have occurred through forgiveness has been set aside. An apology is nothing more than an articulation of your own feelings. To confess to the other person what you did that was a sin and ask to be forgiven is wholly another matter.
The other side of the problem is that the one offended or hurt will have the typical response of "Oh, that's ok." Again because we are programmedto understand that as the proper (read: Christian) thing to do. But when a person says, "Will you forgive me?" A whole new brand of interpersonal relationship is required. There has been a change in responsibility. Both parties are now required to put the offense behind them.
This method of confession and forgiveness is an interaction that has obligations for both parties. The confessor is consenting to his sin and saying what the wrongs details are. This involves repenting (a heart condition) and confession (an outward action). He is also requesting for grace and mercy (forgiveness) from the one whom he has wronged. But, an apology comes from sadness often about the fallout of the sin, not what it does to the injured party. To tell the other person that you have wronged them and God, demonstrates that you are take it very seriously.
Forgiveness carries with it a pardon for the sin. A comment like, "Awww, it's ok" or "Hey, don't worry about it" minimizes the sin. A right biblical response would be "Yes, I understand and I forgive you." That kind of forgiveness gives the promise that the matter won't be brought up again. It won't be discussed with others, and it won't be allowed to dwell in the forgivers mind. Forgiveness asks for a guarantee and receives one. Forgiveness leads to removing the offense. It is a covenant toward a new and richer relationship. An apology can't measure up to the Biblical model for rebuilding a relationship.
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About the Author: As an experienced life coach and Biblical counselor Michael Young has coached people to success in their business and relationships. Do you want to see what Christian life is Christian living means? Click here Christian Life Coaching Life Coaching - Complimentary Session Click here Life Coaching Session
What's the difference between Coaching and Therapy?
Is there any difference between Coaching and Therapy? It is often a doubt that most of us have. Many of us may have attended life coaching or undergone life coaching training without knowing the difference between therapy and coaching. Some of us might even wonder whether there is any difference at all. Well, there are differences, even if they seem to serve the purpose. It is only to us uninformed that it seems to serve the same purpose actually they are two different things meant for different purposes.
Therapy is primarily meant for looking back to establish the route cause of problems. Coaching on the other hand is meant for personal evolution. A therapist focuses on helping clients overcome past problems. These problems are so disruptive that they seem to get in the way of functioning normally. These problems are generally caused by some incidents in the past. Therapists work with the client to resolve these problems by talking about the events in the past. A life coach on the other hand sets goal for the client and generally helps him move forward. He or she helps you in designing your life the way you want it to be. The life coach plays a supporting role and helps you in reaching your goal. These goals can be career oriented, business oriented or any other goal. They can be even goals for health.
A therapist is a qualified person i.e. a therapist requires a certificate to practice. They have to undergo intensive theoretical and practical sessions before they can venture out on their own. A life coach need not have any educational qualifications but there are certification programs available for them as well. It is just that it is not yet required by law for them to do so. A therapist and the client have to reside in the same place whereas for a life coach the client need not be in the same geographical location. The internet makes it easier for the life coach to stay connected with the client.
A relationship between a therapist and the customer is almost like the traditional doctor – patient relationship. The therapy sessions are held at a measured pace. It can take months and even years sometimes for a person to be completely healed. This is not the problem of therapy but the necessity of therapy. The life coach on the other hand is more like a mentor. Life coaching courses are held at a rapid pace. They usually stick to a schedule. Again this is necessary for coaching as it is a forward looking occupation.
The discussions between a client and a therapist are usually one sided. In fact, it is even wrong to say that they discuss, it is more like the client speaks and the therapist listens. It is a monologue with the client speaking. Communication is a two way business for life coaching. It works on discussions. The more the client opens, the better way the life coach can help the client.
A client goes to a therapist because he has unresolved issues. He may want to solve his problems with the help of the therapist. Sometimes, the client meets the therapist not because he or she wants to but due to pressure from family, peers or friends. This is why therapy sessions can hurt a client emotionally. This is necessary for the healing process to take place. In essence the process of therapy is all about resolving your past. It is all about letting the past go. It nurtures and strengthens a person’s life. A client goes for life coaching because he wants to go or his company sends him. This is done so as to plan for a better future. It creates more excitement than fear in the customer. A better future is not something to be afraid of. It is all about creating a future. This is a catalyst for change; change for the better.
The functions of therapy and coaching might seem to overlap but in actuality they are different pursuits. Sometimes therapists also work as coaches which might be the reason why people tend to confuse the two. They are not. They are definitely different in their own way.
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About the Author: Sean McPheat provides life coaching and training for people all around the globe. He is the owner of the Life Coaching Studio and he designs and delivers life coach, programmes and mentoring across the UK, Europe, US and the Middle East
Therapy is primarily meant for looking back to establish the route cause of problems. Coaching on the other hand is meant for personal evolution. A therapist focuses on helping clients overcome past problems. These problems are so disruptive that they seem to get in the way of functioning normally. These problems are generally caused by some incidents in the past. Therapists work with the client to resolve these problems by talking about the events in the past. A life coach on the other hand sets goal for the client and generally helps him move forward. He or she helps you in designing your life the way you want it to be. The life coach plays a supporting role and helps you in reaching your goal. These goals can be career oriented, business oriented or any other goal. They can be even goals for health.
A therapist is a qualified person i.e. a therapist requires a certificate to practice. They have to undergo intensive theoretical and practical sessions before they can venture out on their own. A life coach need not have any educational qualifications but there are certification programs available for them as well. It is just that it is not yet required by law for them to do so. A therapist and the client have to reside in the same place whereas for a life coach the client need not be in the same geographical location. The internet makes it easier for the life coach to stay connected with the client.
A relationship between a therapist and the customer is almost like the traditional doctor – patient relationship. The therapy sessions are held at a measured pace. It can take months and even years sometimes for a person to be completely healed. This is not the problem of therapy but the necessity of therapy. The life coach on the other hand is more like a mentor. Life coaching courses are held at a rapid pace. They usually stick to a schedule. Again this is necessary for coaching as it is a forward looking occupation.
The discussions between a client and a therapist are usually one sided. In fact, it is even wrong to say that they discuss, it is more like the client speaks and the therapist listens. It is a monologue with the client speaking. Communication is a two way business for life coaching. It works on discussions. The more the client opens, the better way the life coach can help the client.
A client goes to a therapist because he has unresolved issues. He may want to solve his problems with the help of the therapist. Sometimes, the client meets the therapist not because he or she wants to but due to pressure from family, peers or friends. This is why therapy sessions can hurt a client emotionally. This is necessary for the healing process to take place. In essence the process of therapy is all about resolving your past. It is all about letting the past go. It nurtures and strengthens a person’s life. A client goes for life coaching because he wants to go or his company sends him. This is done so as to plan for a better future. It creates more excitement than fear in the customer. A better future is not something to be afraid of. It is all about creating a future. This is a catalyst for change; change for the better.
The functions of therapy and coaching might seem to overlap but in actuality they are different pursuits. Sometimes therapists also work as coaches which might be the reason why people tend to confuse the two. They are not. They are definitely different in their own way.
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About the Author: Sean McPheat provides life coaching and training for people all around the globe. He is the owner of the Life Coaching Studio and he designs and delivers life coach, programmes and mentoring across the UK, Europe, US and the Middle East
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